What would you do?

Question

What would you do if you were 15 and pregnant? How do you think your parents would react? Would you keep the baby or abort it even if your boyfriend was gonna stay with you and help you raise it? Also, how come after so many girls/young women get pregnat, how come the guys always leave them to fend for themselves. They're just proving that they're too young/immature to be having sex in the first place....

I really don't have a trusting realtionship with my parents. My mom claims she trusts me, but being brainwashed by my dad all the time, I know she doesn't. I don't really get along with either of my parents that much....which is my fault.

Answer 1

hmm if he loves you and his kid he will be there with you

Answer 2

Sweetie...I am 26 yrs old and I have 3 kids. The last one (now 1) was a complete surprise. We were poor to begin with and I really didnt think that we would ever be able to raise yet another child. I made the appointment at the clinic to have the abortion....I just couldnt do it!! The thought of playing God's role in life and deciding whether a human being died or lived gave me nightmares! I had a miscarriage once and I have also known women who have had abortions....the grief of losing a child is still there...except when you have a abortion it's worse...because you are the reason that child doesnt have a life. The love you feel for your child after it is born is incredible. There is no other feeling like it. Even if you give it up for adoption would be better than having an abortion, but then you have to think of where your life may be in the next 10-20 yrs. ...what happens when you have more kids and you have an empty feeling inside of you because you know that somewhere is a part of you not knowing where they belonged or came from. My point is this...where there is a will there is a way!! I never said that raising a child was easy...but you learn as you go. As far as parents go...they might be upset for awhile, but when they see that baby and realize that they're grandparents, things may change. Whatever the situation is I hope you the best of luck, and hope I helped.

Answer 3

This is really a serious question..In the first place..there's not information about the "parents" like how (I'm assuming this is you or a friend) get along with their parents..how is the communication?? Actually..I think that a fifteen year old would have benefitted from the ability to talk with her Mom about sex, pregnancy..abortion..It's late to be asking these questions. If this is you..and you clearly don't have an open and trusting relationship with your parents..I'd seek help for a professional. Lay it all on the line..including your mixed feelings and fears..and trust them to help..Also..You'll KNOW if the person you see if someone you can trust..sometimes you have to try a couple of times before you find the right support..the person you can trust. I wish you well. I truly do.

Answer 4

Truly...i don't know what i would do...probably adoption. I was adopted and i know that sometimes its for the better, my mom didn't have a choice and you do. Now days you can find the parents yourself and some parents will even let you stay in contact with your child. That's what i would do...it would be so hard and i would probably cry...lots...but in the end you have to think what is best for the baby, not for anyone else.
Also guys leave is because they can't handle it most of the time, if he loves you he will accept any choice you make, weather its abortion ( which i personally don't agree with) adoption, or keeping it yourself

Answer 5

If you have an OK relationship with your parents, you need to discuss this with them. You need to find out if they will help you (and you will need their help, whatever your boyfriend does).
Then, you need to talk to your boyfriend and make plans. Work, school, where you'd live, what you'll do. Make them realistic plans, including juggling baby and school, because you sure as hell don't want to drop school, either of you. You'll resent each other later if you do.
If it works out, my hat is off to you.
My personal move would be to abort, after having a mature discussion with the boyfriend about the options (see above). It's your body and your life that will change forever. He can always leave later on when the strain gets to be too much.
Know that if you do abort, it doesn't mean that you're evil. But it is a hard decision that should change the rest of your life: make sure you never have an unplanned pregnancy again. You got your condoms, your pill (PLanned Parenthood helps financially), etc.
Good luck!

Answer 6

Abortion is NOT the answer. You will regret it for the rest of your life. You will always wonder what the baby would be (boy or girl). You will always wonder how they would have turned out when they grew up. Two of the worst days of EVERY year for the rest of your life will be the day you had the abortion and your due date, because you will remember the baby you never had but should have. If you decide you can't raise the baby then there are thousands of people out there that would make awesome parents, but can't have children of their own. Go with adoption.

Answer 7

this is tough. my brother had a little boy about a year ago. the thing is that you never realize how difficult it can be to be a young person with a child. he has his son mostly on weekends and work strange hours all week. the mother of his child takes care of him the rest of the time but she still hasn't graduated high school yet because she has to care for the baby. you have to do what you feel right doing. but i can't pretend like it will be fun or easy. and hopefully you have family that will support you in caring for the child. they don't need to like it that you have a baby, but they need to love you no matter what. if you don't think you have that, you may want to think about either the option of abortion, or if you can have the baby there are plenty of people who can't and would love to adopt a healthy child if you fell like it wouldn't be right for you to keep it. i hope that helps at least a little

Answer 8

my daughter saw 3 girls from her 8th grade class have babies,
I asked her if that was a good thing: she said no. and I said right, but since they are; they will do ok, and that she could come to mom even if she was.
she is 16yr and IF she became pregnant I would definetly SUPPORT HER and DEFINETLY TELL HER NEVER TO HAVE AN ABORTION, YOU WILL ONLY REGRET IT ALL YOUR LIFE!!!
I did, because the guy I was with made me think it would be the best thing for all of us, but I, me alone, still have dreams and nightmares and wishes, even after 5yrs after the fact.
most guys run after they realize the baby is very hard to care for. and they are not ready to care for it. so they leave.!!!
they say they will stay but when you are 5 months along, or after the baby is out(it becomes real for them) they run!!! scared!!!

it takes money and lots of PATIENCE to raise a child, dont forget you need to put them through school and teens dont realize that part of it, they just see the first 9 months, not AFTER it comes out!!! and their parents didnt teach them anything!!!

Answer 9

Talk to mom.

Take whatever she dishes out, unless you KNOW she'll really kill you.

When deciding what to do keep in mind that guys are good at getting you in trouble, but bad at staying around after, but some are good at both (not many)

Most of us are self centered and being tied to a gal, not being able to sow our oats, creates an incentive to re-evaluate our relationships. Also remember that the ties between a dad and his child differs significantly form between a mom and her kid.

Stick to no sex before marriage and you'll find a lot less guys are interested.

Answer 10

Well If I was 15, I would go to my mom and sit and have a long talk with her. If she loves you, then she should be behind you all the way. I would not abord the baby as it maybe the only child you can have. I would ask my mom to help me with the baby and let her know how deeply sorry you were not to have taken precautions. If the guy who got you pregnant wants to help you out then take his help. I think if you pressure him he will abandon you. Let him come to you. You are going to give life to something beautiful.......take care of him/her with or without his help.

Answer 11

ok well if i was id be scared amybe even terrified... but you have to overcome that fear think things through and be ready to face wats ahead of you. my parents would freak.. but mostly likely after a little bit they would calm down. all parents love their kids even if something bad happens thats when theyre msot useful.. talk to them they will try to make things better and they will help you through everything. i would definatly keep the baby. and if not then give it up for adoption. no matter what! i would NOT have an abortion!! i dont think id be able to live with myself. but thats me. i mean soo many women regretted having abortions and this baby is a gift and it deserves to live! many guys choose to abandon their girlfriends because they are scared... 15 16 17 18 19 20 even upto maybe 23 year old guys arnt ready to face the fact that they will have a baby and that they will have to give up huge parts of their lifes for it. usually they make a rash decision and decide to run from their problem instead of facing it.

now if you are pregnant then u have to and i mean HAVE TO talk to your parents!! no matter wat!! they will know wat to do. and they will be there for you. then you would have to talk with yourr boyfriend and his parents. all of you would have to agree n wats the best thing to do. and then move on from there!

and this isnt the worst thing in the world. you will get through this. i promise.

good luck and best wishes