Who here finds it difficult to cope with their childhood?

Question

I know its a sensitive issue, but who finds it hard to deal with things that happended years ago? I dont need details or anything, i am just wondering how people have got over things. I hope you get what i mean. and if you dont get what i mean, you are propably very lucky.

Answer 1

I understand exactly what you mean. I think we've all had issues in our childhood years that we'd like to forget sometimes. Still, what I think always helped me to move beyond those bad times was making the conscious choice and effort to always look forward while remembering the good times. I really believe it's true that out of every bad situation can be found a good opportunity. Example ... you have a best friend who you're so close with they could be a sibling almost but yet your ability to relate to others in their family isn't at all the same as with your friend. Then, a terrible tragedy takes place and your best friend is taken from you in an accident and now the only connection you have left is through his remaining family. During the grieving process if you forget that this isn't about you but about your friends family you soon find yourself closer to them than was ever possible before you lost your best friend. Not just one person, but several, and these become relationships with a special bond that can last a lifetime which would otherwise have never matured this way had it not been for that 'bad' thing happening. See my point? This could be applied to so many situations in life and so for me, that's the way I always dealt with those bad times by remaining optomistic and hopeful for better times in the future.

Answer 2

My brother and I were physically abused while growing up and as a teenager I was often physically abusive to my younger step-siblings, then when I reached 18, a light bulb went off and I swore I would never lay a hand on them again..and I didn't. Now that I've got two children of my own, they test me and frustrate me, and I've lost it a few times but no matter what, I'll never be as bad as my mother and husbands were to us. I am very proactive in trying to minimize the kind of trouble the kids can cause ie: I don't just give them instructions and walk away, I supervise them and help them if they need it. Try to imagine if you were a supervisor of people at work. Would you yell and beat your employees? Think of what would work best with the employees, and then use those technics with the kids, remembering they have an incredibly short attention span. I wish you the best of luck (and serenity).

Answer 3

I get what you mean. It's a difficult time. But what I did was just relax. I thought over things a lot and thought before I spoke or did anything.
Got over things? A grudge? Well I hold those pretty tight. But I tell myself, you still like her as a friend. Forgive and forget. That;s what God does for us.

Answer 4

I never have gotten over it. My mother gave me away to the state to keep "HIM", it is something that will always, everyday be in your life. Although..., it can be very hard when it comes to relationships because a-lot of things remind you of it. You are a survivor sweetie. Not a victim! Otherwise... you would not be alive and asking this question. Pray a-lot (no, I am not a religious fanatic)

Answer 5

i find it very difficult to cope with my childhood.because so many bad things happen.

Answer 6

My memories of my childhood are happy ones!

Answer 7

well we had a huge fight a week ago and since then silence seemed to resolve it

Answer 8

I do