Please PLEASE ANSWER THIS!!!I really need an answer!!!?

Question

Should I CALL him?

I haven't spoken to my ex for a year and a couple of months..Last time I saw him, he was with the same girlfriend on and off of 6-8 months (not sure). I want to talk to him again, maybe start being friends again..I don't know if I should call him or not??!!Do you guys think it'd be weird if I call him?What would his reaction be?Is this a good idea or not?I mean it has been over a year!Give me some ideas!!THANKS

Answer 1

Stay away. If you call him here is what he will hear:

"Hi, I know we're all broken up like a million years ago, but I just want you to know that I'm pathetic and can't seem to get over you.

Not minor league pathetic, like I got drunk one night and called you and then regreted it the next day, FULL BLOWN PATHETIC because I planned the whole call and weighed the pros and cons and still voted to trash my dignity".

In response he will either be rude to you on the phone, or be polite and you will get the totally wong idea just to embarrass yourself more later on.

No matter how you feel or why you are calling him, this is what he will hear, then he will tell his girlfirend, and they both will have a good laugh at your expense.

I just don't think it's realistic to expect any different outcome.

Answer 2

In general, you sure should be able to call him if you were together. If you have a history, just calling to see how he has been doing is reason enough>
BUT.......
shouldn't the fact that you're asking complete strangers questions on the internet about your love life be a clue that maybe you don't have the maturity to deal with an adult relationship and you gotta get some things in order first?

Answer 3

without knowing your situation, i cant really give advice on what to do, but i do know that i have an ex or two that i never want to talk to again. theres one girl that i dated who turned out to be pretty much a nutcase, and every once in a while for the last few years, i'd run into her somewhere. she'd always come running over and be like "can we talk?? i'd really love to get together sometime...blah blah blah".

she turned out the the fakest person i'd ever met in my life, and she has no direction at all. i literally told her "listen, i dont trust you to be part of my life" many times, and she still didnt get it. i eventually told her "i dont even trust you with a bucket of piss".

the thing that really really pissed me off was that she didnt have any respect for the relationship i have with my new girlfriend. i really felt it was disrespectful that she'd just come up to me and tell me how much she wanted to try talking about things, even though she knew i couldnt stand to be around her, and i was in a happy relationship.

so, before you call him, think about if he'd really want to hear from you. theres a good chance that he's moved on and is at a good place in life. if he's been with the same girl for 6-8 months or so, even if it is on/off, i'd think that he's moved on. i hope i dont ruin your day with this stuff, its just that you might already be "the enemy" in his head, or "oh yeah... her...."

Answer 4

If u feel like the 2 of u can be friends without killing each other, then call him. If u just want 2 be friends, then don't worry about if he has a girlfriend or not

Answer 5

i think that you shouldnt call him and even though you say you want to be friends there will be feeling's involved and emotions
and if he's got a girl there really isnt no need for a ex girlfriend to be involved in his life even if you do want to be "friends"
ur better off just letting go i mean you can meet alot of freinds and a ex isnt really a good person to have as a friend believe me

Answer 6

send him a text message first and tell him u want to be friends again and see how he reply's to that, at least that way u will know if he wants to speak tp you again and u won't feel nervous for calling him. but then u could just call him and say hi, u will never know, if wants the same if u dont.

Answer 7

Sometimes ex-whatevers can be HOSTILE! It sounds like you should just move on. Do you have a reason to think it would work this time? My suggestion is to get over him.

Answer 8

Don't. You'll never be able to be true friends or rekindle any sort of a relationship (which is what you're secretly hoping for). Just move on.

Answer 9

I couldn't even bring myself to read your entire question. Get over him, get over the drama and go find a hobby. Guaranteed your are wasting too much time on him.

Answer 10

Did you break up on good or bad terms?? I say go for it..... you'll never know if you don't try. No matter what happens you will have an answer and you won't have to sit around wondering what if......