my friend is being forced to make out and touch and do all this stuff with her bf and she's only 13 and she feels really uncomfortable. she told me not to tell anybody but it's really hard cuz she has nobody to tell. she told her mom and her mom doesn't care that she's uncomfortable. should i break my promise with her and tell someone or should i just keep quiet? help!!!!
2006-06-21 15:01:05 · 14 answers · asked by i_did_ur_mom 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
The best thing to do is to tell one of your parents! This girl's boyfriend is pushing your friend to hard, and I bet his goal is to have sex with her. She is too young for this! This situation could turn to rape! Get help for her. If your parents won't help, talk to a minister, or a teacher, or a policeman!!!
2006-06-21 15:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by kathleen m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone. Preferably a responsible someone. If her b/f is over 18 you can tell the police (that's statutory rape, or very well could be). If he's close to your friend's age, you should probably talk to your mom, if you feel comfortable talking to her.
If you absolutely want to keep your friend's secret, talk to her. Say that you're concerned for her, and tell her that you think she should break it off with this b/f. Support her if she decides to break up, but be aware that if this b/f is forcing her to do things that she's not comfortable with, he could be trying to dominate her and may get violent if she fights back. If she does break up with him (or even if she doesn't) stay with her to support her if he decides to confront her. Don't let her go off alone with this guy. If you go someplace together where he might be, stay with your friend in a larger group.
However, if the b/f is 13 or 14 like your friend, he may just be stupid and not understand that this makes her uncomfortable. If you just think he doesn't get it and is moving too fast, tell your friend to tell him to cool down. By physically and vocally telling him that she thinks their physical relationship is going too fast, he should get it and slow down. If he doesn't, she should probably break up with him. Putting some physical distance between herself and this boy should help him get the idea. If she agrees to see him only two or three times a week, with other people, and when they're together she only lets him hold her hand or kiss her on the cheek, he should understand, especially if she tells him.
The one thing you shouldn't do is keep quiet. That's how tragedies happen.
2006-06-21 22:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is she being "forced?" How old is her boyfriend? She absolutely should say "no" to anything that makes her uncomfortable. Is she afraid she'll lose this guy? Sounds like she's a lot better off without him. I don't quite understand what's going on with her mother--I find it hard to understand why a mother would react this way.
You would be a true friend if you told someone--perhaps a guidance counselor or teacher you feel you can trust. She is lucky to have a friend like you who cares so much.
2006-06-21 22:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't break the promise to her, but you should try to convince her to deal with the problem. Not necessarily by going and telling someone, but a better way would be to get the person to back down on her own. If she can't or won't do that, you should try to convince her to come forward.
2006-06-21 22:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell someone. Telling someone is helping your friend. If she is uncomfortable, she has the right to stop it and she should. First, you should talk to her about it. Tell your mom and maybe a counselor. Tell your friend this is for her own good. She needs this. hope this helps :) good luck!
2006-06-21 22:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by itz meeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude tell someone im 13 and i really think if someone did that to me i would beat them 2 death dude and so what if he hits me back.... u bet id be going 2 the police and tell them that im being sexually harrassed and that im uncomfortable around that person and no one listens to me when i tell them about it.... she needs help seriously and u really need 2 tell someone even if she told u not to b cuz its 4 her safety and u need 2 tell her that the only reason u told someone is cuz u care bout her.
2006-06-28 21:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by I LOVE DYLAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how old is the guy that she's with? If he is older than he could be put in jail for what he is doing.
I would try to protect your friend and tell someone that will do something about it. She may be mad at you, but in the long run, you may be saving her from pregnancy or even rape.
2006-06-21 22:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by jetskichick25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain how serious this situation is and that something terrible could happen if she doesn't do something about it. Maybe you can try suggesting that she speak to someone you trust, you are her best friend, she trusts you and therefore might trust those you trust. She needs to stop it before it's too late.
2006-06-21 22:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Care Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello? YES!!!
Nobody should ever do anything that makes them uncomfortable, especially with someone that supposedly loves them.
Tell an adult immediately, help her out before she is damaged for her adult life.
2006-06-21 22:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like sexual harassment. and sexual harassment is punishable by law. if ur friend can, ask her to try stopping him next time, if that works out i think that is good enough, but i dont thin breaking up with that guy wud help her,if not causing her trouble. i think the best way wud b talk this out to an elder person, who knows ur friend...
hope this helped;-)
2006-06-21 22:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by Teen-sensible! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋