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Question

I have a step daughter who is 5 years old. The first time she met me was last year when I got married to my wife. She has a very unpredictable mood guys. Sometimes she is super friendly and loving and many other times she is downright insulting and mean! I can hardly recognize the girl who 10 minutes back was playing in my arms and kissing me suddenly becomes hostile and mean. She is like this to her sister and also to her mom, Tell me some thing guys, does she have a split personality?? What’s the matter with her guys? Will she ever change?? I am sick of this continuous mood changes of the little girl. Help me please guys. I hate and love her both in equal measures.. What should I do guys? please tell me.. Will she ever change?

Answer 1

in time she will change

Answer 2

Welcome to parenthood! At the age of five, children can be very unpredictable! I wish I had a dime for every time my children told me they hated me or that I was a bad mommy.You need to understand that under the current circumstance this little girl might be confused as to her role in the family. Does she see her biological father on a regular basis? Does she have siblings at his home or only at yours? These are important questions that will affect her relationship in your home. Does she act naughty to get your attention away from her sister? Is she jealous of the attention that Mom gives to her sister? Does she leave your house to go to her Dad's where the rules are different then return home to your house where the rules change again? It is never an easy situation to blend a family and to be the step-dad. You were not a part of your stepdaughter's life for four years so she may not trust you yet. Are you consistent with your discipline? Do you respect her Mother in front of her or do you yell or undermined her? Do you follow through with your promises? If you say you are going to read a book to her before bed, do you always follow through? This young girl needs stability and consistency above all things. The way our children come to trust us is through our behavior so say what you mean then mean what you say! Be patient, loving and spend as much quality time with her as possible. Remember that a thousand "You're a good girl" praises can be destroyed by one "your a bad girl" comment.

Answer 3

The good news is she will change but once she hits 15 its all gonna start again.whats wrong with the child is she is confused.She may look upon you as the man who "took" her mammy.Because she laughs & jokes with you shows that she really does like you but must think that she is betraying her father for doing so.So then you get the behaiver you do.As for her mother,she did wrong for marrying another man in the eyes of the child & maybe the sister did wrong for excepting you.The truth is this sounds to me like a very loyal child to her father & is angry that her mother & sister don't feel the same.But like I said it will get better. She will come to realise that your not the "bad man".If your still not happy,you go over to her & quietly ask whats wrong.But be firm & tell her that you can not help if she doesn't calm down & use her words.Convince her that you do care & truely do want to help.Good Luck!

Answer 4

She needs a doctor, not advice. Violent mood swings are indicative of serious medical problems, perhaps mental problems. I cannot believe you both have let this go on without getting some answers....no, this is NOT normal in children OR adults. This goes far beyond attention seeking devices. Has this child been abused???

Answer 5

My son was like that and a friend of mine child was like that. Sounds like bi-polar . My friends child had that and now the she is on the right meds so great. My kid had ADHD. He couldn`t keep foceus on noyhing and when he came to love on his mom or myself he do a quick hug and take off and then sometimes he wouldn`t leave your side. But in your case have her doctor check her for bi-polar . That`s just like my friends child situation.

Answer 6

LOOOOTS of 5 year olds are like that... it's called temper tantrums... but if you're really worried ask you family doctor to recommend a good child psychologist... More than likely it's ok but If you're worried... no harm in checking it out with a Professional to be sure..... Key word PROFESSIONAL... make sure this is someone your doc recommends and you'll be ok

God bless you and yours!

Answer 7

take her in to the doctor, and have her tested for manic depression. manic depression is a mental illness formed from a lack of serotonin being passed through nerve cells in the brain, as are all forms of depression. regardless of life factors, she could still have it.

Answer 8

well since your her STEP FATHER its probably because her parents arent together and shes unsettled. I nanny all the time for 2 kids and this girl is just like that. she can be so sweet and then freak out. she got so mad at me because I wouldent take her to get a hamburger it was like hell in a box. she needs therapy. I talked to her step dad and mom and they said they noticed it too, I recomeneded them to a psychologist from my church (doesnt have to be from a church) and she has gotten so much better, she never acts like that anymore, she just needs someone to talk to her who she can trust and talk about anything, and she doesnt want to talk to her friends about it becasue she thinks they will treat her diffrently and she doesnt want to talk to you or her mom or family about it because she thinks yall will treat her diffrently.

Answer 9

she will change some time, i think that she does not know how to deal with things that come up in life, with not having both parents around to teach her, she can get angey fast, i have seen this in many kids.

Answer 10

Dude, check her diet & wether or not she's getting sufficient rest.

After that, check to see if she's getting sufficient exercise & extroversion (outside stuff).

Keep It Simple!

Answer 11

Sounds like pure trouble to me.