I mean should I keep waiting , she says shes not sure but is in another relationship with a guy she doesn't like. we have 3 kids and married for 14yrs. I try not to think about her but when we talk on the phone(I call her) i just get so angry and hurtful. I just want things to be normal again
2006-06-21 17:18:51 · 25 answers · asked by Mr.J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's been 2 years, and it seems to me that she has made the steps to moving on. I know it's hard but you can't stop yourself from living, if she isn't making the effort to work on your marriage and it's been 2 years chances are she may not want to. Try and play the field for a little while, see how that works out for you, and if it's meant to be..she'll come back and you two would work on any problems y'all may have.
2006-06-21 17:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were married for 14 years ???? Strange, this question sounds as if it were written by a 14 year old. ! You have waited about 1 year and 11 months too long to get back into the swing of things. Your 'wife' is not coming back. She is stringing you along so she has a safety net...what a stupid arrangement this is. You are on beck and call, she is living "with someone she doesn't like??? sure she is. !! And I have some ocean front property just outside Phoenix to sell you. Wise up, my boy...you are living in la la land. And why in the hell would you want her back? That is even harder to believe than the rest of the story.
2006-06-21 17:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's saying "what's the point, that is only a chunk of paper" i might want to mission to say that he would not intend to ask you. you want to ask your self some not uncomplicated questions because he's made his emotions fairly sparkling. he's getting precisely what he needs from the relationship AND he nevertheless has his freedom. Are you prepared to stay with this indefinitely? Are you chuffed with the status of your relationship? Are you happy with the way issues are literally? because that is the way they are going to stay. If no longer, you would possibly want to favor to make some not uncomplicated judgements as to in case you pick to stay in this relationship or no longer. that is really no longer all about love, even if that is tremendous if this is a aspect, yet you'll improve to resent him eventually if what you particularly do pick is to get married. Then the love will die and also you'd be left with bitterness. If he hasn't requested you through now, opportunities are intense he not in any respect will. You both favor to settle for that or end the relationship and flow on.
2016-10-20 12:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by gripp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from someone who has been married for over 10 years, I have realized alot of hurtful things can be said an done over so many years. Whatever the reason for your seperation - you have to open the wounds again and completely heal them together. Otherwise, if you do get back together, youll just keep piling more problems over your scars. It may even take counseling, but if you love her - I mean *truly love* her, I'd say never give up and give everything you've got. Some people never get the chance to experience true love... it's a priceless gift.
2006-06-21 17:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without details it is hard to be objective. Two years is to long. Life is meant to be lived and if I had anything to say about it everyone would be happy. If you get on with your life she just might find that attractive. I am not suggesting that she will come back but it is obvious that what you are doing now is simply not working. In the meantime don't waste time on what was but deal with what is. See your children be a wonderful father and if you are legally separated from your wife start dating again. You might find that you can live life without her It will be rough in the beginning but don't waste anymore time hoping to recapture what once was. Good luck and May you be lead in the direction that is best for all of you. Good luck!
2006-06-21 17:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by joejo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok sweetie.. I am in this SAME SITUATION right now.. my ex is with his other g/f for two years... me and him have two kids and were married for 14 yrs. He is active right now with his "other family". He mentioned to me the other day on the phone that he didn't forsee it sticking very long between her and him and he just hasn't found a way out and for me to "keep the door open"...
Now, I must say.. he has said this before and come back and then broke my heart all over again by going back to her.
I wouldn't waste my time waiting any longer. At least get out and try not to think about her so much. She OBVIOUSLY hasn't stopped her life and isn't thinking about getting back with you so much as you are thinking about getting back with her. If you haven't already gotten "out there" and started dating then it is far past the time that you should be doing that!!!! now!!!
I know you love her. I know she is the mother of your kids. I know you have history. I know these things. I love my ex too. But we can't wait for them to come back because they may never come back sweetie. Never. And then you have wasted that whole time waiting just to be disappointed when you are still waiting in another three years.
"If it is meant to be, it will happen" REGARDLESS of time, place, or people involved!!
promise!
((((())))))
2006-06-21 17:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by xxxcariooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'd say 2 years is too long to wait especially if she is now with another man even if she is unhappy. if she was that unhappy she would leave him right, she did you. anyway you must be a very tolerant guy. it seems to me that she is keeping you in the wings as a safety net? what were the problems that existed in your marriage? if they have never been addressed and i doubt they were otherwise she would be with you and not him. if you want to get back with her so bad and it isn't just a familiarity thing, then give her an altermatum and say leave him and come to marriage counseling with me to try and repair our relationship or you will move on with your life and that you cant wait forever for her to make up her mind. the most important thing regarless is your children and their continued relationship with their daddy. whatever happens between you and her the kids need to be taken care of emotionally. they need to know for the rest of their childhood that you will always be there for them even if mommy and daddy dont live together. don't rush in to another relationship if she wont come back as your focus should be on your kids. they should be your wifes first priority too and not some guy that she isn't even happy with. what is that realtionship doing to your kids mental health? good luck. it wont be easy.
2006-06-21 17:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by kaylamay64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being hurtful to her isn't gonna get you what you want buddy!! true love waits or read 1 Corinthians 13 4-8. that will explain to you what love is!! its is as this verse says especially patient and if you still love her than you yes you will and should wait!! it will be worth it in the end and you will be blessed. you are a good man for waiting 2 years!! keep it up, and be the better person, but do not be angry and hurtful, all that will make you get is loneliness and resentment!
2006-06-21 17:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you have waited to long.... If she was coming back, she would have already... You ex don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you.. She thinks she has hurt you enough, but leading you on isn't good either.... This is your life and your wasting it away, waitingg on something that isn't going to happen... The reason you are angry and hurtful is the fact, you are not getting your own way.. You are hurt.... It took me 2 yrs to even date after my divorce, and he was telling me or still is he is coming back. He lives with another woman, but i am not foolish enough to believe that.... You need to find things you are interested in, and enjoy doing... Start dating, your special someone is out there... God has choose you to go another road then your wife.. You are needed somewhere else sweetie.. You never know your special someone is out there waiting on you... Don't waste anymore of your time, live your life, enjoy you kids..... Your future is out there waitin for you to leap in, and the love of your life........... Good Luck sweetie
2006-06-28 11:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how the relationship ended and why.. An affair? Abuse? Is she still in love with you? Regardless of why it ended, things will never be the same as they were before you split. Who knows though, maybe things could be even better with a second chance. As long as it makes the both of you happy and not just for convience or the childrens sake. Good luck and God bless!
2006-06-21 17:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by littlebluebear22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋