Should I CALL him?
I haven't spoken to my ex for a year and a couple of months..Last time I saw him, he was with the same girlfriend on and off of 6-8 months (not sure). I want to talk to him again, maybe start being friends again..I don't know if I should call him or not??!!Do you guys think it'd be weird if I call him?What would his reaction be?Is this a good idea or not?I mean it has been over a year!Give me some ideas!!THANKS
2006-06-21 10:43:41 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i really dont know, because if you call him it may seem that you want him back. so thats out of the question, yet before you make a move to be friend ask yourself this...do you seek his friendship or somthing more. because if its more, then i'd more likly advise that you keep your peace and move on without. if its for the firast then, maybe it would be more considering if you met him at random, like at a mall, store or video place and ask if he would like for you guys (include his girlfriend or it might seem weird and awkward) to hang out, and become friends. good luck...
2006-06-21 10:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call him up go for it. Especially if u just wanna be friends. I am friends with a lot of my exes some take longer to be able to talk to again than others. Depending on the circumstances of the break up there can be a real good basis for friendship there just make sure you are completely over him and that all those old feelings will not come flooding back
2006-06-21 10:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question is did he drop you or did you drop him? That will set the tone. If you dropped him you'll have to do some serious groveling and he may have been hurt so much that he wouldn't want to start up again.
Then, again, if he dropped you... well you'd still be in the underdog position.
If it was a kind of mutual drifting apart, you never know. Maybe you both have matured some and the spark could be reignited. Unfortunately whatever caused you two to split in the first place will always be a problem and you might ask yourself why you would even want to pursue this because you could just be spinning your wheels.
2006-06-21 10:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by xawboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That chapter of your life has closed. It is easy for us to look to the past in times of emotional need - it is less work than starting something new.
If he is with someone, she will not like his becoming friends with an ex. If he is not with someone he will think you are calling to hook up with him.
Save yourself the trouble and possible embarassment and just don't do it. Something new is on it's way for you.
I always find that just before i get what i want (in love or business, etc.) I will be tempted to go backward to something that is easy and instant gratification. If I give in to temptation I am quickly unhappy and that much further from getting what I was so close to having before I caved in.
Be strong. Be patient. Love is just around the corner for you, my dear, and the new is always greater than the old - if only because we know one more thing we won't settle for!
Instead of calling him, maybe you should be thinking about the things you didn't like about him or remembering what you learned in that relationship.
2006-06-21 10:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two sides to this solution. On one hand, I don't believe in opening up old chapters. If it didn't work the first time it probably won't work the 2nd or 3rd. On the other hand, many things can change in a year. Who knows, maybe he thinks about you still. If you do call him out of the blue, just claim you'd been thinking about him and found his # rummaging through some things. By the way...why do you still have his #??? LOL
2006-06-21 10:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by all_this_yella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you know him well enough ( and depending on how things were leading to the break up) you know how he'd react if he heard from you. relax, think it over a bit, and call him! i'm sure he'd be glad you did & there's nothing wrong with keepig in contact with your ex's. as long as you have somethings understood, like he does still have a gf. or to your luck, since your not sure and you've obviously been wanting to talk to him again, he might be available:) if you still want him. if not, still call him. don't let the past ruin the future....you never know what might happen in the furture and you don't want to continue wondering.
2006-06-21 10:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by jmayerlicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me and understand he is your X and you have to move on with your life, also if he has someone else then let sleeping dog lie, Please save yourself from more heart ache, find someone new and let hope that this new relationship will go better for you. Another thing to remember is that love is a wonderful thing and it make you feel bad when you waste it, so move on and get that love working again on something worth while.
2006-06-21 10:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now would actually probably be a good time to call him. A year is plenty of time for things to cool off and for you to try a friendship.
2006-06-21 10:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might react impressed and on the first call won't talk at all but its probably because he hasn't seen u in a yr.....Start a converstation and ask him if he could call u back and if he does well......i guess he still wants a relationship with you
2006-06-21 10:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by ms. vengueance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you want to call him, then go ahead and call him. For some reason he is preying on your mind. Get it out of your system, and who knows? You guys might be really good friends.
2006-06-21 10:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by moveplease 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋