my soon to be ex wife wants to stay friends so that i wont miss out on my daughters life but she is living with the guy that got her pregnant and sold my house and car while im still in iraq
2006-06-21 20:43:21 · 9 answers · asked by twistedlifesmysteries 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you just answered my question "what is husband greatest wish from his wife" thats a good answer...really sorry for u...my hubby will be coming back from Arab 2morrow...after one month working there, one thing for sure, your ex does not appreciate you at all! I miss my hubby so much...even after 3 kids, our love is getting stronger by the day...so I'm very sure you will find someone who deserves your love...u seemed to be a good man, just be true to yourself, don't do the same like your ex..to your new partner!
2006-06-22 22:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by fifie girl 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is the best way to be.... Choose to stay friends no matter what and it will make things way better for both of you and your daughter as well. Do not hate your wife for her choice and let her go.... You need to get help and counseling for this and start to get past the pain and go on with your life. I am so sorry she has done this to you and i hope you can see your daughter soon. You also need to wait until the divorce is final and start to slowly date again over time. I wish you the best.
2006-06-22 10:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I can only give you one piece of advice it would be to cherish your relationship with your little girl. Look past the pain of your exwifes choices and see your daughters face. Friends is stretching what you have to do with your exwife but you do have to have an open dialog as you are still dad and nothing can change that. A house and a car can and will be replaced I am sure and you can even have another child BUT not that one. If you love your little girl and you want it to stay that way then you have to be the grown up here and show her that your love is unconditional. I wish you all the best....I also feel your pain oh ya thanks for putting your life on the line for us all.....
2006-06-22 04:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by status quo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its better to let it go than stay friends sometimes when people who get separated what to stay friends it hard... just bringing the past back to live that's all and don't you want to forget the past so you have just concentrate on your future etc... so just say no thanks to her in a nice way and as for your daughter be there for her that does not mean that you have to be your wife's friend to be there she is half yours so there is nothing she can do to stop you from seeing her... wish her good luck with this new guy and try to forget about it.... this is one of the least things you need in your mind especially if your in Iraq... you need less tension and stress... concentrate more on getting home in one piece from there!
Take care!
2006-06-22 03:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems you harbor some resentments maybe you two don't need to be friends just remain cordial for the sake of the kid. I understand you feel betrayed but don't allow your child to see it or she will feel it just continue to remain approachable by the ex only on the grounds of the child let you child see the peace and the child will have a chance to grow up happy, the materialistic stuff you can get back so don't blow a gasket the welfare of your baby should come first. I'm saying forgive but don't forget!
2006-06-22 03:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to be her friend so that you can see your child,you can be civil with her but you dont have to be her friend,i suggest since she has screwed you over this way make sure she is not getting any of you rmoney or benefits,make sure that she has no access to your money or accounts,now with her selling your house and car get legal action for your behalf contact legal representation over the net in your home town speak with them via phone keep contact with hthem over the internet and have them sort it out on you and sue her one thing you should never be afraid of is her not letting you see your daughters get an order in place for that too while your at it so she cant take them away either,
2006-06-22 04:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be her friend!
What you do have to is to act to the best interest for your daughter and for you self. So, you have to be nice to her in some degree, but nothing more than common politeness.
2006-06-22 03:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch....that's gotta hurt. I'm so very sorry to hear you had to go thru this especially while you were overseas defending our country (which we do appreciate, BTW...thank you dear...and I'm sorry you had to lose so much to keep us safe). This just breaks my heart. You don't have to be friends with her...you just need to keep a line of communication open with her so you can see your daughter. She betrayed you, period. You do no have to be friends with someone who hurt you this badly. Give yourself time to heal from a hurt of this magnitude and try to move forward with your life....and please, please keep a good relationship with your daughter...she had nothing to do with this. (((((big hugs))))) I feel so bad for you. Best of luck.
2006-06-22 09:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say hello to eachother when you meet and show your third finger when passed.
2006-06-22 04:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋