why does it take so much to make a marriage work?

Answer 1

Actually it isn't really work if you both are on the same page most of the time. I love being married to my hubby. It will be 13 years and four beautiful children this August. We married on our third date and the honeymoon never ended. Good luck to you and yours hun.

Answer 2

People have a lot of misconceptions about marriage. They think you're going to get everything you've ever wanted... the stuff you missed out on as a child, love, support.... like marriage is this thing that gives. It doesn't. Marriage is more like a living thing, and it takes a lot from you. Like a child. It needs work. It needs nurturing. It is a job and an incredible amount of hard work to keep one going. The secret of keeping a marriage going? Don't fall out of love with each other at the same time, don't leave, don't die. The secret to a happy marriage? Read Seven Principle of a Successful Marriage. It will help you.

Answer 3

Any relationship is work, and marriage is at the top of the list. Why?
Marriage is two people coming together. 2 people from different backgrounds and upbringings, different experiences and emotions.
Other relationships like we have with our siblings also need adjustments, but we don't always care about the happiness of our siblings. But, in a marriage, we know which 'buttons' to push and can hurt and so it is difficult, especially when we are angry. We need to remember that although we are different we are the same.
We are 2 halves that become one full.
And as said by someone else here, Anything that is worth having is hard work. We know the worth of love and that is why we struggle to keep it.

Good Luck!!

Answer 4

I don't take much to make a marriage work if there is truly love. Marriage has it's ups and downs, 60/40 and 10/80 days. The most important thing is respect and trust. Finance plays a big role when there is lack of, but if both of u are equally working to change it things will smooth out. Selfishness comes in place on both sides, but of course we only see our mate's.

Relax, respect and work toward growth for both of yourself, the lack of these will break you down and the relationship will deteriorate.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

I have been married for quite awhile now and the 'work' we did, we did it in the first year and something....it tales allot to be able to understand what your husband ( partner) wants/needs/expects.
It is only normal but the hardship makes your relationship stronger. Life would not be fun and exciting if everything was simple and known.
It takes so much yes but it's so worth it if you have the right partner.
Do you ever need to convince yourself to do something? Like get on a diet or.....go to work? If the answer is yes then you can get an understanding as to why trying to make a marriage work might take a bit of work itself.

Answer 6

Nothing worth doing tends to be easy. Easy os for video games and crossword puzzles in elementary school. The hard times when it seems as if there is no way to get a marriage to work should balance out with the good times, but just as in a casino, things tend to run in streaks where a lot of bad things happen. I only hope you are strong enough to work through the losing streak until you start winning again. And if not, there are ways to get help, unlike when you are at the craps table or in a hand of blackjack. Good luck, I know you need it because all of us do.

Answer 7

Allow me to quote something that always stuck with me. I married at 19 (no kids as of yet) and 15 yrs later I remind myself of this quote (it was also used in a movie) that reminds me why I married....

"Marriage has in it less of beauty, but more of safety, than the single life; it hath not more ease, but less danger; it is more merry and more sad; it is fuller of sorrows and fuller of joys; it lies under more burdens, but is supported by all the strengths of love and charity; and those burdens are delightful".
Jeremy Taylor (1613-1667)

There is a sentence or two left out, but I remind myself of this when I question my marriage. Why does it take so much to make a marriage work?? If it were easy then it would not be love.

Answer 8

I think the one of the hardest part of making a marriage work is accepting the changes in each other that naturally (mind and body) occur due to maturing and life events. This can be difficult if one partner is stuck in an earlier phase.

Answer 9

Because it does. Compromise and communication, listening to each other and a mutual respect is key. If marriage were easy, then no one would be getting divorced. People don't realize that marriage is a great responsibility -- and a great joy if done with the right person.

Answer 10

Marriage is a faulty concept as is. Men by nature need to spread their seeds around and bone down different ladies. If they say they don't, they lying, they have low self esteem or they just too lazy to hunt for Ho's. Woman need constant affection and love. Over time men grow tired and resentful of the effort it takes to have to prove they're still in love with their spouse. Woman will always look to be romanced and complimented. Men just don't have it in them for the long run. They wine dine and all that simply to 69. Once that mission is completed they look to conquer again.

Answer 11

Because you have female on one side of the equation and male on the other...and that surely is not equal. Males typically (though not all) are the antithesis of female. I mean, you may like the same restaurants and some of the same movies, but overall, you are going to be COMPLETELY DIFFERENT on a very basic level. The very differences you love now, may become the things you hate later on. To keep that from happening, talk often but above all LISTEN. Know that you are not always right and know that you will have to compromise on many things. Remember why you love each other.