When your in a relationship is important to have sex? Does having sex make the relationship last. Is it bad not to want to have sex?
2006-06-21 13:34:56 · 17 answers · asked by Lasey 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Other - Entertainment
I'm 16 and I'm very curvy and mature for my age so the first thing a guy thinks about is sex when he see's me. I'm not into that...
2006-06-21 13:57:12 · update #1
Have to.... Never ... sex should never make or break a relationship... if it does it's not (keyword NOT) a healthy relationship. In most cases sex before marriage actually wrecks the relationship.. either because one was only looking for sex and the other was wanting more than that... or through pregnancy scares... or because neither person are emotionally mature enough to comprehend the intamacy it takes to have a good relationship.
It is NOT bad to not want to have sex... you can be completely attracted to someone and yet know that your not ready to have sex. If your not ready and you don't want to DON'T if the other person has a problem with that then they aren't caring about YOU they are lookin out for there wants... NOT needs... Sex isn't a NEED ... Intamacy (emotional and almsot spiritual closeness) is what people NEED!!!
Please don't be pressured... use your head and your heart! Don't let anyone do the thinking for you ok? If they say they will leave you or "don't you love me" they re trying to manipulate you!!! Please don't fall for that line ok?? God bless you!
2006-06-21 13:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jembee1720 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It entirely depends on the individuals involved. It has been embeeded into us that as long as you are in a relationship with a man/woman you definitly would want to have sex. It keeps it stronger and you both would have a lasting relationship. Well that is not it @ all if both of you are loving to each other and the relationship involves caring and sharing each other ways of life, then the both of you would respect each other until the time is right. Now of days it's much different, because the younger kids think that if you have sex with the other person, he/she would stay in the relationship. Does it ever work? No most of the time it never does. So if you both can understand and wait for each other, well by all means. It works out better in the end. That's providing he/she is supportive of you. Talks, walks doing fun stuff together, makes a couple know how much you both care for each other. It may take a while, but when you eventually have sex, it would be the most precious thing the both of you share. It really does not have to matter if you both are going to get married or not, you can both be together for the rest of your lives and never get married. It happens...
2006-06-21 20:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by island1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you mean a relationship with a person that you are dating! The answer to that is easy and complicated at the same time.
You do not ever have to have sex just because you are in a relationship. If the person you are seeing is trying to push you into having sex, (look at the word PUSH very carefully) you are not ready to have it.
People today have and give away sex very casually, but Sex is really the most intimate and vulnerable thing that you can do with another person.
Sex should not be used as recreation, a time passer or as payment for a date.
Ideally, sex should be between 2 people who plan to share their lives together.
It is not bad to not want to have sex. Think about it this way, The person you are having sex with will probably see you naked in more than one way. You will be opening up not only parts of your outer body, but also your heart.
You will also be opening up yourself to possible STD, a few of which could kill you.
I suspect that you are not ready for sex since you have asked this question.
Do not take a step fore ward in your life that can not be reversed.
Good luck!
2006-06-21 20:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by moonlight_is_harmonious_1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex does not make a relationship last. Sex does not make a relationship last. Sex does not make a relationship last. Say it out loud. Believe it.
Now that we've covered that. Yes, sexual intimacy can be important. It really depends on your relationship. Are you thirteen? Then don't worry about it, work on being friends. You'll know when you're ready and don't let any pimply drooly boy talk you into something you don't feel prepared for. Are you thirty and still have no desire for sex? You might want to see a doctor- as that could be a symptom of a couple different things. It's okay to not want sex, that happens to everyone from time to time, just not usually guys.
2006-06-21 20:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a relationship for eighteen years but have been 100% celibate for the past six and a half years. There are much more important issues to be concerned with but, of course, not everyone's priorities are the same. Certainly, when I was much younger, all I could think about was big boobs and nailing any chick who moved.
Sometimes life can slap you in the face so hard that it just wakes you up! It's really only as important as you make it but, in my opinion, a relationship solely focused and based on sex is just plain empty. As John Lennon said: "Love Is All You Need."
2006-06-21 20:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by randyboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would really depend on the people involved in the relationship, and what kind of relationship it is (whether or not it's a marriage, or boy-girlfriend-type relationships). I would say yes, it's an important part of marriage, but not necessarily when its simply dating. Personally, I wouldn't rely on sex alone to make a relationship last, and I think relying on sex to make a relationship last is a huge mistake, as the relationship won't go anywhere. IT IS NOT BAD TO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX in and of itself. In fact, I remind you of priests and nuns, who usually take an oath of abstinence. Also, you might want to discuss this with ur significant other. In fact, this all depends on you, and the kind of emphasis you place on sex and other physical contact. Lack of physical contact can put strain on a relationship. But too much physical contact too soon in a relationship can also doom the relationship before it starts. This is all, of course, my opinion. :-)
2006-06-21 20:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mikey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not really important but I know for a fact if u have sex in a realtionship it wont make it last longer either. Its not bad 2 not want to its your decision but I think dat u should be able to trust your partner before u decide 2 hav sex. And know dat after yall do have sex he wont start 2 ignore u.
2006-06-21 20:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by Tina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not important and if it is, there may be no emotional connection. No sex definately does NOT make the relationship last, and it is not bad to not want to have sex.
2006-06-21 20:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by lojack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOO having sex is just going to make the relationship worse, and it might add another problem, like disease, or a kid. Sex does NOT in any way help a relationship. I'd wait until marriage if I was you. And the guy you're with should repect that. If not, trash him... In a goooood way. lol
2006-06-21 20:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by Why Not 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship is a very broad word. I have a relationship with my children, a relationship with my parents, a relationship with the guys I hang out with...none of which even remotely involve sex.
You can have a relationship without sex.
You can have affection without sex.
You can intimacy without sex.
You can have transparency without sex.
You can also have sex without any of the above.
Do the math.
2006-06-21 20:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋