i dont know who i am really no i have had alot of problems in my life beaten by my stepdad and mom never meet my father grandma is very sick just had her seventh huge surgery my sister is gay and ran away for years my uncle got my sister pregnant and is in jail for elevan years i got raped by my sister and my step dad twice girls keep rejecting me my friends betrayed me alot and still do i started to act bad in school and at home gettin arrested cuz i was so mad i spent three in a half months in prison there i changed my life and became a good person helping alot of people doing what is rite i got out with goals of being the best im even trying to help this young boy that is going down a bad road in his life he wont listen to me he wont do as i say when i help him and i juss dont want him to get hurt hes like my brother i want to be a comedian i would love that but when i posted my jokes on this site every one made fun of me so i quitted for awhile i still want to be a comedian help
2006-06-21 14:40:42 · 8 answers · asked by ermaarthur@sbcglobal.net 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow. Your post shows how your mind is just spinning with unresolved issues from the past and trying to come to terms with who you are in the present. You took what could have been bad - going to prison - as an opportunity to turn your life around and be a better and productive person in society. I say, BRAVO for you. You don't mention if you got professional help with a licensed professional therapist, but if you haven't, please do so now. It sounds like you have reached a point that you are ready to face the ghosts of your past in order to deal with the present and what is to come.
You have survived a lot and your family would be described by most as dysfunctional. Abuse and incest happen to be a lot more common than people would like to think or admit.
You have to find your self-worth and believe in yourself and love yourself. That will take time, and some guidance from a professional therapist who will help you gain the tools to cope and deal with past hurts and traumas. I know you have managed to survive so far based on your strength and will to live. Take that energy and use it to be brave and open to face your past, to forgive the people who hurt you in the past (let's face it, they were confused, angry and hurt themselves by others, it's a ripple cycle thing, abuse is) and learn to above all, forgive yourself for being vulnerable, for wanting to be accepted and loved for yourself without any conditions or strings attached.
It's not going to be easy. It could take years. But don't give up on yourself. You need to do this to create your own happiness and find the light at the end of your tunnel. You have a lot of work on yourself to do -- and facing your past and working through it bravely will only demonstrate how much you truly value and love and respect yourself.
I wish you all the best. Don't give up. Work through it. You are so worth it. From a fellow survivor.
2006-06-21 15:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crap happens to everyone, and I'm sorry you had a few extra doses of it. It's time to look forward, and look up to God for help! No one is in control of your life but yourself, so make the best of it. Who cares if anyone else appreciates it or not right now, you need to find what YOU enjoy and what you're good at. Be thankful your grandma is still alive, and be there for her when you can. Try and make people's lives better like you're doing. Whatever you do, don't fall into a life of crime and self-pity. That's in your past, so make your future better! I wish you the best.
2006-06-21 21:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by TanneDelight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been through a lot in your lifetime. I applaud you for staying strong! Only YOU can define yourself. If you want to be a comedian, go for it!! Nobody can stop you but yourself. If you want, you could go and see somebody to sort through your personal problems. You can also be an inspiration for a lot of young people who are going through something similar as well. Follow your dreams and do what is best for you. I wish you the best of luck. Keep your head held up high and stay focused.
2006-06-21 21:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lady S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. walk every day
2. pray every day for God's guidance and where He needs you to be... Read the Bible (the New Testament)
3. Every day make a list of ten things you are grateful for
4. Every day make a list of ten things you fear (watch them diappear after you write them down)
5. Volunteer
6. Find a 12-step meeting (like Emotions Anon) your can attend and work the steps..
emotionsanonymous.org
7. Read the book Emotions Anonymous
Never Give Up...
Whatever you believe will happen....
Stop looking backwards....just for today enjoy this day...
2006-06-25 12:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by xmas90 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My god you've had a tough life. I take my hat off to you that you have stuck with it though!!.
You need to decide what you want out of your life and get it!! If you want to be a comedian than be one!!! Stop worrying about what other people say.. if you believe in yourself that is all that should matter.
I would probably recommend that you see someone in relation to your past - sometimes we think we have dealt with but we haven't deep down.
Good Luck!!
2006-06-21 21:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Beccygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club, It seems we are all lost in this day & age!!
though yours sound a bit more confusing.
Try to write a movie scenario out of all this.
It could be some sort of Comedy Drama
How about that Mr Comedian?
Good Luck with live comedies!
2006-06-21 21:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only YOU can find yourself...it isnt up to anyone else
2006-06-21 21:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by Elle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PRAY!!
2006-06-21 21:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by guitar and skating addict 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋