What makes a healthy marriage? what maintains a healthy marriage?

Question

This is for a essay paper in college.

Answer 1

Unless it really matters, give in. If both people approach issues in that fashion, there will be little to fight over.

Answer 2

Communicate, communicate, communicate. That is the key to marriage. Tell your spouse exactly how you are feeling. If your a man, learn how to open up and express your feelings.

Answer 3

Respect not only for your wife/husband, but for yourself and your space too. You have to spend time apart, you have to continue with your own interests and try to be yourself as much as possible, trying to change to suit someone else will make you both miserable.

Trust, if you spend your entire day worried about what your partner is doing, you are with the wrong person. You have to be relaxed with who they are, who you are and that you are meant to be together (to much fretting and worrying leads to tension).

Love, it is so hard to describe love, the words never seem adequate enough to explain the emotion, but the best I can tell you is this, you will not mind telling your true love about the boy or girl you kissed in third grade on a dare and got caught by the teacher in the janitors closet, or how you eat olives on your vanilla ice cream, or how you daydream about knights and fair maidens when you are in the shower. Anything you found to secret, embarassing or bad to tell anyone else, you will tell your true love, because you will not have to be afraid too cause they will be telling you their dirty lil secrets too.

Connection and communication (means you have to listen too), you must have some common interests so you can have conversations with each other and understand what you are both talking about.You do not have to do everything together, or love only thing things your partner does, but if hes is an deep sea diver and you have never seen the ocean and all you care about are your clients at the beauty shop and what is happening in 'days of our lives ' hes gonna be talking and you are not gonna be listening and eventually one of you will feel unimportant to the other and it leads to no where good.

lastly you need to see the balance in your relationship - this is hard to explain. imagine a see-saw with you on one side and your partner on the other. Marriage is divisble by 2 and 2 only - you each will fit into a role and if your roles dont balance out someone will be unhappy holding more than theor share of the work. (im not refering to just housework and errands). For example I am a planner, i write lists make plans organize everything, my husband is a spontaneous man - beacuse i take care of everything he is free to forget unimportant tasks and tidbits - at the same time - he does the laundry, takes out the garbage, does anything and everything physical (move furniture and carry all groceries inside *ake into account we live on the 3rd floor) also to balance this all out, we do all of our shopping together, i make the list , we shop, he carries it - it all somehow balances us out., remember thi is just one example. Another example - i am a rather not messy person (not saying im a clean freak, or overly tidy) i tend to leave watter bottle, a snack and mail on my desk but as soon as it feels slightly crowded i clean it all off and clean whole thing right down to cleaning the keys on my keyboard - my husband you could pile a load of laundry, a case of pop, and all the kids toys on his desk and as long as he has room to move his mouse he wouldnt be a bit bothered by it and could leave it there for weeks (yes i have seen this first hand) but we are balanced he makes sure not to clutter my space and i tend to avoid his space and i do not nag him about it unless he has somehow managed to hide something smelly there then i tend to be nosy and make comments - but its balance of space and respect and knowing our personalities and how to make them fit together like a puzzle.


I know this is a long answer but marriage, love relationships they are a big deal, hope this helps you out atleast a little.

Answer 4

A sincere desire to put the welfare of your spouse above your own. Which can be work! Communication, clear communication.

Answer 5

Two words: communication and trust.

Answer 6

Honesty, laughter, and talking to each other.