Who's better, a "small" guy with social problems or a guy looking for sex?

Question

I notice most women seem to go for guys who are only interested in sex. I constantly hear the guys saying, "What's the point of haveing a girlfriend if you aren't getting any?" This is discouraging to hear them say such things.

So, who would you rather date:
A "small" guy who doesn't care about sex and has little to no real social life but actually tries
....or....
A guy who's only real interest is sex, though he sure can make you laugh and has a ton of friends but doesn't really give a **** what happens to you in the end.

I've seen women go for both types, but they seem to be ore attracted to, and go for, the second type. Anyone care to weigh in on this?

Answer 1

Are you trying to pick up a girl?

I think you are.

Here's what I have pried from years of talking to them.

Some girls want the "Bad boy". they know that they are in a lousy relationship, but; the guy is hot, or so they say. You find these girls normally in night clubs. Don't expect them to tell you this unless they are drunk. I have spoken with them when they were sober, but by then we were friends and I was not a treat to tell it to anyone else. Oops. I guess that cat is out of the bag.

I have also been out with girls who were out looking for sex. They go out in heards looking for men to by them drinks and dance with them. They even kept score on every thing they were given and compared notes when the bar closed. That shouldn't surprise you. Guys do that as well.

There are moral girls out there. you probably won't find them at a club and you probably won't approach them first. For one thing, they are more intimidating than the other girls. They have minds that actually are listening to what you have to say.

You pointed out some guys like to talk about sex and getting some. They aren't afraid to talk to these girls. Why? They can't tell the difference and don't care. They want sex.

So of course they have a better chance of landing a good girl, because; they are trying to land every girl. You should think about that.

You characterized yourself as a small guy with social problems.

Focus on the social problems. Talk to girls. Be pleasant. Learn about them. Eventually, better sooner than later, ask them out. Like most things, girls are first come first serve. If you don't ask for a date someone else will and then you are SOL.

Believe me it is harder to compeat for a woman's affections than to ask them out. It is really harder if they are in a relationship.

As for the small part,. I can't help you there. Those are the cards you were dealt. Even more of a reason to focus on the social problem.

I would be lying to you to say that women do not prefer taller men. In general, they do. It allows them to wear high heels. It gives them the sensation of controlling something bigger than themselves. There are a long list of reason. And I am assuming by small you mean height. Any other thought and it makes this whole question just wrong.

So let me summarize this for you. Make contact and always be closing. And yes, eventually you will have to have sex. That shouldn't be an issue, if it is once again, this question seems wrong.

And by the way, get off the internet and go meet them, It's ladies night somewhere.

Answer 2

The first type of guy, described as -A "small" guy who doesn't care about sex and has little to no real social life but actually tries- make you feel sad, bored, disinterested, frustrated, unhappy. Because if he doesn't care about sex, he is like robot, you want a girl to have relations with a speaking creature, that is not enough for a girl, who wants to have more than just a friend for sharing ideas about the universal truths. The second type is humiliating, if his interests are around bed. Try to become a third type of guy, combining conversations about universal truths and physical side of life. For me it is so natural ,that I am very surprised that anyone might ask the questions of such a kind,

Answer 3

Both the options are not so good. But if there is only choice between the two the 'small' is beautiful! Most of the women make mistakes thinking sex offered is love and later when faced with the hard realities of life are upset, throughout and may be when it's difficult to make amends.

Answer 4

Women are like men in many ways; for example they posture and portray themselves as someting they're not. Solomon said that the world will not stand up if wives are not loved; and I can say that as long as I don't argue with my wife and as long as I love her- she does in deed seem to be happy as a kitten with a ball of wool. Couldn't think of a better example. Anyhows there is a difference between what women say they want and what they want. Love the girl and she'll be pretty happy. And enjoy yourself too- she'd expect that. Heck, she'd even yearn it a bit.

Answer 5

I would say to try to find a genuinely caring guy, because with effort, a satisfactory relationship can be achieved. If it means having to work on social skills, then at least he would likely be willing to attempt it, much more so, logically, than someone who doesn't care anyway. Is this a hard question?

Answer 6

If i had to chose it would be the first guy because he's got just about the same social status as me. And he's probably just as smart as me so we could actually talk without having to translate a zillion things. And people like that have a hidden beauty that's is never noticed until you talk to them.

Answer 7

good lord i'd rather stay single and die alone if these are my 2 choices!!!!

my heart goes out to you though babe.

women, just like men, simply want to be loved. I guess some people equate sex with love and so hence the second option comes up quite a bit.

Answer 8

There are no rules in this game.

Answer 9

Women go for attractive, good looking, tall, well built guys.
These guys are not too keen on commitment because they can meet their needs easily w/o it.

Answer 10

I wouldn't go out with anyone that falls into either of those categories. Maybe that's why I'm still single...