how can i be myself if everybody wants a piece of me and wants me to be someone I'm else that I'm not?

Question

my family and friends want me to be someone i'm not, but when i'm someone else, i lose everything! im so confused and broken-up... someone help me!!!

Answer 1

Well right or wrong on what you become and what you do with your life, family should be there not matter what! I'm going threw it right now. I met and married a wonderfull man, and family is distant from me cause they didnt agree with it. In time if they still dont like what you become, then tell them that your you and you will be what you want and they can be by your side or not, that if they choose not to be then its not stoping you from becomming what YOU want. I didnt let my parents bring me down cause i married a guy they didnt know. And im not giving up my husband for them. They can take me and him as whole or keep living there lifes without seeing there grandkids or future grandkids. But I know in time they will come around, as a matter of fact they have a little. Just be who YOU want to be dont let anyone bring you down or tell you do what they want. Be yourself and prove to them you can do what you want on your own. Good luck!

Answer 2

It's difficult to give accurate advice when we know so little about you. Perhaps you can find a trusted person, with whom you can confide (ie. the wife of your pastor).

In general, I can say that I am happiest when I am helping others to be happy. So, I often compromise on choices and activities that don't violate who I am as a person. (I can iron and wash dishes and still think about Gandhi.)

But when it comes to making crucial life decisions, that impact my character, I tend to stand firm. For example, if my parents said I can't go to a party with a known drug addict, I would listen. But if they said don't even talk to this person in class, I would explain that to do so would damage my personality, and my desire to be open and caring.

I'm not sure if these examples make any sense. Probably your friends and family care for you, and that is what prompts them to put so much pressure on you to conform to what they think is best.

Try to listen, and see if what they think is wise and beneficial, but you must still choose for yourself. If you make a correct and unpopular choice and suffer their rejection, then don't be ashamed.

Answer 3

What do they want you to be, and what is yourself? Do they want you to be a model when you're laid back? Do they want you to be skinny when you like being thick and fat?
Please tell me, sometimes change is right, sometimes it is not.