his a good man, he always think what i want first before himself, his a good dad in our 2 kids everybody likes him but at the moment i fancy somebody i knew and i always think about him. what should i do, please anyone help me!
2006-06-21 11:33:38 · 30 answers · asked by Cherie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Having two kids is hard on you. Life is full of responsibility and the grass will look greener on the other side of the fence won't it? All I can say is that it will get easier as the children grow up. Make sure that you still get out and see your friends alone and get out with your partner sometimes , alone. Bein a Mum 24/7 with no chance to express yourself will grind you to the floor. You don't say how long you were with your partner before you married but if you didn't know eachother inside out before you had children it is hard to find your new places in family life while keeping yourselves.....does that make sense?
2006-06-22 06:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My guess is you have reached a boredom point. you do the same thing over and over-no day any different than any other. Been there, done that. Especially if you have young children. There is nothing wrong with your husband--you already know what a good guy he is. Thinking of someone different is exciting to your mind...please keep it in your mind. You will regret making the "other guy" choice. That is a place where no good will come from it. It never does. you are a lucky woman to have such a wonderful husband. Play in your mind those same thoughts you are having-----except put your husband in your shoes. It is not worth it. Find something different to do, a hobby or new interest---or just take more time for you and your husband. Trust me on this one. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence--until you have to mow it.
2006-06-21 11:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by mama2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you feel but the fact is you are married with children and a loving husband. there is no excuse for feeling otherwise. this happens to people sometimes but i can tell you that the main reason why you seem unhappy at the moment is because you fancy someone else at the moment and you feel as if your marriage is the object of your unhappiness.
everyone(almost) feels the same at one point in their marriage. the main fact is you have to forget this other somebody no matter how hard. even if you decide to leave your husband and be with the other, you will still feel the same way at one point for another orb even your present husband. so you wouldn't want to be led by your canal mind all the time in your life.
stay with your family because sometimes our heart bits at an impulse that we can't always follow so we need to use our brains and learn from the lesson of consequences,which can be very costly sometimes.
come on you know what to do ,take a deep breath.
2006-06-21 12:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by oceantwins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to feel attracted to other people, always friends or colleagues, don't know why just people you see regular and have that niceness about them. but nearly everyone changes in a relationship, especially with kids and bills so you would probably end up in the same situation as you are now no matter who it was with. unless there is something badly wrong with your husband and it doesn't sound like there is. you either got to get it out your system and have some secret fun for a short while and hope that the guilt won't set in then live happy where you are, or buckle down and make an effort and wait for this to happen again!! I dunno. I do think the kids are more important than a quick jump. They get the s**t life for your itchy feet. but i understand where your coming from. Sorry this is too long.
2006-06-21 11:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by One n' All 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you need to take a break away from everything and everyone apart from your husband and you need to be reminded of why you married your husband in the first place.
Maybe you should think about booking you and your hubby a few nights away from where you live and away from the people that you know and the surroundings that you are used to, As believe it or not just getting away for a night or a few can really do the world of good for both yourself and your relationship. So get away be reminded of why you married him and then decide what you feel is best for you.
Also have you tried talking to him and letting him know how you are feeling at the moment? As this might make a difference- perhaps you are feeling a little neglected in your relationship at present and you need to be reassured that he still Love's and wants to be with you,i think you could also be looking for a bit of fun,being married is a huge commitment and can take allot out of a person. So talk to him let him know how you are feeling and get away for a night or even a few night's just the two of you and see how that goes. Remember it may just be that you unconsciously want a bit of fun in your life or are unconsciously feeling that he might not want you anymore, so are consciously acting out your fears!
But seriously get away for a few nights.
GOOD LUCK, hope it all works out for you.
2006-06-21 11:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is perfectly normal. i think every wife has gone though that sort of experience at least once in their lifetime.
so you fancy someone else right? but just think about it.
do you wanna lose your husband for good? if you had an affair with the guy you fancy you would ruin your marriage and you might lose your husband forever.
does the affair worth the risk? what about kids? you would lose all trust from them. don't you wanna be a good mom ?
just do something that inspire you like old days. try new things with your huband. go romantic getaway , exchange a card every month, buy a sexy dress and go to a bar. you can list hundreds of things. just use your imagination or ask advices from your friends.
good luck!
2006-06-21 11:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ caramel_bonbon ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all one time or another try to look back on something or someone on a what if type of deal.. BUT when you look at life as it is, you have to ask yourself is the change worth what I have now? If you decide to take a peak and see what you shouldn't have you might lose everything that is good for you.. The Past is just that the past, you have a full life ahead of you enjoy it with the family as a whole. Make your own dream land with the man that stole your heart in the first place...PS Increase your sex life with your husband if you have to get a tab bit freaky do that enjoy him why you got him. he could start looking at other woman and wondering if....then you would be pissed so keep in real and stay true to yourself
2006-06-21 11:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by M M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think it could be a female health issue? Why not get a complete physical done by a woman physician? Your iron could be low, causing you to be tire and feeling this way. Or you could be pregnant again!!! hehehe
It's a lot of work and responsibility to care for a family. I don't know if you work or not, but try to do something different for yourself, if your health is good. Go see a doctor though to make sure you aren't having any medical problems.
And remember, those babies need you too! So rest up, wash your face, do a little dance and be happy!
2006-06-21 13:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're probably going through a phase in marriage. Maybe you are thinking of someone else because you feel the grass could have been greener on the other side. You got a good man which these days are very hard to find, stick with him , be faithful to him, work on your marriage, talk to him. Most important find your independence and do things to make you feel happy. Some things you really have to work at ,and marriage is one of them!!!
2006-06-21 11:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is perfectly normal. I've felt that way before. You might just be bored in your marriage. Do things that can spark it for you again. Go out on a date. Pretend he's still corting you. It'll be worth it in the long run. Because if he leaves, like my husband did for a bit, you'll regret it. Especially if there is so much good in him. I regreted it with all my heart. It would hurt to see another couple go through it. And what if he doesn't come back? Is it really worth it?
Stay true to your vows, you'll be thankful later.
2006-06-21 11:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋