I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months now and I think that he is going to purpose to me next month when we are on vaction. I really love him with all my heart, and can't think of a better person to spend my life with. He is everything that I have ever wanted in a man and he treats me like a queen, but what will my family say if I say yes to him. Is it to early to in our relationship to get married?
2006-06-21 12:03:38 · 17 answers · asked by blah blah blah 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's a child, there, in your icon? How is beau with the babe? Is he a good, caring man, or is he real stiff, kind of like I am around other people's large dogs?
You need to consider both of you, before you decide. Talk to the kid, if it is your kid. Ask how he/she (sorry, can't tell from the thumbnail) feels about it all.
It is not too early, if it is not too early. Only you and yours can make that determination. Don't fall over just because he asks while you are on a nice vacation. Make sure.
Then, if you are, you may marry with my blessing.
2006-06-21 12:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Grendle 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As long as he is good to you and you love each other, that's all that really matters. My grandparents had their first date on Halloween and were married by June. They were happily married for more than 60 years. On the other hand, I was with my first husband for 5 years before we got married and the marriage only lasted for 4 years. My current husband proposed after 8 months, however we didn't get married right away, it was almost a year and a half later before we finally got married. So, if he makes you happy don't worry about what the family will say, do what you feel is right in your heart. Good luck and best wishes!
2006-06-21 12:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by lala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love one another and can't imagine your lives without each other, it's never too early or too late for taking it a step further. Don't worry about your family for a moment, and think what you'll be getting in this relationship: The most amaizing man who trully loves and cares for you so much that no matter what he'll be there for you every step of the way in your life :) It's so wonderfull to have someone like that in your life and never have to worry about anything at all. It's the choice of your hearts and even though someone else's opinion does count, you're probably old enough to know right from wrong and follow your instinct. They'll be more than happy for you and your decisions, and they'll support you every step of the way no matter what you do and/or whom you marry. You'll make a beautiful and happy couple together.
You love him, right? Then, it's the only thing that should concern you at this moment :)
Best of luck to you and have a wonderful and fantastic life together :)
2006-06-21 12:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by tiger_pisces7483 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are an emotionally healthy and mature person, it isn't really about time--it's about knowing someone well enough to be able to make a decision about spending your life with them. If both parties are completely honest with each other and spend a good deal of time together then it is certainly possible to know all you need to know in 9 months. If there's dishonesty, game-playing, little time spent together, etc., no amount of time is going to make a difference. So . . . do you know him inside and out? Have you let him know you the same way? Do you love each other and want to be together? Then don't worry about what people say. If you have any doubts, then wait.
BTW, I met and married my DH within 8 months. Best decision I ever made!
2006-06-21 12:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie only you know who your true love is..For example my best friend met this guy at a CLUB and they got engaged 3 months later and married 5 months later..They now have been married with 2 loving kids for 6 yeas and love each other dearly...Her parents said it was to early but look where they are now. It is your decision..you know what you feel for him and how you feel for him..Not your mom sister brother father aunt uncle cousin know the love you and him share..They only see how you guys re together they don't know what your heart feels...You do what you think is the best..Don't let anyone scare your answer away...stop thinking about what other people think..As long as he is good to you and that beautiful child then you know its true....Good luck
2006-06-21 12:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I met on Matchmaker.com. Our 4 year Wedding Anniversary is tomorrow!!
We became engaged within WEEKS of knowing each other, got married within 6 months, bought a house at 7 months and had a child by the 11th month. We knew it was right, still feel the same to this day AND didn't care what anyone had to say!!
Good Luck :)
mb
2006-06-21 12:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have known people who decided to get married the day they met, married 1 week later and 4 kids and 20 years are still together and happy.
This depends on the people involved. Maturity - to handle a commitment, communication, and complete trust have to be there.
I married 6 mo after our first date. I have no regrets.
2006-06-21 12:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my wife for three months before we got engaged, and we've been happily married for almost seven years. My parents got engaged at three WEEKS, and they're still together as well.
It's not about "too soon", it's about how you feel. If the only thing holding you back is "what will someone else think", then full steam ahead! On the other hand, if you have doubts about the relationship, then any time would be too soon.
2006-06-21 12:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged after 9 months married within 18 months and still married 22 years later so go for it and good luck for the future.
2006-06-22 00:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by andy f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my wife for 2 years before I proposed. Been married for 9 years. I knew she was the one after a year.
2006-06-21 12:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by mikiewho2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋