I get mixed signals. She'll watch it with me if she's a little intoxicated, but hates it when she's in her normal mind. (She's not an alcoholic) I do show her I'm interested in all ways. I hug, kiss her, compliment her, but I also like to look at porn, and sometimes like to draw nude women from photos only. Am I just a normal guy?
2006-06-21 18:40:41 · 28 answers · asked by whoremonger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes yes yes!!! its ok for you to look at porn you have a healthy sexual appitite and you enjoy porn big deal your wife should either watch it with you or get over it cause your a man men like porn (women to) WATCH WHAT YOU WANT your and adult and if thats what you wanna do then do it and it dosnt make you strange at all!
2006-06-21 18:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by italianamami21 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You want the truth? You can't handle the truth. I fail to see what his marital status has to do with it? Bringing that up is odd at a minimum. There are a LOT of guys who have a good sex life and still enjoy porn. It is definitely in the normal range. But it is also normal to worry about how attractive you are if he is watching porn. He could be bored in bed. The fact that your communication with him is so poor is a definite red flag that your marriage isn't very strong. My guess? (You and 2 billion other women are not going to like it) How old are you? Are you in your 30's ? How old is he? How much weight have you put on in the last 8 years? As YOU age, it gets more difficult (I almost said "harder", lol!) for your body to arouse him just by looking. So, watching porn may help him become aroused in the bedroom. So that he AND you have a better time. But really, unless you have blobbed out, I wouldn't think 8 years was that big a deal...or are you closer to 50 and menopause? He may just need more of a pregame show to get warmed up. Work usually gets more and more stressful as your career advances. And times aren't so good. Plus as the "natural" supplement ads say, men start losing testosterone in our 20's and that definitely has an big effect on our libido. -=-=- Equally likely, he has always watched porn. -=-=- Its too bad that your relationship is so weak that you two can't communicate honestly with one another. Maybe it is time to talk to him about spicing things up. -=-=- By the way. I really doubt whether "most men" seek out porn (regularly). I definitely enjoy looking at scantily clad (or less) hotties, but would prefer that the only sex I see is between me and my gal. I find looking at the pretty (naked is good) nubile female form soothing even when I'm not horny. You do know that there is a huge body of art that proves my point, right? -=-=- If it really bothers you tell him and get some couples counseling if you need to talk it out.
2016-03-27 00:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think you are just a normal guy, as long as you're only looking and fantasizing and not acting out with other women, which, it doesn't sound that way! out of respect to your wife though, i think you need to keep the porn out of the bedroom. don't try to get your wife to look at it or engage it activities with the porn and you because it will end up making her feel uncomfortable and perhaps angry or self-conscious. the porn shouldn't be a secret, per se, but don't make a big deal about it or bring it up because this could end up really drawing a wedge between the two of you. i can relate to being less inhibited and a little more willing to be experimental with my longterm boyfriend when i've had a couple drinks in me, (not an alcoholic either) and so just go with the flow and watch it with your wife on those occasions. just keep giving your wife attention and being faithful to her and i'm sure everything will be fine!
2006-06-21 18:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by neverneverland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a normal woman married to a normal man and I can tell you that if she watches it when she is intoxicated and likes it, chances are she really does like it but does not want you to know. You are no different from any other guy and she is really no different from any other woman. You can try talking to her about it and try a compromise; try some little things to slowly bring it in the bedroom. Bring in some sugguestions and ideas then let her pick what to she wants to try. This may take time and patience but it will help and you may find that you both enjoy the same things.
2006-06-21 18:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drawing nude women from photos...that sounds a little odd, but most men love porn for some reason, but I wouldn't sneak behind your wife's back to watch it, because that is rude. Honestly, I hate porn, does nothing for me, but I know that a lot of men watch it. So I guess your'e normal, but seriously talk to your wife, don't lie or sneak, it will ruin everything. Also, porn can ruin your sex life, so be careful. Good Luck!
2006-06-21 18:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by CrazyBiitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an artist, I dont find it strange that you like to draw nude women - some of the most famous works of art include nude (or partially nude) women. However, you must be very careful with porn... depending on what personality type your wife is, it could very well ruin your marraige and the way you think of each other.
2006-06-21 19:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are. Women are just worried that the guys are looking at porn because they like those type of women or whatever, especially big women...I can say this because I am a big woman. Maybe ask her if theres any type of porn that she'd like...like lets say you like the girl on girl stuff maybe your wife would like the guys and girls ones or the 3 some ones with 2 guys instead of 2 girls. but guys are visual creatures. They like what they can't have. As long as you're not going to go out and try to find a girl that looks like those girls and you make sure your wife knows that you love her body but like the fantasy that they have on the movies I don't think your any different than any other guy out there. but you have to put yourself in her shoes...would it be ok for your wife to be watching the same type of things but with guys in it instead of girls...or whatever she likes...and drawing naked guys...would you be ok with that...honestly?
2006-06-21 18:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am the same way i dont like my hubby to look at porn then again i never get sex. And if it bothers her i really wouldnt do it. I know with me it makes me feel worthless like i am not good enought to get him hard. Gets me pretty upset i have tired everything but he seems to want the porn over anything and that is really a problem with it. But i really would talk to the wife about it she may have the same kinda problem.
2006-06-21 19:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a man that was addicted to porn for 11 years. Don't lie to her about it, don't do it behind her back and ask her how it makes her feel. Sometimes women will feel like you prefer the porn over her. You need to know that it is not going to bother her. My now ex husband would only watch when I wasn't around and would lie to me about it. It made my self esteem drop like a brick. I wouldn't have minded so much if he hadn't been so secretive about it and lied about it.
2006-06-21 18:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. Porn can be very addictive. Ask her what she thinks. How does she feel about you wanting to watch?
Yes, you are normal. Totally. My hubby likes it and he draws to. The female body is beautiful. Just be careful not to do anything to take away any attention from her and you should be ok.
2006-06-22 00:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by cabbiegrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not OK with my husband looking at porn. In my opinion, it is degrading to women and degrades sex--and he agrees. Yes, he's a normal guy and sometimes wants to, but we've talked about it and he knows it isn't good for us so he doesn't. And before I get all jumped on about being a prude or a shrew or him doing it in secret--we agreed based on our personal convictions (I didn't "tell" him) and I am very willing to be experimental in bed as long as it doesn't involve other people (on film or otherwise).
2006-06-21 19:03:16 · answer #11 · answered by Sylvia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋