I've turned into a nasty, growling, spitting cat. I don't like myself anymore and neither does anyone else. About a year ago, I got my feelings hurt really bad, because someone said something about me that wasn't true, and then I got attacked by everyone in the group and pretty much cast out. I can't seem to get over it, and I don't seem to be able to go back to being the nice person I used to be, and of course, no one remembers that I used to be nice. Now everyone expects me to be nasty, and I can't say "boo" without being accused of nastiness. The problem is, I can't really just leave and start over, because I'm widely known across a broad spectrum, people talked about me, and now I'm branded as a troublemaker everywhere.
2006-06-21 17:41:22 · 4 answers · asked by redhatgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have actually been through something very similar to this situation in my High School Days, where I was accused of doing things that I was would never ever do. It turned most of my friends against me (or people I thought to be my friends). It also caused a downturn in the relationship with the girl that I loved, and it made our relationship very rocky at the time. Her friends were so hell bent on breaking us up on all accounts and after about 3 years of trying they finally suceeded. Things like this had made me learn a few things....
If you have become an outcast in your group, then screw them. They obviously do not know the real you and that is now their own problem. Let them get a new friend to replace you. Eventually if you didn't do anything wrong, people will come around and realize who was really right and who was really wrong. And after a certain point, it won't matter anymore. When you are done with the high school years, you will most likely only have 2 or 3 true friends and if they can't stick by your side now, they surely won't be there when you graduate. The thing is is just to be yourself. You can be nice, but be firm and don't give in to the first person just because your desperate to get back in the group. Its not worth the time nor the effort....
~Chris~
2006-06-21 19:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really serious about trying to change back to a nice, then just apologize to those you hurt and explain you had a lot going on and was stressed or something. Then win them over with kindness. Eventually they will forgive past transgressions but it may take a while. But if you're serious about changing and do indeed become more polite then they will see the change and once again want to be around you. Hope this helps.
2006-06-21 17:48:06 · answer #2 · answered by lucygoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have personal issues to deal with. Perhaps
you can find some free counseling and/or anger management classes>
2006-06-21 17:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by cab veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not care what people think about you, because people are gonna dislike you if your nice or mean. And you need to learn to love yourself.
2006-06-21 17:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by anijshacyaira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋