I was at the video store and wanted to rent Broke Back Mountain. My husband refused to let me rent it.. I know what it is about, but what is his deal? I have heard a lot of men that refuse to watch this movie. But why then if this movie were about 2 women, then most men would watch it and have no problems?
2006-06-21 20:06:36 · 14 answers · asked by blah blah blah 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
he probably likes fishing too....
2006-06-21 20:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, the first thing i have a problem with there is the "refused to let me rent it" part. you are not his child, you are his wife. if you want to rent it, you can rent it. last i heard, it was a free country. i realize i have an issue with this sort of thing and i am probably making more of it than it is, but just on general principle, i would have rented it BECAUSE he didn't want me to, even if i had no interest in seeing it.
now, i don't know what the movie is about, but from the other answers i gather it's basically a gay love story. if i am wrong, please disregard...
now, most men, for one reason or another are profoundly homophobic. i don't know why, but they just are, however civilized they try to be about it. they tend to see it as some sort of really disgusting contagious corruption that will spread inevitably to their loved ones if they ever let it get close enough. or at least, that's what their reaction often implies.
also, because men tend to see female homosexuality as a huge turn on, and imagine themselves in the picture (or so i'm told), your husband may well assume that it would work the same way for you, in reverse. in other worlds, that you would start fantasizing about "doing it" with two gay men....
2006-06-22 03:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by gwenwifar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beyond the strangeness of your husband and your relationship or at least the way you phrased it [my husband] "refused to let me rent it," I guess we can assume you acquiesed to keep some form of peace in your marriage. So I will answer from my point of view.
I have seen the movie. It is excellent. I think the actors and the director did a superb job of telling the story and capturing the emotions of two people whose love tears them and their families apart. It is an incredibly sad movie. Not about them being gay but because of what they do to their families in having this affair. (Not going to do any spoilers here). I think it deserves the accolades it got. Ang Lee is a genius as a director and has proven it several times.
Now the business of watching lesbians vs. gay guys. Yes, men are very visual in their sexuality. Perhaps tons more than women. Men are always looking. And women with women -- well, it is more women to look at, women doing things that men would like to do to and with women, women then men can say to themselves "well, once they tried me, they would not go back to that gal" and other macho cr@p.
Men from early boyhood are encultured away from even looking at other boy's bodies. The worst insult you can throw at a boy is that he is gay (or words that I will not print here). No matter how natural any of that is, men are taught to look away and certainly not to own to looking at other men. It is a wonder that men can even bear watching men having sex with women in porn videos. They might have to look at another man's butt or manly parts! *shudder*
As a photographer, I have photographed quite a few artistic nude models. So far I have only shot one male model. And you know what? I found it difficult to do at first. Found old conditioning welling up inside while I was taking the shots and posing him. Really nice guy and all, but it was a difficult thing. So yeah, it is there and it is in this culture. I cannot speak for other cultures.
2006-06-24 04:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by NeoArt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The societal taboo against homosexuality is much stronger towards male homosexuality than it is towards female homosexuality. I believe this is largely due to men having controlled the publishing media for centuries and that two women together makes most heterosexual men stimulated.
No-one wants to be rejected by their society. I'm not suggesting your husband is gay, but he might be so afraid of the stigma that he feels uncomfortable when gay oriented material is present (in a silly way it's the fear that he might discover he is gay), which is most likely an unreasonable fear and he is most likely dominantly heterosexual.
On the other side of the coin, if your husband has been repressing homosexual feelings, this too might make him uncomfortable with gay material.
Whatever his sexual leanings, he owes it to you and to himself to examine what his real feelings are about the issue, but he can only do that if he feels that you can accept whatever the results are of his examination.
2006-06-22 03:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mesa P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself and not him but for me (I have not seen it) it has nothing to do with being homophobic or anything of that nature .. I could personally care less who consenting adults have sex with nor how they do it. What, however, makes me not care about seeing it is that I think that to enjoy a movie, especially a drama, one must be able to identify with at least one of the characters in the film. Movies are about escapism and, just for a while, being able to live the life and adventure of someone else. Since I am not gay I cannot possibly put myself in the place of the characters in the film. It is a love story and I cannot even begin to comprehend the complexity of the emotions involved.
2006-06-22 03:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by sam21462 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The topic of this movie is still a taboo for most people. My husband is a very open- minded guy, but I'm sure he wouldn't want to watch this one either. He can't tell me what not to watch, though....I'll just raise my eyebrow while heading to the cashier with it. I'll grab one when he is around, just to see his reaction. In the meantime I'll practice raising my right eyebrow....
2006-06-22 03:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity and uncomfortable feelings about the subjest.
How ever I would not say that YOU could not watch it. Go ahead rock your mountain.
But I have to agree with him that I don't want to see it and I haven't.
2006-06-22 03:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men seem to find gay men as a threat to manhood, whereas lesbian woman are simply a turn on. With two woman, the man can fantasize himself in with them. With two men... well... heh heh heh.
2006-06-22 03:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's slightly homophobic--my boyfriend wouldn't watch it, but I rented it myself, and found it a to be an excellent movie.
2006-06-22 03:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by JenniT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he go off on a trip by himself every year?His secrets out!!!
2006-06-22 03:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by Professor Riddle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to see it too, but hubby doesn't. Go figure , it's a love story like all other's.
2006-06-22 03:10:36 · answer #11 · answered by Points whore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋