how would you tell your parents to care?

Question

i have a dream to become an actress and/or a marine biologist but my parents keep telling me that it is never gonna happen because i would miss then to much. so what if i did its not like they cant come to visit me on their spare time. for the actress its not like im gonna move so europe for the rest of my life i plan to stay here where i live. if i do marine biology i can go some where in my state where they have a really really good aquarium. if i do both then my life would feel complete. please help me. my dreams are they only thing keeping me alive at this point.

im a teen and about ready to graduate

Answer 1

Well, it would help to know your age (to see if it is an ongoing longterm problem or new behavior on their parts), and whether your goals are realistic, which I can't know without knowing you. However, a general answer to your question is: first of all, you shouldn't have to GET your parents to care...they should ALREADY care. The problem is...maybe they do, and it's just in a form that you don't like. You can do two things to improve this situation. First, work like crazy to prepare for the future. That means doing as well as you possibly can in school, and showing your maturity by living up to whatever responsibilities you have at home and/or work. Second, speak calmly and candidly with your parents and tell them exactly what you've told me. It sounds like you have a real passion for these areas, and that can be a wonderful gift. Remind them that the great person you are came from them, and that you need their help and support to become the adult you were meant to be. Don't be nervous, remember to breathe and hold your head up. You have potential, and it's your job to sell that idea to your parents. One more thing...they may be afraid of the time you might step out on your own. That's natural, but it is their job as parents to prepare you to leave the nest, it's not their job to guilt you into staying close for their comfort if that is not the right thing for you. Reassure them, and trust that with your conduct you can convince them when you are ready to fly. Give it your best...and you will do fine. All good wishes to you.

Answer 2

Right now you sound young, your parents know that people, places and things change. You may only see yourself as a marine biologist actress one day and being a kick butt female firefighter the next. You are young and you never know what the winds of change has in store for you. Your parents are only trying to show you that they care and really want to be there for you.(Please forgive them they aren't ready to let you out of the nest yet.) Enjoy them while they still are here and cross other bridges when it's time.