ive been engaged before and he ended up cheating on me so i left him now i dont think i will ever be ready to go that far into a relationship. is because ive been hurt badly and dont have that trust in men any more or is it just me?
2006-06-21 17:32:07 · 12 answers · asked by holden1982 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's pretty natural, but while you are swearing off and hating men, you may miss someone that comes along to make you happy.
Be cautious and even if you aren't ready for any type of relationship, you may find someone that has cared for you for a long time.
You have to kiss a lot of horny toads to find your prince (lol)
2006-06-21 17:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel as though you will never be able to trust someone, but in time you will.
When you experience a bad break-up, especially when it is with someone you love dearly, you find you have a had time trusting others. You will trust again, you just have to give yourself a little time to get over the hurt.
I once was told by someone I loved dearly that when you are hurt in a relationship, your ego is just bruised and that once you accept the wrong that was done to you and are able to admit it to yourself, you will once again be able to love. it was hard to swallow, but once I did it, it worked and I have been married for 15 months now. I dated my husband for two years before that.
Love is a very tricky thing. It can make you feel on top of the world and it can also make you feel like dirt. It is no surprise that you will love and lose, but how you deal with it is what determines how strong you are.
Take sometime and focus on yourself. Remember that you can't find true love until you truly love yourself. Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-06-21 17:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat.
I was engaged to someone I thought was a wonderful man, and found him in bed with an ex friend. After that, I swore I would never be married or have children.
Yeah, I will be celebrating my second wedding anniversary in October, and have a gorgeous 10 month old daughter with the most wonderful man on earth. Good things come to those who wait. . .
2006-06-21 17:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe because of the truama you have gone through you may need some counseling to learn how to build trust again you have never been hurt likes this before so you need help through it... just trying to help ...but you 'll be able to trust again with a loving caring and understanding man.
2006-06-21 17:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I have been married before and my wife was cheating on me but even tho when we first broke up I felt that I would never be able to trust again and I knew that I never wanted to hurt that much again when the right girl came along my distrust went away and now I am with someone special that makes me happy...give it time and I hope you will come across the right one for you....
2006-06-21 17:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because you have been hurt before and you are afraid. You should give yourself time before getting really close to someone again. Start out really slow...holding hands, no kissing for the first few dates...just go really slow and get to know the person inside before you get to know the person on the outside. This is going to sound cheesy but you'll know when its right.
2006-06-21 17:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is just you. Period. just you. You can wall off your emotions all you want, you can protect yourself from possible pain, and yes, you can live a perfectly safe little life if you want...childishly safe. Personally, I would rather dance than sit on the side lines. I would rather love and loose than go it alone all the time. You have been hurt..well, welcome to the club of life. You can sit there and feel sorry for youself all you want, it is your right. But please, don't ask "where has my life gone" in 10 years! Your life, if you live it as you suggest, is going to go up in a puff of spite. And the only person you are spiting is yourself. Not very smart. ... but certainly your right.
2006-06-21 17:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time changes perspective. You won't likely jump as far as fast, but it's hard to live as an island. Give a guy a chance, but don't accept deception, and be honest with him and yourself. You'll be amazed at how fast this weeds out prospects and attracts reasonable companions.
2006-06-21 17:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by awesome_possum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so now what/ Punish yourself by closing yourself off to the possibility of love because of a jerk who's a loser. Be glad that you found out now and not after you were married. Now pick yourself up and go out and live life. Enjoy!
2006-06-21 17:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Right turned out to be Mr. Wrong. He's not the only fish in the sea. Someday you will find the right catch. Don't let this make you bitter, he's not worth it.
2006-06-21 17:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋