how long before kids meet Dads new girlfriend??
my boyfriend and I have a strange relationship, we've been together for 12 years, 2 kids, in the making of this hysteria, ages 6,12. He's had several others in the mean time, they have ony met 1. (Which turned up to be short term (>6mo.) But I keep taking him back (DR. PHIL???)This time I'm sure we're thru, but how many different chicks do I expose them to, and how long should I wait?? I want to instill good family values. (He's always the cause of the "break-ups")
So, my question is how long before they meet dads new GF???
2006-06-21 18:34:02 · 6 answers · asked by mina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's my answer to this situation...your kids come first and should be the priority. You say you want to instill good family values so start just by doing just that. If dad is bringing around his girlfriends after girlfriends in your children's life that's not a good sign. You cannot control dad's actions so you need to show your kids a better example. Talk to your kids and let them know that until they really know that this other lady is going to be a permanent person in their dad's life they should not get attached. So you ask how long...not until the dad actually is serious with his girlfriend and that she will be permanent because your kids will know what kind of a father they really have just by trying to protect them
2006-06-21 19:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by psylocke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I believe he should be serious about the girl before ever exposing the kids to her. This can cause a lot of confusion in kids. The kids are your top priority. When I say serious, I mean more like he has been with her for quite some time and there is a long term future for them as a couple. Being unsure does not help the situation.
2016-03-27 00:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly... not to be rude, But I don't think that it's any of your business how many women or relationships he goes through as long as you two are not together.
and you shouldn't even have a say so as to when or how long before they get to meet dads new girlfriend.
you talked about instilling good family values..however, what kind of good values did you instill after taking him back time and time again?
So therefore why would you be the one to decide how long to wait...that's his decision...
so my answer to your question would be let dad decide when he thinks the time is right.
2006-06-21 20:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by jttatum2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, instead of dad parading a long line of his girlfriend of the moment, I would wait until he's in a looooong committed relationship that may go some where. Until then, what's the point?
2006-06-21 18:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand entirely...you have a boyfriend for 12 years...is he the father of your children? The one you've been on and off with for the past 12 years?? This time it's really over...for sure...???
I dunno, from the sounds of this question, I'd more worry about my own cirucumstances....and what that's doing to the children, instead of worrying about a possible girlfriend their dad might bring around.
2006-06-22 03:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 13 and I have twin daughters at 10.
They usually like the way my prospective date sounds so much...that they want to meet her right away....
we're talking like "first" date.
so from my perspective...
i would say, whenever the kids are interested...and I don't think it should be too long...kids need to feel comfortable with who you are with. And I don't believe for a second that they are shopping for a second parent for us adults...
But I do think they want mom or dad to be happy and have friends...that they, as kids, like too
2006-06-21 18:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋