She found out 3 months ago/ It still bothers her but I can't bring myself to admit it. She won't let it go, and i'm trying to convince her it wasn't mine.(although it was) It is a Yahoo 360 adult site showing and talking about my opinions on nudity. the pics I have r beautiful nude models and i think she's jealous of them. She also knows of the site where I pretend to be a 19 y.o. lesbian. I feel bad about it, and am slowly deleting stuff on it. If I totally delete it, it'd be obvious it was me. What should I do to get us over this hurdle?
2006-06-21 19:02:05 · 23 answers · asked by whoremonger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You would be better off to admit it to your wife than try to hide it any longer. You have betrayed a trust with her. She is gonna be hurt.
See if she would feel better if you first admit it to her and then get rid of the sites and maybe seek some counceling. She feels as if you are cheating on her.
She might not be happy about it and might wanna leave you. You have crossed a line here in your marriage.
2006-06-21 23:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by cabbiegrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with any of that. What is wrong is you can't trust your wife to handle the truth. You should have invited her to join you in the fun, particularly the one where you pretend to be 19 and lesbo. Could have been great fun for you both. If you are into artistic nude photography, and she isn't, you'll need to ask for her indulgence. Chics get so jealous so fast ... truth is you are in love with the female form, including hers. But if she cuts you off, you will resent her terribly.
So stop kicking yourself and tell your wife that you need to get to know each other better. This could turn out to be a good thing.
2006-06-22 02:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come clean she already knows the answer so that is why she keeps on about it, she is giving you an opportunity to be honest with her after all that is what a relationship is all about. No doubt she is questioning what she has married and where this behaviour has stemmed from. She needs reassurance, wouldn't you if it was the other way around? You have some quick talking to do or face the reality your marriage may soon be over.
2006-06-22 02:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...tell her the truth. Or delete it! Thats not obvious that it was you. People delete things all the time. and I'd ask her how she found it...was she searching for that kind of thing? If she was then she shouldn't be so mad. but dont' lie to your wife. How can people not be honest with their spouse? Especially about sex and sex things? don't people know how important sex is in a relationship? You need to tell her you are sorry for lying to her but you didn't want her to be mad at you and then DELETE it and promise her and mean it...that you will never do it again.
2006-06-22 02:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i guess u are a little bit screwed and if she is a good woman she will just leave you. A lying man is good for no one. If you can lie about that what else are you lying about. Well she is a smart woman for not letting it go and buddy you have some problems if you want to get it worked out i would get into some cousling and admit it to your wife if she is smart enough to find that she can find out anything trust me!
2006-06-22 02:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest with her. If you don't deal with it now. Deleted or not it will eat at you forever. You need to get it done and over with now. If someday she finds out the truth the consequences could be worse than if you'd just faced the facts now.
2006-06-22 02:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Own it.....you're guilty....you got caught. Period. She will never trust you again if you don't own up to it. You both can heal from it, if you talk about it. Tell her what compelled you to do it, and that you didn't mean to hurt her but understand that you have. Let her know that you understand it was wrong and that you will never hurt her like this again. Women are insecure enough with men (and this is why) . We are programmed to feel not good enough, not pretty enough, not skinny enough and your actions have reinforced this. Please, try to let her know you still find her attractive....if you don't, you have bigger problems than this. Good luck to you.
2006-06-22 10:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get rid of the email address that belongs tot hat website and never go back into that site again,if your doing stuff like that your obviously not commited to your wife 100% you should be honest with your wife if there is something more you want from her then tell her but if your wanting more than your relationhsip with your wife then you need to tell her too and leave her and seperate because it is not fair to her that you play behind her back
2006-06-22 03:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that she already knows that it's your site. It's not difficult to find out, you know.
I think you should own up to it and prepare yourself to answer a load of questions as to why you did it and why you didn't tell her. She might surprise you and be more understanding than you think.
If you don't tell and she does know, you'll create an even bigger problem.
2006-06-22 09:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women know the truth about things like this whether you tell the actual truth or not. If you aren't honest with her, she'll still know and she'll be even more angry with you for lying to her. Good luck!
2006-06-22 02:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋