I just found out my ex-husband is getting remarried. This makes me sad because I don't think I'm over him yet and I haven't even really dated anyone since I moved out (he had a date the day I left and that is why I left him). Any suggestions?
2006-06-21 15:12:38 · 9 answers · asked by drjkmc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I found out he was chatting with other women online and sending one in particular flowers and gifts (she was also married and later tried to become my friend). I realize it was the right thing for me to move out but for some reason I tend to only remember the "good times".
2006-06-21 16:22:40 · update #1
Sweetie, you may never be over him, just wish him well, and move on.... I know that its hard to do, but one step in front of the other.... Go out make new friends, get into things you like to do, go new places..... He's life has went another road, yours is leading you somewhere else.... You happiness lies elsewhere, and it might be better then what you had with your x..... Don't lose hope... Believe me, he isn't going to forget you.... God needs you somewhere else sweetie, and look at it that way..... Your happiness is still to come and unfold.......... Good luck
2006-06-28 11:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't let go yet--what other people do can't "make" you feel sad: deep inside, that's a choice you're making to feel sad about this.
Look at what the others have said here: this is a husband who treated you horribly. And now he's marrying someone else--you would have had a life of misery with him (and thank goodness you realized this and left)--so get out with some girlfriends and celebrate your butt off!
You made a very wise decision--now go for the whole nine yards and enjoy the rest of your life!
2006-06-21 15:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, we're in the same boat with an ex-husband getting married... mine's getting remarried in August... don't be sad... be glad that someone else is going to take on your troubles. Obviously he was over you before you left. Go to www.myspace.com, make some friends... and don't look back. I wasn't over my first husband when he got remarried and so I made a bad mistake in getting married just to prove that I was wanted when he told me he was marrying the woman he was going to spend the rest of his life with... I thought that was me. Don't let your feelings for him lead you to ruin as it did me. You know he's no good so why are you wasting your time pining over someone who isn't worth it?
Sounds like you could use a little "me" pampering... someone needs to take good care of you. And, a group of unconditional friends is more important than having a conditional boyfriend or husband.
2006-06-21 15:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by 1Jazzy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you did the right thing to move out. I'm sure you instinctively knew he was cheating and that is why you ended it. That does not mean you stopped loving him. It just meant you didn't want a relationship like that.
That was a good thing and a smart move. People hurt us in so many ways and we have to realize they are not good for us or care about us. You can love him, but know in your heart that you need to find someone who can truly love you as a person. Be glad you can now find someone to truly love you and not worry about him. He probably will hurt the next girlfriend anyway. Good luck.
2006-06-21 15:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was almost in the same shoes as you. My divorce was finaly on 6/21/05 and my ex was married 2 months later.
In a divorce, after all the pain goes away, you do only remember the good times... and that makes it hard to let go.
I imagine you sit and wonder what their doing right now, or if he loves her more than he loved you when you married and other things like that. How did he celebrate Valentines day with her and what will they do on their anniversary.. Just examples... but I think you know what I mean.
It's hard to know that your ex moved on and you haven't... but in the end, you have to walk away knowing your better off... and force yourself to remember the bad things and grin when you realize SHE will now have to deal with those things.... :)
Tawny
2006-06-21 16:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Tawny Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not over him. You need to wish him well. You need to move on. Go out tonight and have a good time.
2006-06-21 15:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by SAHM/Part Time Tutor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake-up honey.....If he had a date the day you left...then he had to have been with her BEFORE you left home.
2006-06-21 15:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should feel sorry for his new wife. Knowing first hand what he's about.
2006-06-21 15:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, he sure did.....
2006-06-21 15:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋