my boyfriend says that the only communications he has with his baby mama is concerning their child. he says that when he goes to her house it's only to be with his son and she has threatened him before that he won't be able to see his son if he's around me he said he wants to marry me and i told him that i would never stand in the way of him being with his son but he still lie to me about talking to her. he lies about going to her house and then someone see my car out in front of her house and i confront him he say he was just visiting his son. but he only "visits his son" when i'm gone to work or running errands that going to keep me busy for a while. he sneaks to call her and he say he does that because i would get mad. but why would i get mad if i can hear whats being said? i want to believe him but why lie to me if it's only about their child? could something else be going on?
2006-06-21 12:52:57 · 6 answers · asked by Pimpin' 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
of course other things can b going on. after all, he was w her before, and had a child w her. he should not be hiding ne thing from you concerning that. and she cannot say that he cant see his child bc of you. let the courts hear that. its not legal. hope them two are doing all this **** thru the courts legally, bc if not, he will have to soon. and he should not be hiding you to her either, not that its really ne of her business. and why cant he see HIS child on his turf? why cant the child go somewhere w him? u r a part of his life, so why not? did u do something to the mom that she doesnt want you around? if i was you, yep id b around looking for his *** over there as well. i have done that many times w my x husband, but w just a biotch, not babys mama. he had a baby mama too, but in different state i never met. and she wanted nothing to do w him either. so that dont matter, but yes. think this way. its always a women's intuition to know, KNOW whether or not her guy is cheating. its just that we do not always leave on that note until we get more evidence, bc we need more proof bc the guys deny it to the fullest. younever get involved, golden rule, w someone who already has kids, bc look at what it does...
2006-06-21 13:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kasey 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something is definatly going on, you need to get rid of him, because he IS cheating on you. First of all, if they are devorced I haven't seen many cases where the father goes into the mother's home to visit the child, that sounds fishy to me. Also if he sneaks off I think you know what he is doing. Most importantly in all this is to make sure that you look out for yourself. Don't let him make up crap about where he was, DO NOT BELIEVE HIM!!!
2006-06-21 20:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by willidal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know he is deceptive, that's the first sign that something else MAY be going on. But the central problem is this: you don't trust him, and that's really bad for a relationship. Perhaps you should reconsider marriage because if this lack of trust becomes a pattern, what will it be like in 20 years from now?
2006-06-21 20:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by polarbearis1973 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The concern is if he is hiding when he is calling. He don't need to be playing games since you said you are not going to come between his kid. So talk to him and tell him its making you sad. He needs to limit his visits and phones.
2006-06-21 19:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By what you wrote you already know the answer it appears . If he was not lying he would not have to do those things behind your back . YOu deserve better !!!!!! DOn't get trap with someone's baggage !
2006-06-21 19:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by HAPA CHIC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but what u should do is pray and ask 4 an awnser.
2006-06-21 20:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋