he promised me that will never happend again...
2006-06-21 22:21:21 · 26 answers · asked by yellow_tulip28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i will tell you that if you stay- it will happen again, and again until he either puts you in a hospital or he kills you. i would get out now while the getting is good.
2006-06-21 22:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by tiggerkitty3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should not! How long ago did he beat you???? All the wife beaters and batterers swear they will change and never do it again but that is a lie usually and they do it again and again and again and it usually gets worse..... His promise to never do it to you again is probably an empty one.... You need to leave NOW and get out and get help and he needs to get help for his anger and for beating you. You should have called the cops when he did this and had him arrested. Stay away from him until he can prove to you that he has changed and also you can talk to whoever he has talked with and they can verify that he has been to them for help for at least 6 months. If not and if he does not and is not willing to get help then never go back to him!!!! He never should of ever beat or laid a finger on you to begin with. Call Doctor Phil and ask him about this or even Maury Povitch at http://www.mauryshow.com and ask this there and see what they say to you. You should also call your local battered womens shelter and go there for help.
2006-06-22 03:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't get counceling, he WILL do it again and when you least expect it. Physical abuse is the same as cheating in my opinion. People say "once a cheater, always a cheater". Well, once an abuser, always an abuser.
My last relationship was like this and I should have left the first time. It ended up happening 5 more times before I left and took me a very long time to heal.
You are worth more than that, and surely there is a guy out there that will love you for who you are, rather than what he wants to make you into.
Good luck.
2006-06-21 23:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by cabbiegrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the reason being that I would not be able to let go of the that incident, the memory will always be with me. I would not be able to sleep and make love to this man, knowing that he was capable of hurting me.... The fact that I would be holding to the past, would not allow me to deal with the present and therefore being not being a future.... Also, I would live with fear, thinking that I would have to watch my every move, to not in any way have him lose his temper and hurt me again... I cannot live with someone I fear?? As painful as it might be., I would simply end things and I would not do it alone... I would pack my things and well speak to him over the phone., if he was capable of laying his hands on you, then you can do it again.. The fact that he "says" that he will never do it again, is not a guarantee, YOU already know that he is capable of doing it.. If someone killed for the first time and promises not to kill again, you already know that even though he does not want to kill again, well, that he is capable of doing it... I believe that the respect is gone in your relationship, could you really say that you give your body and soul to this man in your intimacy and you did not have memories of the pain that he caused you, the bruises, and now, you are making love??? I honestly do not think that is possible...
2006-06-21 22:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you stay or go it is really up to you. May I make a suggestion though? There is this play by Tyler Perry called "Madea's Class Reunion"--If you have not already seen it, please do, there are a lot of helpful info for any woman (no matter what race) who is in an abusive relatoionship.
And not only that, you will get a good laugh out of it from the rest of the story line. Be strong, and you are in my prayers.
2006-06-22 00:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by ladysea8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him. Are you sure he will never beat you again? Raising his hand on a woman is not a manly thing to do! but do you want to give him another chance. I do not know how things are between you and him and if your willing to give him another chance. If you love him than i guess you may just give him another chance only one last one.
If he ever raises his hands on you again you better leave. Because for once he did not keep his promise that he made you.
2006-06-21 22:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are if he is habitaully violent,he will repeat his actions,repent it later.Promising things when the rage is gone is normal,but hardly probable that he would keep his promise.
You shld develop a habit,now,that u know his temper,never to give rise to any situation which would trigger violence in him.Ending marriage is not the solution if other things are compatible and when he loves u.
2006-06-21 22:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from a guy here. no matter how angry or mad i get at my wife, i could never hit her... i literally will beat myself up or leave or scream but theres a hard line where i wont hit her..
even when she punches or smacks me - im a man, i can handle that.
any guy who hits a woman has issues, and you need to think of the reasons these things happened. just remember you dont deserve the same treatment as a barfight. we have vocabulary to discuss our feelings.
any man who hits his woman does not respect her. no matter what the reasons.
dont get me wrong sometimes i get the urge to kick her in the crotch or somehthing but its real temporary and im concious of my feelings. and i keep cool.
And out of curiosity why dont more guys respond to these type questions
2006-06-21 22:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by phur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of he has an anger management problem enough to actually beat you once, you can be positive that it WILL happen again. He needs anger management therapy and/or anger support or there will be a next time. Please don't let yourself be sucked into such a horrible thing! You don't deserve it!
2006-06-22 07:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER STAY WITH AN ABUSIVE HUSBAND. They all say that till the next time. Don't give him an opportunity to do it again, get out.
2006-06-22 01:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by brighteyes62301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some things are simply deal breakers.... this is one of them.
Please keep in the back of your mind that the reason you are going to want to go back to him is that when someone we love physically hurts us we want to know what we did wrong..... and we want to make it right again.
Just like a child that is smacked that wants the forgiveness of a parent.
You are not a child, no one has the right to smack you and if you don't get out of this now you are basically excusing his behaviour.
I don't even know you but i know you are worth more than that.
2006-06-21 22:30:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋