Are some men tearng this world apart?

Question

Well again not trying to be sexist,but don't you see everday on the news men abousing,raping,malesting,and murdering women and childern.Now im not saying women dont do evil shity things too.Trust me they do!But it seems like the majority of men are doing this stuff to America.Now don't get me wrong,iv'e heard of women abousing there childern but it's rare and iv'e heard of women abousing their husbands,and again it's rare.It seems though everday men are doing all kinds of things that are tearing America apart and most women has put most of this country together.But im a man and I was raised by men and they personally told me that if there were no women we'd all be cavemen.so it sounds as if most men are makeing it a world for themselves, but if they turn against us then they're gone.So I don't want you to think im sexist but hear me out,Do you think thats whats happening to America?

Answer 1

Well, it's hard to think you're not sexist just because you say "I'm not sexist", when the rest of your statements very much come across that way.

It's like saying "I'm not a racist, but aren't n*ggers responsible for everything bad that happens?"

As for the reality of the situation, just because you HEAR one side of it doesn't mean that's the only side of it there is.

For instance, child abuse. You HEAR about males abusing children all the time. Who actually abuses children more often? Women do. I'm not making that up. It's been so thoroughly researched Sociologists don't even bother to document the statement any more. It's just a fact of life. The vast majority of child abuse is inflicted by women, and disproportionately so even when you take into account the increased amount of time they spend with children.

As for domestic violence, the New York Department of Justice, in the 1990s, did a very interesting study on domestic violence, where they decided to scrap the notion that this was a problem of men beating up women and children, and simply ask anonymously about who was the most physically abusive... and they only asked women about the situation.

They were very surprised to discover that the majority of women reported they were much more likely to physically abuse their male partners than their male partners were to abuse them.

Likewise, when you look at the subject of "rape", or forced sexual contact, I will refer you to a study done by a University of Kansas professor named Dr. Sherie Muehlenhard (my apologies if I misspelled the name). Dr. Muehlenhard was a staunch feminist who set out, at the beginning of her study, to simply reinforce the feminist notion that males are aggressive and predatory.

However, being also a very staunch scientist, she conducted her research on both males and females and discovered something VERY shocking... that when you exclude simply kissing when you don't want to, males reported being forced into sexual activity much more often than females, and reported being violently raped three times more often than females did once their anonymity was assured.

We don't even acknowledge that males can be raped. Everyone thinks if a male gets an erection, it's obviously because he wants it, even though medical science (and any boy praying he died before he had to get up and read a report in front of the class because he had a stiffy and it wasn't listening to his mental pleading that it please, please, PLEASE just go away!) proved that completely untrue decades ago.

Hell, in a lot of states, it's not illegal for a female to rape a male... and if he CAN convince someone to prosecute a female for assaulting him sexually, regardless of the severity of the act, it's usually classified as a lesser form of sexual assualt than "rape" is, and she is punished much less severely as a result of it, no matter how vile or damaging the act.

To give you a good example, I knew a man who was very shy, and who was saving himself for marriage. He was at a party, and three females convinced him to start drinking, which should have been fine, except they made sure to drug one of his drinks. When he was unconscious, they tied him to a bed, and despite him screaming for them to please stop, one of the women had sex with him until he ejaculated (again, entirely possible to do that without wanting to... the reaction is controlled in your upper spinal column and is a reflex response to tactile stimulation your brain has NO CONTROL OVER... if you don't believe me, find a rape counselor and ask them how often they have to work with females who had an orgasm while being raped). The second one did the same thing. The third one tried and his body simply wouldn't respond, so she inserted a thermometer in his urethra, which kept his penis hard while she enjoyed herself. He never ejaculated the third time, and after she was done his penis remained erect... because the thermometer shattered inside it. He had to have major reconstructive surgery, and do you know what happened legally?

The police told him it was his own fault and that he should have been enough of a man to stop them if he didn't really want to do it. The district attorney told him he shouldn't be angry because his night of wild sex turned out rotten and that it was his own fault, not the women's. The women who did it to him were never even arrested. They weren't held responsible for violating him. They weren't held responsible for the massive psychological damage they had done. They weren't held responsible for the massive physical damage they had done. He was blamed for it because he was a man.

Do you see massive campaigning to change that since we know it doesn't reflect the reality of the situation, or provide males with more protection from predation by females we know they can aptly accomplish?

What about "domestic abuse" campaigns? Who are they aimed at helping? Look at the shelters for victims of domestic abuse. You can find them in virtually every town who will take women and children abused by a husband... but what about a husband who needs to take his children and find safety from an abusive wife? Check with most of them. You'll discover that if a man shows up in the dead of night bruised and bleeding with crying children in his arms, they will leave him in the gutter rather than take him in, not because he doesn't have a legitimate need... they just don't think it's their problem. Apparently if you don't have a pussy you're just a pussy when life turns out this way for you.

We just don't HEAR about that, and honestly I think we don't because it's unpopular to think women might be just as responsible for the evils of society as men are since we are dealing with residual attitudes of women trying to secure their independence and still feel a bit... "tender"... about suggesting they may not be the angels they needed to appear as in order to gain their rights.

Males are under an EXTREME amount of social pressure not to experience these problems or complain of them, and they're usually afforded no quarter for needing help with them, so even though men comprise nearly three quarters of the murder victims, two thirds of assault and burglary victims, and what little research has been done on the subject of sexual abuse and domestic research suggests they are suffering at least as much as females are, if not more, when it comes to sexual assault... who do you hear about being hurt?

It isn't rare that men are hurt by women. It's rare that we're willing to listen to men and think they have a valid complaint for wanting to escape the same abuse we are so insistent women should never be subjected to.

There are two sides to the story, and the reason it seems so one-sided these days is just because only one side is usually told. We shouldn't take that to mean the other side doesn't exist, though.

All humans have equal ability to be loving and tender, or hateful and destructive. Maybe if we remembered that and paid more attention to the actions themselves and less attention to the sex of the people committing them, we would find the problems much easier to understand and solve.

In your personal life, it might do well to remember that men are expected to be virtually flawless creatures simply to be minimally considered men in ways women feel entitled to be regarded and respected as women simply because they are... and that in this day and age they are expected to be able on all fronts, virtuous at all times, sensitive to all needs, generous to all needs, and stronger than any adversity... and they are expected to do that all while laughing off just how often women insult and make jokes about them being unthinking, uncaring, incompetent, and violent brutes.

And you might ultimately remember society is usually much harsher on males for their transgressions, and that we are long used to trying to do away with problems that afflict women and do away with men who are afflicted with problems.

If you're faced with a man who is doing his best to fulfill all those things, you might cut him a little slack for trying to be the best person he can, and remember he's only human when he doesn't quite get over the bar.

Of course, that's just my opinion, and mine has never been the popular one....


Addendum: My apologies, eva, for not answering your email to me privately. Yahoo, however, will not allow me to do so because it says "your email address has not been confirmed".

That said, though, about your concerns...

Ummm... you DO understand I didn't make my remarks about racism to impugn black people, but only to provide a different type of example to demonstrate back to you why it might appear to others as if you're being sexist despite you saying you're not?

I have absolutely nothing against black people. It was just the most obvious example in American society since it has become the iconic example of prejudice here.

For the record, though, I don't really have anything against white people, either, and if anyone has a reason to not like white people in America, it's a Native American.

I have to bear in mind those I meet every day aren't the totality of the sins or virtues of whatever group I choose to lump them into. They're just people...

And, ultimately, people aren't the minor characteristics we define them with first and foremost, even if we're fond of thinking they are.

They aren't "men" or "women", or "white" or "black" or "Indian", or "young" or "old", or any of the thousand other labels we like to use to suggest what they have to be instead of really learn who they are... they're human, and we should look at each and every one of them for the totality of who they are and what they do, and not just as the labels we can so easily slap on them.

Failing to do so makes us perpetrators of the same prejudice and bigotry we so loudly decry in others.

Answer 2

Ok, I'm sorry Riki, but nothing would be make me go near Bret Michaels with a ten foot barge pole. He looks like a 50 year old female bodybuilder! Blech! Just, eww. I like actual men - this whole question is a lie!!!! XD Also, I seem to be the only person who doesn't know what this 'Rock of Love' is, so I'll have to look it up. I can imagine however... Hahaha

Answer 3

i would agree with you. many men nowadays are really, how do i put it 'dangerous' to women and to children. they actually sometimes think they rule the world and go around fighting and arguing in different places.

one of the most dangerous men would do is when they get home after drinking, open the fridge look inside if there's any food. but if there isn't, 'oh boy' they would turn angry at their wife.
they would have arguments, fighting and lots of noises and crying of the children seeing the father beat and hit the mother so hard.

i'm not saying that this is bad but there is no problem if the wife comfort the husband, do what is exactly what the husband want and i hope there wuold be peace in the house.
that is what happening around the pacific.

so for your information i would agree with you.

Answer 4

America is imploding on itself. But you know, it is happening all over the world. Morals and ethics are frowned upon by most in todays society. If you said this to people they would deny this but look at their actions. It tells a different story. It actually makes one wonder what the heck went wrong

Answer 5

wow...AMERICA is not the freaking world for one and secondly you are sexist otherwise you wouldn't have said that ur not trying to be...wisen up!!!

Answer 6

They always have tried to.

Answer 7

would you vote for a woman? I would PMS and all.

Answer 8

for your information, america is not the world. retard