My wife and i had a really hard time for a while and she felt she wasnt in love with me. I left state and now she wants to be with me and work everything out. We almost got a divorce and i want to do everything i can to prove to her that she is making the right choice. What do i do. I am head over heels in love with her i ant to spend every second by her side but i am scared to smuther her. How do i show her that we can make this work and be how we were when we first got married? I want everything to be as perfect as possible for her. She is coming out to get me around the first. Anything i can do to make her miss me more until then. I just want her to be happy to see me. I want her to smuther me. I truely feel like we were made for eachother. Any SERIOUS suggestions?
2006-06-21 18:17:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Remind her of how things were when you first started dating. Try to remember what you did that she fell in love with. Try to remember if there was ever a time when she told you I love when you do your hair like that or I love that shirt on you or whatever she has ever told you that she didn't like...like bad breath, body odor...things like that...and when you see her remember those things. For example...when I first started dating my husband he use to write me poems and bought me sappy cards and wrote sappy notes in them...he use to text me and call me just to say I'm thinking of you or I love you. and when we made love he would tell me how much he loved me and wanted to marry me and all that stuff. We too were separated for about 2 months about 2 years ago. When we first started seeing eachother again on our first "date" he wore the shirt that I loved him in, wore the colonge I love, wore contacts instead of glasses and the hat that I loved on him and one of my biggest pet peeves is body odor and bad breath...he had breath mints and gum and extra colonge just to make sure that he was all good. When I saw him I fell in love with him all over again. Try sending her love notes, text messages, call her just to tell her you're thinking of her...call her and tell her how much you have thought of her during this time of separation and tell her what you are going to do to make things better. Make serious goals of how you're going to be a better husband...not just I will not yell anymore say when I start to get upset where I am going to yell I will get up and leave the room so I do not get so upset like I use to...just as an example. Show her you are putting an effort in making this better. I hope I at least gave you some pointers! Best of luck to you!
2006-06-21 18:34:08 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take is slow with her and just date and get to know her all over again. Do fun things together and start off as just friends first and dating. Basically fall in love with each other all over again. Just be who you are but dont rush or push too fast!!!! Call here here and there just to say hi and have a nice talk. Ask her how she is doing and let her know that you are thinking of her and that you are really excited and can't wait to see her again. When you do finally meet her again make sure you take her some chocolates or candy and a buge boquet of her favorite flowers!!!! Get her a nice card too. You may also want to seek marriage counseling together too. I wish you both the best and it is great that you two are wanting to work things out and be back together again. I am so happy for the both of you and we sure could all learn from this and know there is hope for any marriage!!!! You go!!!! Please keep us all posted and updated on how things go and turn out for you! Make sure you look great and hot for her when you do meet her and wear something nice! Get couples pics taken too for the memories!
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2006-06-22 00:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her allot you will not smuther her to much sometime you give her time where she can go out with her friend and you go out with the feller make her felt like she safe in your arms take her out to dinner some times and love her like Will love you
2006-06-21 18:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by t-baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just need give her the space she needs & to always think back to how you treated her in certain special ways in the beginning of the relationship/marriage & go from those experiences. Wives generally do want to be treated like they were in the beginning... always special... it helps them to stay in love with their man.
2006-06-21 18:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋