would it b alright 2 go after a married women, since her husband doesnt appriciate her???

Question

her husband treats her like **** and shes 8 years older than me. and im willing to wait 4 her as many years as it may take. is this alright???...........all i want 2 do is, give her a better life........ and yes im single

Answer 1

shes lucky, but still it depends to her if she wanted you same as you wanted her. theres nothing wrong in waiting for her but to go after a married person well thats another thing. dont you think that its kinda burden for her to have a f****** husband plus the fact that your going after her? isnt she pressured? and have you realized that you still have a lot to go and might meet somebody else whos soo better that her. you can wait but not to the extend of wasting your effort or time hoping to be with her to the fact that she can finalized their separation but still shes with this F****** husband of hers? if she wanted to be treated and be respected as a person then your wating is worthed but if she wanted to be treated like a nobody, disrespected and all that then man your just wasting your time waiting.

Answer 2

Let's say your married, hypothetically. Let's say that your wife tells everyone that she is unhappy and that you treat her like crap. Now, it is not front page news that what goes on behind closed doors no one knows, so say that people believe her, and every once in awhile there are some "marks" that elude that you hit her, hypothetically.
Now, all of her friends tell her to leave, file for divorce, money, house, all of it be damned, she just needs to get away. But, she stays. What do you think her friends will eventually say and/or do?
My guess: It is not that bad, or she is afraid (still, after sound help), she feels "things" are worth it, ( which doesn't say much about her character), or she is manipulative and just wants a "fling".
How would you feel, if you found out about some of the things she was saying, and that some other man was moving in on your wife, based on the things she says, and how she acts?
Oh, hypothetically, your very happy and you and your wife don't have problems, so how would you feel?
If the things you say are true, and you are willing to go the distance to get her out of a bad relationship, and she says, "no", I have to stay because of......... then maybe, just maybe it's not all truth?
The old saying, "If they do it while married to one person, they will do it to the next spouse", is more truthful than you would expect.
Move on, if she wants out, she will DO SOMETHING to get out and it won't be because she has a "man in the wings", it will be because the husband is an "***", or worse.
Then, when she makes her move, you will know that she is free to pursue another relationship, in which case, two single adults, well....
Besides, if the lady is being truthful, it is not very gentlemanly to move on a vulnerable woman.

Answer 3

I was in a very abusive relationship for over a year when I met my now husband. He was my friend and never made a move on me but let me know that he was always there for me if I needed him. When I finally did get out of the relationship, he was one of the first people I called and he became my husband shortly after.
Don't go after her, let her come to you. Let her know you will wait for her, and be patient. No woman likes to be treated poorly, she's more than likely to come around.

Answer 4

I would not go after her. It is not a good idea to get involved in a relationship that evolved out of one of the parties cheating on their husband or wife. because you will always have that little nagging in the back of your mind wondering if they are cheating on you too...no matter how much they say I will never do this to you. Tell her how you feel and that you know he treats her like crap and all you want to do is make her life better...maybe she will realize that this is true and she will get a divorce. but you have to realize that there must be more to the relationship than she is telling you or that you are seeing because why would she stay with someone who treats her like crap?

Answer 5

If she is in a bad relationship, she is the only one who can get out of it. You may be offering an alternative life with better conditions, but taking on a woman who has suffered abuse is sometimes difficult. Right now you may be adding to the problem more than helping. If he is already abusive, he may find out and really get nasty. My suggestion is if you want to wait, do it from a distance

Answer 6

No, it's not alright to go after her while she's still married. She has to decide if she wants to stay married. It's not up to you. I don't think it's a good idea to wait for as long as it takes. A lot of available girls could pass you by. Get away from her and go after someone you can actually have. Good luck to you. And to her too.

Answer 7

The relationship between she and her husband is not of your matter . Weather she divorce his husband or not is her consideration . If she make love with you , it may seems as she cheat her husband or not depending on their relationship . So, it is not your problem to involve with her . So Go ahead .

Answer 8

it all depends ...if she is asking for help by reaching you dont take advantage and try to soduse her...if she really needs help with her man help her out by telling her man that if he dont change he is going to loos a very good wife..make him see what hes doing by mis treating her...help out..dont get your self in a relationship that has two to work it out...you are 3 and 3 is not good..you would like it if you were married and someone would try and get in between you and your wife.no...so help out
yes u can wait for her but only if you are not interfering with her marrage. give her space to think and try to work things out its going to be up to her to do what hse has to do.

Answer 9

Unfortuneatly, it is up to her to leave him. No one can make her. You can encourage her as much as you want but nothing can make her. You can wait for her but keep in mind that situations can turn ugly.

All I can say is good luck and if things get really bad for her, support her in anything because more likely, he won't.

Answer 10

Hey buddy, U only got 1 side of the story. Consider the others side also, he's devoted his life to her, and then he gave up, or maybe she gave up, either way, you need the whole story, hey by the way, would you like to hear my sob story?