How do you get over your husband cybercheating. Been over a year now. He swears it was just talking!?

Answer 1

Then he can talk to you. Computers have opened a gateway into our homes and the intimacy built on-line is a false intimacy. My sister broke up with her husband over the same issue. He just could not get away the computer and would not stop talking to his cyberfriends. Eventually they parted ways -- because he had this problem before they married and she had broken up with him prior because of it and he had promised to change his ways.

Develop hobbies with this man and find out from him what he finds so interesting about these people on line.

Answer 2

It's been over 6 years for me and I'm not over it. We are still together but am not as trusting. I check his emails to make sure, not a good way to live but I lost that PC trust a long time ago . I found the B with an itch on line and checked her. I trashed our PC when I found out and he came home to a phone bill (yes, he called her long distance) stuck to the front door with a knife. Psycho on my part.....yes. Proved a point.....yes.

It's not easy but at the same time if it never got physical, then talk to him and see what it was that he felt he could "Chat" with someone else and not you. I always thought my old man could talk to me about anything and it turned out that somethings he couldn't.

Ask yourself if your marriage is strong enough that some stupid lonely home wrecker (because sad to say men do admit they are married when chatting) is worth ruining what you have. That and some computer savvy won't hurt.

Answer 3

Just talking about what? You have to ask yourself that. Daily chit chat to a stranger or pawning himself off as someone he wasn't with a definite motive of something less than honorable? Big difference there. Not just that, but what's he doing chatting with a stranger when he has you to talk to? I'd be checking out the details and getting the story straight.

Answer 4

Girl, step up your self esteem, because life is too short to stress what your man is doing when you are not around. Everything in the dark or closet always come to the light and falls out the closet.

Live your life and become active, try the gym, hanging with the girls and/or your man; there are many things you can do to keep your imagination from running wild.

Answer 5

I guess you have to make a decision that you love him and want to trust him, just as a someone who actually caught their spouse with another person physically would have to do - if you want to save your marriage.

You have to talk about it and try to ease your pain, and then promise to forget, forgive an go forward.

Although it's not so easy to forget, to forgive means to end it right there and never bring it up again. If you can't do that, try a marriage counselor and see if a mediator can help you bring it to an end....otherwise the rest of your marriage will be bitter.

Answer 6

This is just my take on this...

Cybersex is purely fantasy as long as it is kept within TEXT and not carried to a "Real Life" situation such as phone or in person.

Yes you can wonder why your man cyber cheated in the first place... but it is the same as him watching a porn movie, or looking at porn pics or reading those types of magazines... Only it is more interactive....and this is just stimuli for men...

As long as he stays in your bed.. and keeps his cybering to text, it is not worth getting all stressed over... It usually is harmless.

Tawny

Answer 7

First, its just cyber talking. Later, one day when he get to know someone right, they will meet and have an affair. If he love to talk, ask him talk with you. This type of husband cannot be trusted.

Answer 8

My husband and I have this thing...cheating is anything that you do that you wouldnt do if your spouse were there...so if he can say that he would of had these "conversations" with you sitting next to him than you can believe he was just talking...if he cant than you need to know if he is over his "fling"

Answer 9

He says "just talking", you say, cheating? which one is it? I'd say most of the married ppl online I know, do cheat. I'd throw out the computer if I was you. I don't know how you'd get over it IF he's still online. If he's not online anymore just let it go.

Answer 10

Cyber "cheating" is just as it says. No matter what form it is cheating is cheating. But if you love him you should be able to trust him. If you do not trust him then you should not have to get over it you should leave it to him to help you over it.