I have a small group of friends and would like to expand it but alot of females just brush me off.I am a nice person I invite single and married women to my little parties but only my close freinds attend.
2006-06-21 17:45:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I disagree that women are brutal with each other. I mean that can be, but I have just moved to a new state and joined a Mother's Club to make friends in California, and the women could not be nicer. Now maybe it is the Mommy connection, but it seems to me to be proof that it doesn't have to be that way.
I will suggest something that a girlfriend said recently. Even in this welcoming club of women it seems that when in new social situations people (specifically women) are kind of thrown back to their school days experience - we are suddenly back in 8th grade, and nervous with new people (particularly if we had difficulty making friends as kids).
It is hard for folks to get past that kind of thing. I mean at work you are not friendly with people - in fact you often don't want to reveal too much about your personal life to those people. We just don't get proper training on how to make friends - I don't think it is a personal trust issue, but more a general personal insecurity issue.
Peace!
PS - I have to say your picture is gorgeous. If that is you, maybe other women are intimidated by you. It could be...
2006-06-21 18:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be the fact that your personality turns off a sense that women to decide whether or not they can trust you. Perhaps you have a tendency to tell things that other people have told you in confidence. Or maybe you just need to find other ways to find friends. Try looking on-line, putting ads in the newspaper, going to parties held by other people, go to a nightclub that has a singles night, or even attending a singles group at your local church.
2006-06-22 00:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure, I had the same problem in high school. I'd float around to different cliques where I was friends with one or two of them and the rest kinda brushed me aside and eventually I quit hanging out with the ones I was friends with. We are a very complex breed I must say. Maybe they weren't sure they'd know anyone else there and were just uncomfortable and feel they'd be left out if they attended. Don't take it too personally, and don't change to make anyone happy either! Good luck and God bless! =)
2006-06-22 00:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by littlebluebear22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from Myside as a man. Women's trust in men not likely for one women just think men are dog's we get what we want and then we leave. Then again what kind of women are you after the stuck up prep type? If so you have to have the courage to go up and ask one out for coffee or a bite to eat and not try to get into her pants.
2006-06-22 00:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jason S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHAHAHAH ok as a guy I have to say.... HAHA My god come on.. woman are brutal with each other. If you are "competition" or "attractive" you are a threat. If you are unattractive then you are an embarrassment. You just can't win. Groups of women are like a fraternity, they need to humiliate you and put you in your place then judge if you can join.. I am really sorry for you. no really. Wait you are a chick right?
2006-06-22 00:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women in general are skeptical. They've been hurt, so they have every right to be. Just tell them that you truly want them there because you enjoy their company. Just be honest. If not, move on and try to make some other female friends.
2006-06-22 00:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by libbyocto14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's anything personal against you. I think most females are just busy working, being moms, and wives. They barely have time for those people in their lives who are closest to them, let alone enough time to go out and make new friends.
2006-06-22 00:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might think your nice but you might not really be, we see ourself differently than others, you might be tring to hard or you just dont click with the people you want to, women are very clickish, maybe lower your standards on friends to a group that u click with
2006-06-22 00:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by kylergsmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are insecure!
If you're pretty, we're jealous! If you are rich, we're jealous.
We've been burned by men and other female friends and it's just hard to open up!
2006-06-22 00:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by laylamami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is because we can be so childish and so immature. i would make sure to talk to them a lot. say hi everytime you bump into eachother, be friendly but give them space.
2006-06-22 01:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by em 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋