How can you trust guys after one beat you and called you names and hurt you really bad
2006-06-21 14:15:50 · 21 answers · asked by jessygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dont think u can get over it it will always be in ur heart and mind
2006-06-21 14:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by omarionsgirl1983 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad how much abuse happens and I'm so sorry to hear you've had such a bad experience. You have so much ahead of you, men can be just wonderful and the man who loves you, he'll be so sad to know anyone ever hurt you. So, be really careful who you get involved with next. Make sure your friends like him, your family is comfortable with you being with him or would be, take it slowly no matter how bad you want to jump in, always! Don't just rush because you're excited. That wears off and you can tell so much from a guy who likes you for who you are. If you just take your time and keep it cool and always be yourself, and think about what you need, what makes you feel good, and how he fits into that, you'll have trust with a good guy soon.
2006-06-21 21:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by wanderingjane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No two men are the same. Dont trust too soon, give each one time and you will know.
A man you can trust will be honest and follow through with things, it sometimes may take years, but dont ever give up.
There are good guys out there, and one is probably right in front of you if you either stop looking or look closely enough.
I know, I found one and I hope you do too.
2006-06-21 21:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by wanderin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply by knowing that you will not allow ALL men to treat you that way. You must learn to stand up for yourself. No you did not love this guy, it's kind of like when you beat a dog, the more you beat it the more it will come back. Do you think that that is all you are worth? as this is what you are attracting. Change your thinking and your whole life shall change with you. Bless you and hope you have more luck soon. Chin up.
2006-06-21 21:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pray for him first b/c he needs help. then you tell some one that he hurt you. Then work on your self. It is really hard to trust people after some thing like that happens. Stay low for a little bit. Go to some counseling. Keep your head high.
2006-06-21 21:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by r.n.b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not easy to get over something that bad that has happened to you. I have was raped by one of my boyfriends and had lots of guys to touch me. I have a boyfriend and even though were getting serious. I still dont let me touch me or put his hand on my tummy. because Im scared of what might happen. I have been doing better. because I know he wont ever hurt me because his not that kind of person and he doesnt have that kind of heart.
Just take it easy. its really hard to trust people but if you dont start trying then you never will.
just take day by day.
I dont know what else to say to you but. I gets better but it just take a long time to get over and to start loving again.
2006-06-21 21:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by allie laught alot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same relationship but the only thing is that he did not have a chance to beat me cuz he new that i would hit him back!!! But you have to realize that all men are not the same!!! But all you can do is you wont forget but you can forgive and be free!!!
I got away from the one that use to call me names and found me a ex-lint man that treats me like a queen like a women should be treated and now we are getting married!!!
but you will never for get what he has done to you cuz i do not for get what my ex done to me!!! I went through hell and back with him
2006-06-21 21:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by S W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know the next guy as good as possible but up until then, attempt to give them the benefit of the doubt. Not all guys are jerks and yes.. its true.. there are actually normal, sane and good guys out there.. i dont know your entire situation, but mine is very similar (if not worse).. every man in my life has hurt me but its also no fun to just sit back and be afraid of them forever. just be strong and take a chance.
2006-06-21 21:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by bubblegum_kitten007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are Guys they will never change.... Well i wouldnt trust a guy that beat me up called me names and stuff....i would do the same he did me...his an idiot hiting you Hes not a man if he hits a woman.......
2006-06-21 21:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by _nanàzinha_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people tend to attract the same type over and over again. so therefore...you should trust no one.
Unless you are willing to change. Get tough and brave and don't let losers into your life.
2006-06-21 21:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let it go, it takes a lot, but leave it behind you. and to prevent it from happening again, you should be carefull of who you choose, dont go for the 'bad boys' go for the sensitive and caring men, or find one that truly loves you and cares about you. because if he does he wont have the heart to hurt you on purpose. good luck.
2006-06-21 21:19:11 · answer #11 · answered by daddysgirl9310 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋