i need help with my sex life..............!?

Question

you see, i think im gay ccause im attracted to guys bodies with abs, but then i think im straight cause i really like girls..... then when i see both girls and boys at the same time, i dont feel anything...... am i gay,straight, or bi.... and if i am, how do i tell my parents, im just 14..... and is my penis to small? its 5.5 '

no i havent had sex ith guys... and i dont wanna try it..... and alot of u r sayin that just cause im atracted to guy's bodies with abs that imm not gay that i just wanna be like them, i guess u migt be right

actuallly i dunno if i wanna have sex with a man just to try it... but im just curious

Answer 1

ur bicurious and ur also a dumba*ss A gay and a straight man worked together and became close friends. Then the straight man became a Christian. When his friend learned about it, he was concerned and asked, "Now that you are a Christian, will you still love me?" Isn't that a tragic question? What did this man think about Christians that made him ask that? The Christian has a love that transcends anything known by the world, doesn't he/she? Yet how many Christians would desert such a friendship? Christians! Jesus' love included; our lack of love excludes. I have read that Carl Sandburg was once asked what he thought was the ugliest word in the English language. He thought for a minute and replied, "Exclusion."

Answer 2

Lots of people don't realize their true sexuality until they're much older than 14. Me, I had a bf from the age of 14 to 21 (I'm a girl). After we broke up, I tried a relationship with a girl. I'm glad I tried both, but I am now married to a great guy. Some studies say that everyone is a little bit of a mixture - no one is 100% straight or gay, no matter how much they deny it. Wait and see, and don't share with your parents just yet.

As to your penis - the average size of a guys penis is estimated at six inches, so you are well on your way. And it's true that size doesn't matter - this from a girl who's had lots of partners. Don't listen to people who say theirs is 12", its almost certainly an exaggeration, and you'd have a hard time finding a girl who would want one that big anyway. I'm talking to you like an adult cuz you have some very adult questions.

And pay no attention to people who tell you you're going to go to Hell if you're gay. They don't know what they're talking about.

Answer 3

You might be feeling admiration for the guys' bodies because that's the type of body you want. Nothing wrong (or gay) about that. Since you really like girls, you're probably not gay. Best thing to do is to go out on dates with different girls. Get to know girls and see if you really are attracted to them. And by the way, penis size is a bunch of crap. You are who you are -- and there ain't nothin' wrong with that!

Answer 4

Exactly you are 14 you don't have to rush into telling your parents anything. Just relax and have fun. Right now it sounds like you are just bi curious. I know I am. I'm a year older then you and I'm a girl. There is nothing wrong with it it comes with going through puberty. Have fun and until you are certain don't worry about your parents.

Answer 5

mate your only 14. I know I know, it is frustrating to be told your ONLY 14, but you are just getting to the part of your life where your figuring things out. just go out and have fun. hang with mates and over the next couple of years you will start to work it out. If you are really worried about it still, watch porn and see what happens,see how you feel. but remeber that at 14 there is a whole lot of things happening with your body so what you think today may not be the same tomorrow.

Answer 6

Hello again,

Still agonizing, now under another screen name huh.

Your penis is large for your age and very close to average for an adult man -- so since unless you entered puberty at like 8, its gonna grow a little more -- it will be at least average.

You are you, it doesn't matter what your sexual prefernce is and it will sort itself out soon enough. You might be bi, or you might just like girls emotionally but be sexually attracted to guys.

Stop worrying. LET IT GO, its better for you if you do. Then go with what you find yourself wanting, then you will know. Its ok to be straight, ok to be gay, ok to be bi and okay to want to try everything. Stop worrying, for your own sake. Conctact me if you need to just talk it out.

Warm thoughts,

Reyn
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PS and to STOC and others who argue that he shouldn't try to declare his sexuality -- I knew what I was at 8 emotionally and figured out the sexual part at 11 -- I came out at 14. I am not impressed. I agree that he should let his own mind sort it out -- but its already in there and has been. Giving him misinformation will not help.

Answer 7

Your bi, DEFINATELY BI. The only problem is is that the world only accepts straights and gays, so pick which one you want to live as and have sex with the other in the closet. If you tell people you are BI, then the straights won't want to be around you, and the gays will hate you.

Answer 8

You're bisexual. Well, it's actually your choice whether or not to tell your parents. Mine still don't know I'm bisexual. And they won't ever know. Because I know what will happen. Your penis is an average size right now. Mine is .5" bigger than yours and I'm 22. You'll still grow an inch, maybe 2". Have you ever had sex with a guy?? Do you want to try??

Answer 9

Maybe you look at guy's abs, or look at guys because you wish you can be like them, or you admire their beauty. This doesn't mean you are attracted to them. Also, your hormones are all over the place, raging. You're at that age where you look at the wall, and it looks attractive. Give it time. Don't tell anyone yet. Let yourself get defined with the passing of time, and as you mature.

Answer 10

You don't know what your sexual orientation is, so how can you tell your parents anything? Let it go for now, and don't worry about labels. You'll figure everything out when you need to.

As to penis size, you're average according to researchers. And you're still young so it may grow some more. Again, don't worry about it.