i have this friend who i was very close to but as i have matured she seems to have been left behind. She has been spoilt by her parent who divorced and now when she doesn't get her way she will get moody or scream. however when i was at my most serious on the subject of my faith she ridiculed it by being stupid, noisy and unexplaneably rude when i was trying to show my faith. i am now in the worst state of mind possible and am very angry and upset at what she did. whenever i talk about things she doesn't understand with other friends she invites herself into the conversation and ruins the mood because she has no idea how to act in these situations. she is probibly the most attention seeking, irritating, bratty highschool girl i have ever met in my life. so why am i afraid to to tell her this, i really dislike her but something inside me is holding me back from confrontation on this matter. what can i do?
2006-06-21 19:25:04 · 11 answers · asked by Mother Nature 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
We have all have one or two Friends like that in our lives.
You are holding back becos, she is ur friend and u really care about her.
But part of that caring means u have to be honest with her about how u feel. She probably doesnt know how annoying she really is...so hopefully, u'll be up to the task of helping her to be a better person.
Hope ur Faith teaches Patience? Cos u'll probably need it.
All the best to u and ur Friend.
2006-06-21 22:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by cookie_recipe 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The thing is, you have recognised the differences between yourself and your friend. There is no harm in the fact you both are a different stages in life and maturity. A friend is a person that is supposed to enhance you in different ways, and for a relationship to work on that level, there needs to be an understanding between the both of you.
There is no need to call the girl out for the way she's acting, that's just her way at the moment. If you feel you'd be more comfortable around someone more like minded to you then that's what to do. Just gradually withdraw yourself from the situation. Just make yourself unavailable to her.
There is no point in telling this girl what you think about the way she's been acting unless your sure your going to be heard by her. Given what you've said about her i don't think she's at a mature enough point to really understand and give weight to what you're saying, so in that case, leave her to it.
Don't cause yourself the hassle of having to explain why your backing away. If she has any sense, she'll realise.
By backing away gradually, you are also leaving yourself open to the idea that in the future, when she has grown up a bit and has the capacity understand your point of view, you can pick your friendship up again.... If you want to.
I would suggest you just carry on being yourself, don't sacrafice your better nature for anothers hang ups and go from there honey..
Best of Luck to You.... :o)
2006-06-22 04:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a very good friend that is quite similar to yours, and behave no different than your description, also spoilt by his rich parents (with silver spoon). I also wonder and often ask the same question. recently I try to stay away from him, and only occassionally keep in touch with him when I feel like to. we've been very close and known each other for a very long time. I think our friendship is mostly based on 'fate' or other reasons I cannot explain. Some religion says this is a karmic based friendship, a tie from previous life?
2006-06-22 02:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by hsmnt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow......sounds like you better clear the air. It is very selfish of you not to let her know your feelings for both of your sakes. What is going to happen if you don't talk about it is a big blow-up that will get real ugly, real fast. The only other alternative is just stay away from her, but then you will never get the closure you need to tell her all the things you said here.
2006-06-22 02:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by MOI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. You sound like you feel very put down and repressed by this friend.
She should not ridicule your faith.
Personally I would just try and give myself time away from her - slowly drift apart. You may find that gives her time to realise what she is doing/done and also gives you time to calm down.
In the end though if she can't accept your beliefs and parts of your life which you hold seriously then she isn't your friend.
2006-06-22 02:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her the link to this question.
Or you can talk to her nicely, calmly (you said you're mature rite?, so you should know how to handle this maturely), ask her to stop doing whatever you dont like. You may not be able to make she understand, but at least you can show her what you want and what you don't. At least she knows you're not happy with her and somehow that can help you to live happier.
All the best.
2006-06-22 02:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by plasmaisnoturs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your far more mature then her,you have out grown her! I would try and avoid her and if she confronts you I would tell her you dont share the same interests anymore and she does not respect your outlook on life.good luck.
2006-06-22 02:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also have this problem, she acts dead nice when its just me and her but when theres is other people its like she bullys me or is trying to, she ia a 2 faced dog!!! but dont cover it all up, tell her what you thinm and that you dont liek the way she acts or something! good luck and i hope it all goes well, it takes a lot of courage good luck hun
2006-06-22 04:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Cutie_92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to one side and have a word with her tell her how you feel if that dont work then tell her that she needs to grow up
2006-06-22 02:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by carolyn m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even i dont know da
2006-06-22 02:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by amrita_dinakar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋