I have been dating this older man ,who is older then my father, I love him very much and it is one of the best and happiest relationships I have had. I have never been more happier in my life. I plan on moving in with him and later marry him. I have tried to talk to my parents and family but they dont approve of me and him. I need help and advice What should I do follow my heart or let him go ? I dont want to hurt my family but I dont want to leave him either. I dont know what to do? My dad thinks im to young and need to live my life and date guys my age , but to me his age doesnt bother me . I love him and he makes me very happy. I know it hurts my dad , Im so confused and sad . It makes me sick to be in this situation I honestly dont know what to do? How can I get my dad to like him and be nice to him? How can I get my dad to be happy for me? I dont want to hide anymore I want to beable to have him be part of my family and my dad to be a part of ours.
2006-06-21 20:39:50 · 11 answers · asked by think_20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im 21 years old and he's 43.
2006-06-21 20:51:33 · update #1
At 21 you are still young and will probably change not only yourself but you ideas, values and goals.
The age difference shouldn't make of difference IF you both love each other. You will need to love each other enough to accept the changes. YOU will need him to love you enough to let you grow and change into the woman you will become.
You will need to love HIM enough to accept the changes as he grows older and will also change many of the priorities in his life.
Eventually the family will accept the relationship if you both show your love and support for each other.
2006-06-21 20:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by tavgirl1954 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Follow your heart as you will get married not your parent. Yes, being disobey parent's wish is a sin but bear in mind that you will have your own life with your spouse.
Gap of age is not a big deal as long both of you are in love. My husband is older me 14 years (which he is 41 years and myself 28 years) and my parent has no objection because I'm adult already and should know what is right or wrong.
As long your boyfriend is truly loves you and intend to marry you someday, then he is worth for your trying.
2006-06-21 20:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference isn't a problem right now. This man is so much older and has experienced things that you haven't. You and him may seem ok with it now but if situations arise where you want to do something, he may of already have done it and will discourage you. You're young, why rush into committment and marriage? You're father is right, you need to live your life first.
2006-06-21 20:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number...do what makes you happy. You arent going to be spending the rest of your life with your parents........so if you are going to resent your parents for "making" you leave him, then it isnt worth it....not only are you cheating yourself, but you are cheating the next guy that comes along too. If the age difference doesnt matter to you, it shouldnt matter to anyone else. Do what makes you happy....your parents will come around..
2006-06-21 20:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by lovingarmywife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he love you? Is he a great man? Does he treat you right?
Do you love him?
If you answered yes to all of them, then he is right for you, age has nothing to deal with how much a person loves you and makes you feel good.
2006-06-21 20:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Tarabeara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
age is number,go ahead and marry him if you really love him.if your parents are not happy for you today l assure you with time they will be happy for you.my husband is24yrs older than me.l am 25 and he is 49 we have been married for 2yrs now and will are happy together.older men are100percent more caring than the boys of your age.
2006-06-22 04:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by shela s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love the guy stick with him
you'll just have to get used to everyone thinking that he is some loser taking advantage of you
it's hard on the relationship but your family will have to accept him eventually
2006-06-21 20:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by viking_transplant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry honey, pls give us your AGE so tht it'd be easier for us to advice you. Advice may differ if you're 10 and if you're 30.Please add in your age!
2006-06-21 20:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anisha81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tow are happy with it, thats all that matters. Dont let other people chose who you will be with
2006-06-21 20:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is experienced and can satisfy you easier. this is the reason to love him but think about ten years later when you have to suck it, one hour to wake it, and never satisfied.
2006-06-21 20:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋