My husband and I have been married for over 10 years (been together for 13). In the last three months we've only had sex once. We talked about it a month ago and he said he was just tired. I am physically attractive, an ideal weight so at least I know its not because he's completely disgusted by me. But I'm confused, and feel very hurt and rejected. Any advice? What is the normal time for a guy that is too long without sex? I am 29 and he is 31. Help???
2006-06-21 17:21:41 · 18 answers · asked by Jess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd have to question his lack of interest. My hubby and I have been married 13 years. Four children. I'm 46, he's 44. I think he's in his second puberty as he wants to make love 3 times a week. When I say I'm tired he is like a kid, Slamming dresser drawers and ignoring me. Then when I give it to his the next day he says it's a sympathy ****. He's funny. But that's not true. I'm ready then. :) Good luck hun
2006-06-21 17:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While my husband and I haven't ever been abstinent that long, I felt the same way when he rejected my advances on the basis of being tired. Of course I am a little over my ideal weight, but am told I carry it well. Anyway, his thing was he wanted to relax. To get the emotional contact I needed (not sexual) and help him relax I would massage his temples, back, feet, or legs. I soon learned this turned him on more than anything I did intentionally.
2006-06-22 00:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somthing is not right... The normal time for a 31 year old straight guy would be about 10 minutes! Do some more digging and talking!
2006-06-22 00:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by MrJotto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy around his age, and that ain't normal. It's normal for the sex to slow down, both due to age (he ain't a spring chicken no more!) and due to the fact you've been together so long, but that is not acceptable. I mean, if things slow down to like once or twice a week, that's one thing, but you need some dick, my friend! It's a difficult subject, and one that could be discussed in couple's therapy! It's the kinda thing, if you ignore it, it could totally ruin your marriage!
2006-06-26 15:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound good...sorry to say.
I'm in my 30's and I could have sex daily if my wife would only give in. lol. Being tired is NOT a good excuse. No one is tired for 3 months, unless he has an illness. You need to have a serious discussion and tell him how you feel. NOW.
Good luck.
2006-06-22 00:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you really do need to either talk to him about this or get him to a doctor....this has nothing to do with you two getting together too young or being together too long and its not a male thing to get bored with one woman thats a little boy thing! if thats his problem then he needs to grow up! the whole point of being married and in love with someone is to be with them ...My marriage went the same way and I hate to say this but it was because my wife was cheating thats why she didn't want any at home......but before you make a decision you need to know that its not a medical problem causing his lack of interest maybe
2006-06-22 01:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop jerking off to Internet stag, and also to get checked for diabetes. cutting excess stag will allow him to look towards you for that affection, and checking his sugar will help his activity level, if not that, get him checked for depression. As a last ditch effort, get him up and moving. get the blood flowing, and get him exercising. anything , as long as he gets some exercise, and cuts out greasy things, that "sleepiness" should no longer be a problem. if all else fails, either get a vibrator, or get a divorce, you only live once, and if more you only know this time, so you better get it right this time around.
2006-06-22 00:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by emilio9382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude's running around you. I'm 31, girlfriend is 27 and we do it all the time. I work from 4:30am and get home around 7pm and never too tired. 31 y.o. male sex drive drops, but not that much.
2006-06-22 00:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be mean or rude but the majority of guys get tired of having sex with the same women over and over. I'll give him a little more time, but if he's doing this very often, then you might question him if his cheating, or if he's gay.
2006-06-22 00:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by dippset211@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two got married/together way too young. he knows it too at 31. we all get tired of women after a period of time . the chase is over and we like a new bod. sorry. it is just men , we are how we are
2006-06-22 00:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by tony s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋