Im a male, is it wrong to divorce a woman after 3 kids and almost 10 years together.?

Answer 1

No, not if you have enough money to pay whopping child support and probably alimony for a long time....go for it. Be prepared for a big change in life style.

Answer 2

Depends on the reason. My wife is divorcing me and she had multiple affairs and I still didn't want the divorce. You don't learn anything from quitting. I have two boys and we have been married for more than 10 years. Her reason for the divorce is selfish just like the affairs. Its all about her. It has been the most horrible thing I have ever been through.

Whats your reason? Are you thinking about whats best for her and the boys or is this about you? Do some research online at sites that work to keep couples together. It might be fixable. If you can work through this, the benefits will be worth the work you will have to put into it.

Take care and good luck

Edited: Wow, there are a lot of people giving stupid relationship answers. "If it feels good, do it" ...in our society happiness is number one and YOU need to make ME happy. Bull ****. If you want to be happy, get a hobby, exercise or just go do something you enjoy. Granted, relationships are give and take, but they will not make you feel happy. Relationships are WORK. You only get out what you put into it.

Also beware, the whole premise for Yahoo answers is to up your score rating and some people are just giving short "stupid" answers for the points they can get like some kind of game.

Answer 3

the divorce rate is at its highest now and some people must really find that it would be the easy way out. Is it worth getting a divorce is what u need to ask urslf. think about ur financial structure and how it would be affected after divorce. Especially, if you make more money than her. Not to mention the increase for child support and alimony. 50/50. remember ur vows to one another and if they mean anything then seek counseling or start praying together and being more positive before hate. dont forget to check urslf b4 u check each other. if its not worth do what u have to do and continue loving ur children and sign on the dotted line

Answer 4

Personally, I would rather my husband leave under these circumstances. He would not be doing me any favors staying for the wrong reasons - everyone deserves to be loved. However, having one child from another father before marriage I see first hand what it has done to him to have his loyalties divided and would avoid putting another child through that pain. Then again, my friend's kids would like to see their father leave as things are so bad between my friend and her husband. Someone once told me that a person's mood, feelings and the way they handle things affect all of those around them. If you are healthier and happier then those around you will be too. On the other hand if the kids are more unhappy can you be happy?
This may not answer your question, but there are too many factors and only you, your wife and children know them.

Answer 5

aww! thats horrible! dont let ur kids grow up being torn apart, thrown back n forth over the weekends! and it ruins your family! thats sad, no, NEVER do that. and...how can u all of a sudden not love ur wife after 10 years??and have kids? if ur a real man u would think of ur kids first and stick by ur woman. Maybe try counseling or somethin, i'll pray for , even if u dont care or if u think it doesnt work, i'll pray for u. But...it also depends on the reason, like iff shes abusive or cheats on u...it can be right. but divorce is always hard.

Answer 6

You should talk to your wife first and let her know your unhappy in your marriage for whatever reason... and give her some warning that things are going downhill, she may not know that your unhappy... and maybe communicating your reasons can bring some life back into your marriage...

It would be wrong to stay in a marriage that makes you unhappy and creates tension around the house.

However, it would be wrong of you to divorce your kids... divorce is very difficult on children and they need a lot of extra love and attention through the process. That should be priority #1

If your unhappy... and you feel there is no chance of things improving... the let your wife know how you feel... and go through the process... But please be kind and understanding of her hurt and pain.. no matter how frustrating it may get.

Tawny

Answer 7

That depends on why you're divorcing the woman. Having 3 kids together and longevity isn't an automatic reason not to get a divorce. If your wife cheats on you repeatedly, beats your children, physically abuses you, or other similar things, then it's in your (and your children's) best interest to divorce.

Answer 8

Very much so....understand the consequences and reprecuscions behind your choice is going to leave a void in your heart that is deeper than any ocean. Kids, now more than ever need a solid foundation in order for them to grow and become responsible human beings. They need the constant support, love and nuturing care from both paents not just some of the time but all the time.
What ever you have to do make it work, endure. And pray

Answer 9

is it because u have found some one else ? forget it it never works out ur kids come first and why not look in a mirror and ask ?WHY do u want to leave ur kids time will heal .

hey Ive been married 30 yrs and still love my wife even after all the fights we have had it what makes it so important to be together .DO NT LEAVE

Answer 10

Depends on your reason....you give none.
If she is cheating...you have good reason. If you are cheating, and have itchy pants, you shouldn't be. I took my marriage vows seriously 26 years ago this August. There will always be good and bad times in all relationships. Together we worked through them and totally trust each other.
Maybe what I have is rare. I have 3 sons too, 17-24...our kids come first, think of them before you do anything you regret!
I wish you the best. :-)

Answer 11

If your unhappy and you have tried to talk about things and tried to fix what you think is wrong, then no it is not wrong. because if you are good friends who would get along not being together anymore then it is time to go, because it is better to lose a marriage then to lose your best friend and your marriage. you will have a lasting bond and that is your children and your friendship may strengthen if you are both given the freedom to explore what truly would make you happy and content with life.