my best mate made a pass at her, should i deck him or tell him not to come here again, or not say anything.
2006-06-21 15:31:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First question you should ask is, was she flattered or annoyed by it???
Second question you should ask is, is she interested in him???
Third question you should ask is, why did he make a pass at her???
Fourth question you should ask is, does it really matter to you???
Personally, I find that women love to get that kind of attention, the fact that your wife told you, says that she is deeply in love with you... Now the fact that your "best" friend made the pass, shows that either he was drunk, thought that there was a problem with the marriage and wanted to take his chances, or just doesn't respect you as a friend...
Maybe you should get your wife to come onto him in the SEXIEST way possible, get him in a compromising position, then when he is ready to pop, say that she'd hoped he'd bigger equipment... ;)
You getting violent might not be a good idea... But letting her belittle him is so much funnier..
2006-06-21 21:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If you 'Trust' your wife, & believe what she has told you to be true: which one would hope you do, and she is... then I personally would find out how many times this has happend, when, where, and under what curcumstances!?
1. Once maybe a foolish mistake on the part of your friend (maybe he was pissed).
2. Twice is taking the piss & no mistake!!
3. 3 times or more, AND I would not like to say!!
If only once..
Then ask your mate 'Why' he did it!! If your okay with his answer: then you can choose whether or not to forgive him, let it go, and carry on with your friendship should you wish...
And tell him (though he should do this off his own bat) to appologise to your wife for his stupidity!!
If more than once:
Then obviously it was not a mistake, or a drunken fumble: In which case I would tell him to stay the hell away from the both of you: with a stearn warning that if it should happen again, you wont be so forgiving!!
But unless he does it again... don't hit him... however much you may want to... this will only take you down to his level, and will probably end up with you being the one in court on an assault charge!!
Good luck.. and I hope it all works out well for you..All!!
2006-06-21 23:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by englands.glory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask your besr friend why he made a pass at your wife if you know him well then you will know if he lies about it and if the answer is not good enough then your best bet is to tell him that he should not go near your wfe again but there is no need to deck him that will only lead you into trouble and not knowing your wife. it could posibley be that she took him up wrong or that she thinks you are spending more time with your mate and not her and let me tell you some women do try to stir it up so that you will fall out with your mate and stay at home with her but as i said i dont know your wife and your mate could have over stepped the boundry but just ask him quitely and if you think he did your better of telling him not to come near you or your wife again it would only cause you to do something that could getyou into alot of trouble
2006-06-22 01:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by pl0dge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course u have to say something. If i were a guy, i'd probably want to deck him too. It's bad enough that ur wife's being hit on....but by ur own best friend...totally unacceptable, and ur anger is justified.
But u have to take it easy, calm down and think about what u'r going to do. One of them is definitely calling him up on it and finding out what he has to say for himself(whether or not he's sorry and regrets his action). The second is knowing were that leaves u as friends...u might want to remove the "best" and leave the "mate"...maybe even keep a little bit of a distance from him.
But the decision is up to u. taking time out to think about it puts u in a better position to take a mature and reasonable action on the matter.
Remember though...violence is never the way...NEVER !
2006-06-22 05:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by cookie_recipe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife might be making it up, are you and your best friend close, if you are and he's always round and you are always going out with him, she might be jealous and want to try and break you and your best mate up! Or i would just ask him and see what he, says but dont say did u make a pass at my wife, say would yo, or would you ever make a pass at a best mates wife and say how horrible it is, and put him on a guilt trip !! good luck
2006-06-22 04:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie_92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your wife doesn't like him and wants to start something. I would just ask him if he did. He'll probably deny it even if he did do it but he probably won't do it again if he knows your wife will tell you. Maybe it was just a harmless flirt. There are guys out there that just like to flirt but would never act on it and would turn and run if she flirted back. Some of my husbands friends flirt with me but I know that they would never try anything and if they did I would just keep my distance until he gets the message that I'M not interested.
2006-06-21 22:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce your wife, she's too good for you.
Only kidding.
Tell your soon to be ex-mate he's a cnut, and have no more to do with him.
Normal behaviour my asre, maybe if you were 10 years old but not now.
Nip it in the bud mate, or he'll always do it, and your beloved may one day faulter, or have had an argument with you, and BANG it's done.
Get rid of the tawt.
2006-06-21 22:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell nah don't let it go! This will signal to your wife and your friend that you don't care much about your wife and/ or you are to scared to stand up for yourself and your wife. Tell the punk you don't appreciate what he did and since he has no reguard for you all's friendship (by doing something so tacky). You don't want his friendship anymore. So don't call you again or come to your home. And then never fool with that fool again! Good luck!
2006-06-21 22:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by my_first_love_85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you know what he has done and tell him if he try's anything like it again he will be no longer welcomed to your home.Tell him you can forgive him once because your wife is a very beautiful lady and you don't blame him for trying, But If he doesn't leave it at that you won't be so understanding next time.
2006-06-21 22:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the only time I'd think you should let it go. Tell you wife he must of had a momentary weakness and you would like to let it go. You have to talk to her about it or she may feel you don't believe her. If it happens again have a sit down with your buddy and tell him that you won't tolerate it. If it happens after that, he is not a friend.
2006-06-21 22:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by dkhae1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋