do you think its wrong to have thoughts about cheating on your hubby after he has emotionally cheated on you over and over and says it wont happen again but always does........and you are 100% faithful, always by his side, and always willing to forgive his mistake.
NO im not weak i give him hell afterwards and he knows im a cm away from my breaking point. but understand i believe in my marriage but a person can only take so much.
Is it wrong to want him to see how it feels to have the person you love the most break your heart. i have never wanted to cheat on him until recently i dont even look at other men........yes i am a good woman and i know this.........so serious answers only no bs i have NOT cheated EVER.
2006-06-21 17:08:45 · 18 answers · asked by mrsurgtech09 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating is wrong no matter who does it and if you cheat because he has it will not get better just worse I have been through it all I have been on both sides of it my man cheated on me eight years ago and I held a grudge for 4 years then cheated back it was hell trying to put all the pieces back together and my sexual relationship with him has not ever been the same since. You can forgive but you will never forget. God is the only one who brought us through this and made us more than what we were before.
2006-06-21 17:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by stone_butterfly04 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not cheating to look at a man and say Hay nice piece of a**. It is only cheating if you fallow through with the thought and find out if he is or is not.He knows you will for give him that is why he keeps doing it. But you intend to cheat & by cheat I mean have an affair you need to get a divorce. Because two wrongs do not make a right.
2006-06-21 17:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by usserydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating on him is not going to solve the problem, only make matters worse. So get that idea out of your mind. If he has cheated on you time and time again, I don't think you have a marriage anymore. He always goes back on his word and does it again. You can only forgive someone so many times. He needs a shock in his life. Pack your bags and leave.
2006-06-21 17:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong to have thoughts like that. People who are hurting want the person that hurt them to feel their pain. The victims did nothing wrong and yet they are the ones that got hurt. Do the people that hurt others expect the victims to just sit back and not say anything? Of course the vicitms are going to lash out in anger, what they feel is for real. Cheating on him will not solve anything, it will only add to the problems. Hold your head high. Don't lower yourself to his standards. You are better than that.
2006-06-21 17:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong for you to have those thoughts, but you should give it alot of thought before actually getting too involved. Why dont you make a few male chat buddies on yahoo and see that grabs your hubby attention before wondering out of the home. Even if he your hubby forgives you might not forgive yourself for going too far.
2006-06-21 17:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by maiare560 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve a real, good, man. Cheating on him will make you feel worse, not better. Just get rid of him and be more careful next time around. I know, it's tough. Men and women are just so damned different. Move on while you still have alot of life to live.
2006-06-21 18:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you know your answer already, you just want affirmation that you're right.
OK...you're right.
And what the hell is "emotional" cheating? Just because he looks at another woman does not mean he is cheating, it means that he is a man. I mean, if he has a lover, than that's cheating, but don't go making mountains into molehills.
Of course, I don't fully understand this particular situation. Do as you think is best.
2006-06-21 17:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by TheWiseOne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It only human to have the thoughts, but find a better less self destructive way to get your point across to him,, maybe by saying that this is his last chance to prove himself trustworthy to you and if it happens again you will end the relationship. And if it does,, then seperate and tell him you will never come home until he does counseling with you and seperate to deal with his issues.
Counseling now would be a great idea too!
2006-06-21 17:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What age bracket are you in and what area of the Midwest are you located. If you are "payin' the price for the crime" and you didn't do it, shoot! Go on, do it.
My first wife accused me of cheating for years. I finally gave in and had about a dozen or so affairs before we split up. I figured if I was going to be made miserable at home about my "fictional" affairs, I may as well get some fun out of it!
2006-06-21 17:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T LOWER YOURSELF TO HIS BEHAVIOR! It might make you feel a little better at the time, but you'll end up feeling like crap because you'll discover that it won't hurt him in the same way it hurt you. You're a good woman, so walk away while you can still find a man who doesn't walk on you like this one does.
2006-06-21 17:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by bikerpjb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋