My husband doesnt even want to talk about it. I cant think about anything else.Its driving me crazy, knowing I cant have the one thing I want.I think his reason for not wanting one is ,he's afraid something might be wrong with it.I dont know what to do. Id appreciate any advice.
2006-06-21 14:03:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
my husband only wanted 1 child. we ended up in triplets 2 boys and a girl i wanted another girl and he would not even talk about it all he would say was NO so i took things into my own hands and had another boy then asked to try again he said no again it was a boy and again i tried still he said no now i have 5 boys and only 1 girl he made me tie my tubes i agreed but he his happy and loves us all
and if your husband loves you he will say no but will be ok if you do have another baby. but my husband wouldnt even talk about baby names or anything he was a grump untill the baby arrived so be prepared to have a grump through the 9 months
2006-07-01 05:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by momtosix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I understand how your husband feels. When God gives you two healthy children, it can seem selfish to ask to be blessed with even more.
There is also the fact that a third child demands a major lifestyle change. With car seats and other safety concerns, it is no longer possible to travel in a car. With three kids you need a van, a bigger house or apartment and a lot more food.
And you can forget about going back to work with three kids! Childcare for three kids can cost as much as most women earn. Then, there is the fact that you might live in poverty as a result of not working.
That said, I sometimes want a third child too. It isn't rational or logical, it's just a biological urge. But, we are not animals who must give into biology. Why not try to focus on your own life and community for a year. Get a better job, take up a course, join a club or do volunteer work. And then, if you feel the same way after a year, see if your husband is more open to talking.
2006-06-28 21:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by baggyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a man with NO children, I would say he might be thinking he cant afford another child. Do you have enough money to raise the two children you already have? How about college funds? How about the house? Is it big enough for more babies or would you have to find a larger place? What about insurance? Are you adequately covered for the normal bumps scrapes and stitches the kids you already have are gonna get? It sorta sounds like youve get this thing called baby fever. You want the baby and nothing else matters. Thats fine until you HAVE the baby then reality has this nasty way of forcing its way into your lives. It sounds as though your husband is being a bit more down to earth and realistic than you are.
Id advise you to examine why you want another baby so badly. Whats wrong with the two you have? Are you giving THEM the attention they need and deserve? Focus on them and let the rest sort it self out on its own. You dont need more babies you need to do your best to raise and care for the ones you already have.
2006-07-03 02:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to first ask yourself why do you want another child? Why he doesn't? You may be thinking of just having another baby around would be nice & he is thinking more $, time & stress. Having two young children can be demanding and hard & bringing in another baby will take its toll on you & the other children who may not want or can handle another baby. Figure out you and his pro's and con's & that should help on whether having another baby would fit into you all's lifestyle.
2006-07-03 13:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by SoUnique06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any respect for your husband at all- you should not push the topic. You already have two kids. Wait until he wants a third one. You both have to agree on it. Honestly, you sound like a child who doesn't stop whining until /he she gets what she wants.
2006-06-21 21:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want the baby?
Why does he no want the baby? It sounds like you are guessing.
You have 2 children, why do you want (not need) more?
I suggest counseling to work these things out. First you go, then go as a couple.
2006-06-21 14:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by RDHamm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you concentrate on raising the two you have. That should keep you busy. In this day and age raising two children and a stay-at-home mom is expensive enough. Under no circumstance get pregnant without his permission! You should kinda selfish...me, me, me.
2006-06-21 14:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby should be a mutual desire between husband and wife, if you really wanted to have antoher baby, then try to have a heart to heart talk with your husband, and make when his in the mood., lay down your reasons why u need another one, he might be sold out with your idea.
2006-06-21 14:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are taking birth control, stop in secret. Dispose of the pills, and make the conception look unplanned.
2006-06-21 14:08:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have counselling, the both of you, BEFORE you bring another child into this marriage.
2006-06-21 14:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋