okay me and my husband have been seperated for 9 months, and i am back, have only been back for 6 days, 3 of the 6 he works 12 hour shifts. 2 of the other days he goes to the gym for "its only an hour" that = 20 mins to drive, and hour to work out, 20 mins to drive back, 15 mins to shower and clean up......he knows i have problems when hes gone, and he still leaves. what should i do?
2006-06-21 11:05:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont mind the fact that he goes to the gym, and i would go with him if we could afford another 55 dollars a month.....its that i've just gotten back, and he stil ldoesn't want to spend time with me....oh and i left becuase he got someone else pregnant.
2006-06-21 11:12:56 · update #1
OMG get over it, so he takes care of his body, why don't you try going to the gym with him next time!!!
2006-06-21 11:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Jennifer♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have an insecurity issue. If this is the problem, go to the gym with him! If you are uncomfortable and he's sincere about reconciling, then you and he going together shouldn't be a problem. You don't have to work out too, you could just go along. Or find a craft club or something that meets at about the same time and have him drop you on the way and pick you up on the way back. That way, you are with him on the way to and from and you are occupied while he is actually working out.
2006-06-21 11:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by stewbdoosmrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but that sounds super needy. He spends all day working 12 hour days. Then if he wants to go to the gym for an hour (probably to look and feel good about himself) then he should be able to! You are a grown woman and he cannot be there for you 24/7. Sorry to be so tough on you, but you really need to lighten up on him or you are going to have major relationship issues.
2006-06-21 11:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your problems are life-threatening, respect his time at the gym. He needs to have some time to himself, doing something for himself, so that when you do need him - he can be there for you without getting burned out or overwhelmed. If it's truly unbearable being without him, and if he doesn't mind you going along, then join the gym and work out, too.
2006-06-21 11:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is getting back at you for leaving him, He may be having an affair but think that he is justified as in his mind he thinks you've been having an affair while you've been gone.
If you want to start over with your husband do so, but don't make the same mistakes you made the first time.
2006-06-21 11:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 23:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you get used to it! i also work out on a regular basis and it takes at least 1 hr to get a good one in, not including the drive to and from. as you said, you were seperated for 9 months, so him working out should have been a plus for you, having something new to come home to, meaning his shape and stamina.
2006-06-21 11:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you obviously have to sit and talk with eachother to see where the two of you stand on your relationship, i dont know why you were gone for that long but i have a hunch that it has to do with every reason why he is treating you the way he is, maybe the spark is gone, it is up to you to sit with him and figure it out and do what is right for the both of you, even if its not what you want. good luck i wish you well.
2006-06-21 11:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling. Both of you together and/or you about your control/insecurity issues.
This seems to be a bit harsh as I read what I have written so if you think that it doesn't apply to you (please think twice), just ignor this comment because I reaaly don't know you well enough to give you advice.
2006-06-21 11:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by RunningUte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drive by the gym one day when he's suppose to be there if he is then start believing in him.
2006-06-21 11:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋