I am going through a divorce, I asked for the divorce and still want it 100% but I sometimes feel that I will never find another person that will ever want to be with me like that again, I have went out on two dates but the boys were crazy!!
2006-06-21 12:10:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im not wanting to get in another relationship, I just wanted some friends.
2006-06-21 12:29:30 · update #1
I was single for 4 years after my divorce. The first 2 years I didn't even want to date. The second 2 years I started feeling the same way you are feeling. Then, just as I quit looking for love, it found me. Two years later I am married again and happier than I have ever been. My advice, don't worry someone WILL want to be with you again, it just has to be the right person at the right time. If you don't try and force things they will happen naturally, so don't be afraid to take a little time off. Good things happen to those who wait.
2006-06-21 12:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by lala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a divorce support website out there: divorcesource.com
My advice would be to give yourself some time to get over it. There will be plenty of guys out there who will still want you. That you shouldn't worry about. Trick is finding the right person and that's never easy. I've seen a lot of people who go from divorce into one relationship after another only to be disappointed over and over again. This is a great opportunity to reflect and get your head on straight and learn what it is you want and do not want. You don't want to end up divorced again.
Best of luck.
2006-06-21 19:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing to do: Learn to be happy with yourself. By your own statement, you are full of self doubt and really don't like you. Give it time. Divorce is the worst thing in the world. Always takes 2 whether we want to admit it or not. Learn to be by your self. Very important. Don't get so focused on a new man. Kick back - learn to love/like yourself again and just when you least expect it - that special man will walk into your life. Good luck!
2006-06-21 19:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if your going Thru a divorce you shouldn't even be thinking about a new man right now..you should be out enjoying yourself for a while..And the other thing is you need to find yourself a MAN not a Boy like you say
2006-06-21 19:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date and have fun - don't look to get into a serious relationship, you're just getting out of one! Date Men and not Boy's, and just enjoy yourself not taking it too seriously! Hope it works out for you. BTW, where are you meeting these guys in order to make these dates - maybe look at that to see if you can change the kind of dates you are going on? Take Care,
Joe
2006-06-21 19:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by ur_ave_joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you stop thinking about it, so intently, you will find yourself in a situation where the guy you are seeing, seems great. Plus stop comparing anyone to the ex. You left him, and every guy from this point forward doesn't have the qualities that made you leave. Until then, getting out and enjoying yourself, is the best thing to do.
2006-06-21 19:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by CartoonGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you dating boys? Anyway, it will take time to get over it, no matter who asked for it. In time you will find the right one to spend the rest of you life with. I felt hopeless at first, but after a few years of not dating at all to dating every few months, I finally met someone that wants to be with me and I want to be with him.
Good luck!!
2006-06-21 19:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take more than 2 dates honey. Move on and sell your ring or make something else out of it. Go to a group where divorced women go, go out with friends HE doesn't know, and start networking a new you, new look, etc. You'll be ok.
2006-06-21 19:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by DELETED ACCOUNT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going through a divorce is a little tough...The longer you have been married the harder it is...You need to take a little time to be your self...Only one at a time...Don't just jump out there and start dating...Think about who you are and what makes you happy and don't settle for anyone less..
2006-06-21 19:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be happy with yourself befor your happy with someone else..going through your divorce you are haveing some emtional issues with yourself...your scared at some point or your feeling insecure about something..you need to find yourself and who you are.. see the site and scenes, change , try something new, See the world and come to Happiness with who you are..And then happiness from another will find you...
2006-06-21 19:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Nasty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋