one day my husband forgot to close his email window and i saw an email from his ex girlfriend,i got psyched and asked ihm abt the same and he said that it was only the girl who was interested in him,i mailed that girl and after 1 week she replyed saying that whatever he said was true,i think my husband had made it up,shud i believe him?
2006-06-21 12:28:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Burn all of his clothes. Thats what my aunt does, but she also does drugs...
2006-06-21 12:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess what I want to say is a marriage is about trust. However, life experience has taught me to go with your instincts. Be really honest about how you feel with him. If he loves you, he will kindly talk you out of your suspicions. Reset the "Ground rules" for what you will and will not accept in your marriage. ie: emailing previous girlfriends. If he loves you and there is nothing for him to hide, he'll respect you. There is a reason you doubt him. He needs to erase those fears from your mind and give you NO reason to doubt. Plus then you'll both be clear on what makes you or him uncomfortable of feel threatened in the future. (Some people get hurt if another woman/man is mentioned as being attractive where as some people only consider intercourse with another person hurtful) It sucks having to search yourself this way, but vital to your marriage
You also need to really look at this one instance and compare it to how he treats you overall. You don't want to be paranoid either and cause problems based on nothing.
No one knows your husband or relationship better than you.
Good luck! I pray it was just a fluke misunderstanding and he goes forward giving you NO reason to doubt!
Cheers
2006-06-21 19:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by midori_margarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people feel what happened before is their business and none of their partners. So - he had a girlfriend? So what! He married the woman he loved, didn't he! Stop worrying! A lot of people who had relationships became the very best of friends afterward.
I'm surprised she answered you. It was childish of you to question her. You should have just spoken with your husband about it - but keep your eyes open. A woman just knows her man!
2006-06-21 19:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder how long you have been married...long time; he may still keep a link to this old girl friend for nostaligia sake, doesn't mean he would pursue it or want to end your marriage. Think about other aspects of your married life and how things are going in general before you crucify him.
2006-06-21 19:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by chieko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart to heart with him. Listen to what he has to say, Dont fly off the handle by whatever he tells you. If you feel he is not hiding anything then make a informed decision.
2006-06-21 19:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to freak out about it! That was the past and it was before you! So what if he didnt tell you about her, Im sure there are things about your past that you ddint tell him. just let it go and see what happens! but dont forget about her because she may pop up again...
2006-06-22 01:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull a Left eye lopez on him!
2006-06-21 19:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by Elle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u love him yes because if u dont trust him then u dont love him if u love him u trust him u care about him and if he loves u then he wouldnt lie to you so trust him or sneak in his email and check to see there conversations then u will no but if he finds out he will no u dont trust him so if u do sneak becarful
2006-06-21 19:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by butterflykisses01247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this one go, but if something like this happens again, I 'd get to the bottem of it right away.
2006-06-21 19:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are just friends.... I still talk to men that i once dated, but he is married to you sweetie, not her.... You need to look at it from that point of view........ Good luck
2006-06-28 17:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he took her for a teast drive around the block and back
2006-06-21 19:32:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋