they are really in love and have a baby together...they have been together for about 4 years and the last 3 was spent while he was in prison....he plans to take care of them both and make up for lost time..what are your feelings on this? The reasons behind his prison term has nothing to do with killing or rape or drugs......
2006-06-21 15:59:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is not in there for abuse either...it was something stupid and childish he did before they even met...they both plan to be together and talk quite often through letters....she just wants to know if people find it hard to deal with this kind of situation?
2006-06-21 16:15:03 · update #1
they are already married and have been for almost 3 years and he is in trouble for violating his probation for breaking and entering a few years before they met...he violated his probation when he left that state....and gave him all his original time back...
2006-06-21 16:28:56 · update #2
We Thank he could be gay.
2006-06-22 08:54:45 · update #3
I think if his intentions are good and he plans to make up for lost time and take care of his family then there's really nothing to worry about....it's a relief that he isn't there because of killing or rape or drugs....I'm sure that things will be OK...probably will need some much needed time together even though it will be hard to adjust again....hope she and her husband have the best of good luck.....
2006-06-21 16:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by MELISSA&ERIC 4 · 13⤊ 2⤋
One of my good friends was in the same situation. The only problem she really had was the fear of when he got out, him going back for violating his parole or whatever. Because he did get out once then violated his parole then went back to jail. and they fought about it all the time. and he has a hard time getting a job just because he was in prison even though he didn't steal anything or kill anyone or rape anyone or anything horribly bad that has anything to do with working. He was in an accident with his mom and his mom died and he got vehicular homicide. So pretty much just the fear of him going back and the stress of him finding a job. Also their son was a little over 2 when he got out...so they had to deal with that too... It will be hard for them but if they are truly in love they will get through it! I'm pretty sure that the state they are in probably have some kind of counseling they can go to if they need to too. Even if they are horribly in love it sometimes helps to get a 3rd party in there to help out with some things!
2006-06-22 00:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he gets out she needs to give him his space. They talk a good prison game to help pass time. He make think that this is what he wants, but she has to realize he has not had any female contact in 3 years. He has been locked down.When he gets out more than likely he will not want to be locked down again. Your frame of mind is different when you are free than when you are dreaming about being free. If she wants to pursue this with him tell her don't lock her feelings in on what he says now. Wait until he gets home and wait about 6 months to a year before making any life changing decisions when he gets out. I have seen this before when the man makes these prison promises but he changes his mind and ends up with another on the outside.
2006-06-21 23:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl i know first hand did 8 years with a motherf--------- and when the b----- came out he ran all the collect call i took the letters i wrote the packages i sent the visits i went to ohyeah we were in love head over hills we was going to do this and that and get married and have kids and grandkids buy a house oh i know the whole family girlhe is with another girl now been out for 3 years seenhim about 10 times everybody said iwas stupid he will leavel ike they all do when they come home if he told me the grass was blue i believed it and i would of made u believe too any man that goes to jail always leave u after u gave them your all u stop your life for them and u get nothing in return if i was heri would be very careful and not put allmy $ on him coming out and doing the right thing u have to remember the yare locked up for however long they have to get use to civilazation again that means everything they miss they want to know again running the streets flirting hanging out with the fellows all that dont put her $ on it
2006-06-21 23:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i hope it had nothing to do with abuse either! and if did not have to do with that then i think your cuz should give him a second chance ! See how he adjusts to society and then from there she will be able to determine if thats what she wants or not ! That is really the only way your cuz will know if she wants to still be with him! But try to make sure from the day he gets out of prison he takes his responsibilities to his child and your cuz are for real ! LIKE DO NOT MAKE LIFE TO CUSHY FOR HIM!
2006-06-21 23:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Melimel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are in love and they are willing to work on their relationship they will be ok. They might wanna get into counseling when her husband gets out of prison-because the adjustment might be harder than they think.
She shouldn't worry so much - she needs to just take everything in stride. Make sure she is talking to her hubby as much as possible and being honest with him about her feelings and concerns.
2006-06-21 23:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose they have been communicating for the three years while incarcerated. It will be difficult. Your cousin has basically been on her own, making her own way and her own decisions. Things will be different and adjustments will need to be made for both parties. If he has a felony record, and surely he does since he has been in for so long, will haunt him for a long, long time. It will take strength and committment .
2006-06-21 23:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 move on 7 leave that alone. Are you the only one because when he gets out he might go to the other woman. And what is he put in 4???????????
2006-06-21 23:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he work for enron?
2006-06-21 23:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋