Is this wrong??

Question

My step-mom hits me w/ a belt if I do something wrong. Also, wen I was in 2nd gr. she hit me w/ a belt and made me have bruises cuz she accused me of something I didn do, and the bathroom rugs were bein washed so wen I was taken a shower the floor got all wet and she got mad and started to hit me. Now, my sister is 3. She started hitiing my sister with the belt when she was 2 yrs. old. She hits my sister if she doesnt use the bathrrom in her potty. If she does it in her pull ups she gets in2 big trouble, she use 2 do that 2 me when I was 5 yrs. old cuz my Dad was always busy and I had no Mom wen I was 5 cuz my aprents were divorced and I never see my Mom so no one really potty trained me, so if I peed at nite n my bed she'd hit me soo hard w/ the belt. I need help! And, also, she is always saying ba dthinsg 2 me, Lik I am stupid, and everything, and if I need help on h.w. she says omg, u cant do that, and once she hit me cuz I didnt kno the answer wen I came and asked for help.

I am 10 yrs. old

Answer 1

That's a lot of hitting. Sometimes the only way a person knows to discipline a child is by hitting. Maybe she was raised that way. You can't do anything about it and it doesn't sound like she is damaging you. Just don't be like that when you have kids. My mom was same way.

Answer 2

Yes, very wrong. Tell your dad how you feel about your mom hitting you and your sister with a belt and see what he says and if he can put a stop to it. If not go to your mom and tell her that it is very wrong and she needs to stop using that as a way to punish you two, espically when what you did was either not a significant deal or you didn't even do it. Tell her that children who are abused when they're younger are much more likely to grow up with mental and pyschological problems and you could have a very hard time trusting others and socializing.

If doing these doesn't help then contact your local family guidence office and inform them what your mother is doing. Or tell someone who you know can help you. If absolutely necessary call 911.

Answer 3

I got the belt ALL the time.

As long as it is on your backside I think that is fine. A good reprimand like that is probley good for you. If she is hitting you with a closed hand or around your head, neck, back, and stomach, I think that can cause sever (even if not intended) damage and yes that is wrong.

I definitely disagree with the name calling in any circumstance. It can be very devastating later on in life (not too mention immediately of course).

As far as the name calling goes...you CANNOT take it personal. You are entitled to make mistakes and learn from them without getting verbally abused by anyone (stepmom included).

You will continue to make mistakes, not know things, and just plain screw up. That is what growing up is all about. Try to steer clear of your stepmom when she seems upset. You may want to talk to your Dad about this but should NOT confront your stepmom in this matter. TALK TO DAD tell him to use discretion when talking to your stepmom.

Good luck and take care!

Answer 4

Call Child Protective Services.

Answer 5

Yes, this is wrong. It is abusive... both physical (belt-hitting, or plain hitting), and the verbal abuse. Verbal abuse is abuse as well. She is causing you mental anguish and attacking your self.

I can't tell how old you are, but age does not matter. If you are in school - seek out a school counselor - go to your teacher, or a trusted adult working in the school. Ask them for help point blank. State what you just stated her. Print it out if it's too difficult to remember. Hand it to them.

You step-mom should have rules and guidelines and discipline is okay, but when it is abusive (hitting and name calling) then it is simply that - Abuse. Report it -- Now.

Good Luck to you.

Answer 6

Your mom is clearly wrong to be so abusive with you & your younger sister. You didn't mention your age, but you need to talk with an adult outside the family that you trust ...... teacher, minister, etc.

If your mom continues with excessive discipline,
you might need to call you local police department, cuz sounds like your mom
doesn't realize that using a belt could be
considered child abuse.

Answer 7

Baby you ned to call DHR if you think you're really getting abused by her over stuid things. No one should get bruised all up for no reason at all. If you believe in God you need to prayt about it. He'll make it better for you and your sister. Maybe your step-mother went through something in her past but that still fon't give her the right to treat you all like that. So yes it wrong for her to treat the both of you like that.

Answer 8

YES THAT IS CHILD ABUSE! Verbal AND physical. Next time video tape her hitting you or take pictures of the marks that are made. TELL SOMEONE. A neighbor, your father, your teacher, but this should NOT be happening. Then get out because she obviously has anger management issues, please advocate for yourself by going to a friends house after you get her arrested, which you need to. Do it not only for yourself but your sister.

I'm so sorry for all you have been through.

Answer 9

Yes it's wrong! What is a child going to learn about using the toilet if they get beat?!?!

Tell someone! Anyone! A teacher, counselor, friend's parent, anyone that can help you that you trust.

Does your dad know about this?? If he does, he is just as guilty as your stepmom. I was spanked as a child, but I was not beaten like that with a belt. That is very inappropriate - especially to someone so young.

Answer 10

You need to talk to someone you trust. No mother should beat her kids. I am a mother and if you need help then just let me know I would be glad to report your mother to the child protected services. Talk to a teacher or a friend mother or go to the police. Also a relative is great also. Get help NOW!!!!!!