yesterday i got to know that my grlfrnd is having one more boyfrnd other than me. she was my grlfrnd frm last 9 months. i love her so much tht i never thought of ditching her ever in my life. i really love her and dont wanna leave her. she is not yet knowng tht i got to know abt this all. now i m really very tensed and feeling bad. i dont know wat to say her. i m really confused. pls help me.
2006-06-21 17:40:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she cheated on you, chances are that she doesn't love and she definitely doesn't have any respect for you. I know you have strong feelings for her, but she is not the only girl you will ever fall in love with. Trust me on that. Your choice to make now is whether to move on now or move on later with greater heartbreak. As for how to tell her that you know, speak to her privately, do not make a big scene in front of family or friends, just tell her exactly what you know and then tell her that it is over. Do not let her try to dissuade you from taking action now. She doesn't love you as much as you love her. You need to find a nice girl who is going to be faithful to you and will return the same feelings to you that she receives.
Believe me, if you stay with her you'll never trust her again. And a relationship is nothing without trust.
2006-06-21 17:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by xtragicallyxbeautifulx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i am sorry for what happened to you. i think it is in the best interest to tell your girlfriend that you know about the other guy. i also think that if you love her you can try to forgive. i know that it won,t be easy but its being the bigger person in a nasty situation. now on the other hand if you think that you won,t be able to stay in this relationship then it is probably in your best interest to move forward with your life. if you talk to your girlfriend about the situation and she gives you a signal that she has feelings for the other guy too,then take it from me you would only be the spare tire in her life. you seem to be a nice young man and i want you to know that there are also nice women in this world just for you. if i were you i would take that negative energy and focus on an unfinished hobby or invest in something to occupy your mind. good luck...
2006-06-21 17:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by 0samaria s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to be sincere and direct to her that you know what is happening and that you are naturally not happy about it and you can do two things :1 break up right there or 2 give her a time to think and for you to think and then meet back and talk more calmly about each others' feelings and you will decide then if you want to continue with her or break up .
2006-06-21 17:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was your relationship an exclusive one? Is her cheating still going on? You need to talk to her about it. A cheater isn't always a cheater BUT you do need to confront her about it. Maybe she isn't ready for a one on one relationship. Communication is the key. You know the old saying "
If you love something set it free, if it comes back....."
2006-06-21 17:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by Cheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young. You hurt now but wouldnt you rather find these things out: betrayal, lies, etc. than several years down the road? Dump her on your terms. You dump her before she dumps you and that will make you feel better. But if she dumps you first its gonna ad insult to injury and you will feel worse.
2006-06-21 17:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by springroofer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can forgive her confront her about it. If she cares for you and loves you she might stop the affair, but if she doesnt stay with you move on with your life. There are more people out there and if it was meant to be it will be .
2006-06-21 17:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by jumpinjackdw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to ask youself this question?
Is it worth the pain? Are you willing to completely forget about this incident or will it haunt you?
If the answer is no then you will have to let her go. No matter how bad the pain is.
2006-06-21 17:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by laylamami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her about it and explain to her what you heard. If she cheated on you, she obviously don't love you wnyhow. I have been with my b/f for over three years and could/would never do that to him! Good Luck!!
2006-06-21 17:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is going to be hard at first, but go ahead and move on, because once she has done this she always will. It is a sad fact, but you need to move on no matter how hard it is sweetie. sorry.. :(
Remember too.. you don't owe her an explaination and you can begin to stop talking to her right now.
2006-06-21 17:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by xxxcariooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her why she cheated on you. ask her who she loves, you or the guy shes cheating with. tell her that its either you or that other guy. let her know how much you loved her. give her a day or two to decide if she doesn't know who she loves. if she is happy with the other guy and never seems sad around him and doesn't regret dating him, then she doesn't love you, dump her.
2006-06-21 17:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by aarlover13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋