Should I be commited or not?

Question

Well the story is I have this guy friend i met over the net and we hit it off we have been friends now 4 3 months, the thing is I just got out of a 4 year relationship, and it was kind of emotinally abusive, and the other thing is that we live in different states, feeling have came, Im here with him now, and he wonts 2 make this n2 something and i wanna try but Im scared that it wont work. Oh and the other problem is he has a problem with me comparing him 2 my x (I wouldnt call it comparing Im just being careful) so thats another issue because i dont wanna end up hurt again n he cant seem 2 understand that, he doesnt c it as me being careful, he things that im still n love with my ex and im not!!!!!

Answer 1

No! Don't commit.
You have to have enough time to
adjust to your new freedom.
You need to learn to be yourself again.
In an abusive relationship you loose
your self respect and and the ability
to cope by yourself. You need lots of
good friends that support you and help
you become a self confident new women.

This guy sounds like he wants to control you too.
Get away from him - tell him you need some
time and space to think this new relationship over.
Yes, and do compare every guy you meet with your
abusive ex bf. You need to know exactly what you
DON'T want again.

Good luck!!! Hope you find someone that really cares for you.

Answer 2

Well, even though I'm just 16, I believe that if you have forgotten your last love and want to move on into something new, you should give yourself time to see of you really want to date other people. A four-year-realtionshiop is kind of long and I understand perfectly how scared you are to try it once more but with another person. You should try to get to know this guy more deeply personally and see what he's up to. I mean like what he doesn't like, what he does, what are his interests and if you don't want several things to happen if you do commit yourself to a realationship with him, you should test him now that you don't have anything going on. Yup, guys are all liars and players. So be careful! One thing though, if you believe in what you feel for eachother and have faith in it, it'll work. Just be sure he feels the same way as you do!! =)

Answer 3

Well here's the deal, this is coming from someone has been in a few bad relationships, and I am finally in a good spot.
He sounds like he is insecure at the very least, and why does he want you to stay there? How about some visits back and forth? Get to know each other, as I am sure you know living with someone is different from just dating.
Take it slow, watch for red flags, things like him wanting to see you move there with him....is that to isolate you from your family and friends? And if he feels this is something that could go somewhere, what is the problem with waiting? Just take it slow, and trust your instincts. Feel free to e-mail me if you want.
Blessings and Love,
Inkwitch

Answer 4

I think you should continue to be careful. If he can't see that you are trying to be careful then he is not considering your feelings. As with any relationship, don't expect anything. Hell now a days you can't trust very many people. So to look out for yourself is a very wise decision. I wish you the best of luck. Just remember to keep the lines of communication open.

Answer 5

i have been in the same situation, myn dealt w a husband. we are finally divorced now. but i was alone for two yrs after and refused to date ne one bc fear of getting hurt bad again. i cant take that. and if you do not move forward, then you will never know what can or could have been. u cant b scared all ur life bc of hurt or bad ppl. u have to move forward. and life is all about rejection and pain. in the end, it all makes you stronger. believe me. we dont all pick perfect others

Answer 6

if you have to ask the question then NOT is your answer.