Recently started seeing someone, we get on really well although there is a significant age gap, I'm in my late twenties, he's barely 21... What do you think?
2006-06-21 23:28:47 · 40 answers · asked by Delle C. 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
See it's all in the mind, there is no clear guideline because you cannot generalise the situation, it all depends on how mature you are and your partner are. Moreover in my opinion it doesn't matter whether he is older or not.
See men never mature or bother growing up so and it is scientifically proven women live longer so there you have it! younger guy = longer companionship!! Enjoy your relationship dear.
2006-06-21 23:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by Gayathri B 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally it was that the woman's age should be half the man's age plus seven years. Example: if he's 35, she should be 24.
But nowadays, its whatever works for the couple. The only reasons great differences in age should be viewed with caution are:
A) Their life experiences are probably greatly different as change is so rapid these days.
B) Their physical capacities might be very different as well and not just in the bedroom.
Yet even these are no longer considered insurmountable. I would say about your case, however, he'd jolly well better be a MATURE 21, or he's gonna drive you up the wall. Males that age are rarely ready to settle down and get on with their lives. They're still rather juvenile about it all.
Good luck anyway!
2006-06-22 00:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by Granny Annie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you get on really well, then it doesn't really matter about the age group! But bear in mind, if you do end up going long term with this guy, then there is going to be some problems.
* You wanting children and him not feeling ready/old enough
* You having several years of maturity and knowledge that he doesn't. This may get on your nerves when trying to discuss serious matters
* You mothering him! You may not be the type to do this, but he may feel you do it!
Good points -
* Good father! As he's younger than you he will be more connected to the current generation and it's ways (kids like this).
* You have a few years more experience in the bedroom *roar*
* You can help him with matters that you've already had experience in
I hope the above hasn't frightened you off him! I just assumed you asked the question because you were thinking about a long term future with this guy (short term, age doesn't matter!).
Good luck!
2006-06-21 23:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by alicedaydreamer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here you should come to know about some thing
this is some thing related to pscycology also
a 20 yrs female can think equal to 22 yrs of a male
and more over at the age 21 every one needs a sought of warmth from females which we can get from elder female(as iam male iam talking from my side) his way of thinking also makes a lot of difference assume yourself if he is at a 25 yrs if his mind matures then if he is about to quit then he having gaol in his hand because he will be still young and more over at that age u need a shoulder to rely.
Apart from all these sorry to say if you are looking for a temporary relation the above things would not be applicable.
Think twice before you put a step
2006-06-21 23:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by vankayalarakesh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say somewhere in between what is LEGAL for where you live and death.
Sorry for sounding HARSH... what I mean is that if the age difference isn't illegal, then anything else would be permissible. Although, the GREATER the difference in age would often mean a greater difference of what would interest BOTH individuals.
Also, if there is a great age discrepancy, what is the motivating factor of hooking up in the first place?
As for comparing what is LEGAL from what is PRUDENT is matter of personal choice versus any obstacle.
2006-06-21 23:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by dustytymes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say age is not that big a thing nowadays, some people are in relation ships with an age gap of up to 30 years, and they're happy.
2006-06-21 23:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by Eddy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 40 my boyfriend is 64, we were best friends for ten years , lots of flirting along theway. He was the man I cried to over my abusive hsuand (all three lawyers, what a mess). at first he was reluctant b/c of the age difference, he was afraid I wouldn't love him in ten more years. But the conection is there. Age is irelevant if you connect , if you re compatable and you really enjoy spending time together and make each other laugh. I do think it matters less the older you get
2006-06-22 09:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by dreamwhip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fine. I am 30 yrs old, and my husband just turned 26. He is very mature for his age, so much so that if I had known him when he was 21 and I was 25 then I would have still talked to him. If you are truly happy with him, and he is fun to be around, then who cares? Oh, and for those who say that older men are better choices, yeah right. My ex-fiance was 11 yrs older than me, and he treated me as though I was nothing. Cheated all over town on me, and when was confronted about it, told me that I was to young to be asking grown woman questions. Anyway, he is of legal age, so don't listen to any negativity. Good luck.
2006-06-21 23:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by candy0813 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS NOT That big of a difference! Get over it and love the person, not the age. Also, if you want to be agist, then a good example of a gap would be: 21 and 50. Ok.
And what "john's brat" said (look bellow).
2006-06-21 23:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by Am 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Between 18 and 80
2006-06-21 23:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋