I was molested when I was a little girl. As I was growing up I remember that I would have thoughts about being with other women. Sometimes I would catch myself looking at women. It would scare me so I would ignore them. as a teen had lots of boyfriends and did like them,but in back of my mind would wonder what it would be like to be with a women. I keep ignoring those feelings. Fell in love with my husband and he is all I need. Now I'm glad I igored those feelings. I'm very happy and satisfied with my husband, was it just a phase ? I'm asking this question because there is talk about people thinking they were born gay or lesbian. I think the mind is very powreful and you are what you want your self to be.
2006-06-21 18:53:34 · 14 answers · asked by Angie29 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hello angie! i too was molested at the age of eight by the hands of my aunts husband. but by all means my opinon is that i find people such as you and myself tend to be curious about the opposite sex because of that void that we were missing while being abuse. i also think that it has something to do with the hurt we experience from the male in our lives. now i am not a lesbian but i find it hard not to look at a woman. so i think what you are feeling other people experience it to it,s normal don,t worry
2006-06-21 19:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by 0samaria s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. You was molested by a man, so in your young innocent mind at that time you thought all men was alike. So you started looking towards women. Perhaps you had a woman that comforted you and knew you inside out. You felt like one with that woman which opened the doors to posibilities. Unfortunatley, A relationship with a woman can be just as damaging as one with a man. I'm glad you found a husband that loves you and accepts everything about you. It was just a phase. I dont believe people are born gay. I believe we feel a certain way by the lifestyle we are brought up in. And I mean that in a lot of ways. The way we was treated at school, home, anywhere.
2006-06-21 19:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by bunnicula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no evidence that your DNA influences you to become gay or lesbian. DNA provides the basic needs for a body to function, but the mind is very flexible and does not necessary follow the DNA pattern. For your experience, I think that you were in a brick of becoming a lesbian because you were just too adventures. You said that you had a lot of boyfriends. It seems that you just got bored of guys and wanted to try something different. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. But your true love, your husband did pull you in the other side and you sacrificed that adventure for the love of your husband.
2006-06-21 19:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by shkabaj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a lesbian so before anyone bashes me... I have a right to this opinion...
It makes no sense that people are born gay or lesbian. It does not happen in nature and would be self defeating. Nature intends that a species renew itself through procreation... homosexuality is in conflict with that. It is a choice, nothing more. Albeit sometimes, one that is helped to be made for us... as may be the case in your situation.
2006-06-21 18:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gays and lesbians are not always gay because we were molested or raped as a child or even enticed by another of the same sex.I am a lesbian and proud of it..I was never raped,molested or hit on by a woman...ive also Never been attracted to men...Some people are born gay no matter what people say to the contrary,I have a manager at my job who is gay,and everyone knew he was as a toddler,but none of that ever happened to him either,he is just the way he is..Y cant people accept people for who they are,not for their sexual preference..
2006-06-21 18:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being molested will not make you gay/lesbian its not a choice or something you develop its just natural people don't choose to be gay they just are and hunny there's nothing wrong with that. and most women are curious that's normal but if your happy with your husband than that's great but you need to figure out if you'd Rather be with a woman.
2006-06-21 18:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by italianamami21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is true the mind is very powerful, but as you can see, you overcame this issue. So let it die, or have a 3 some if he's willing. If your husband satisfied you completely you wouldn't need to ask this question.
2006-06-21 19:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by spawanee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly believe that one is born with their sexual identity. I do not believe anyone chooses to be gay or lesbian.
However, if a female is hurt by a male, she may choose to find female companionship instead of male because she is hopeful that a female would treat her differently than the male did.
2006-06-21 18:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking that you're a lesbian because you were sexually abused as a child is like saying that you don't believe in God because you haven't witnessed a vision of the Virgin Mary yet.
Stupid.....
2006-06-21 19:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Studies have shown that 8 out of 10 women that are lesbian have been raped...
2006-06-21 18:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by blue_cobra_driver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋