I know that I no longer have any of the same feelings that my husband has. I have asked for a seperation and he says that he isn't going to walk out on our kids and I just can't seem to make him understand that's not what I am asking him to do. I just truely feel that we aren't helping ourselves by living togather and constantly fighting. We are both really stressed out and this point and I think that a seperation would be the best choice right now because I can't say that I am 100% ready for a divorce. What do you do?
2006-06-21 10:36:13 · 20 answers · asked by what to do? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why dont you ask on how you can make your marriage better? Or how you can change the fighting into great love making moments? Dont you remember the night you both of you took your vows? The nights you both spent together and made those beautiful kids? the times you spent together away from all those problems?
If theres problems, solve them.. DONT RUN AWAY FROM THEM. If marriage was not a beautiful thing, God wouldnt have created it and made so many people happy. Every problem got a positive solution rather than something negative and destructive. Keep your faith in God and believe in yourself for your sake and your kids.
2006-06-21 11:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by Zwerg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you shouldn't of signed that contract that said "forever in sickness and health"; but hind sight is 20/20. What you need to do is think of your children...they are the ones who are most affected in a divorce or separation. You should really think about toughing it out until your kids are grown and gone. Try sleeping in separate parts of the house, go out and do your own thing, encourage him to do the same...perhaps you will eventually find the magic that created those three beautiful kids.
2006-06-21 11:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by sylvergyrlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you what to do... look those 3 kids in the eye and ask yourself whether you could stab them with a knife in the heart.
Figure out why you're "constantly fighting" and quit being so immature both of you.
You know, I never had the same feelings as my wife... I just never was in love with her like she is with me. We also have 3 kids, and there is no way on earth I could look at my kids and tell them "I'm not happy with your mommy, so I want her to go away so I can find another mommy".
2006-06-21 10:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to the fighting thing. look if he says no, then maybe you have to leave for a little while. Just see if he can handle a week or two without you. I know it sounds mean leaving the children and your husband but sometimes we have to do what we as women need o do to get our hearts and mind in tact. I go to school twice a week to get away. Just pray and ask God for the guidance you need to make through this trying time.
2006-06-21 10:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by keeping UP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you want to do. Maybe you should just seperate for a while instead of a divorce. Divorce means final. Do you think you could handle that?
2006-06-21 10:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by jameslarkins05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u 2 take vacation together just the 2 of u and see how things work out or u go away for the weekend say a girls weekend out with your closet friends u 2 need a break or havehim do something 1 weekend with his buddies
2006-06-21 10:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go on a date with your hubby and take that time to talk about things that you can't with kids at home. I know that it help in mine one day out of a month that's all. We found out that we still love each other very much we still go out on dates now we love this time alone try it could help good luck
2006-06-21 10:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by HONEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I liked Pablo answer, I am almost in the same situation my wife didn't love me the way she use to be(if she ever loved me), she kind of hinted for divorce more than one time. it is OK for me to have divorce, but when I come home and see my children waiting for me I can take anything, just to let them happy
2006-06-21 11:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by m h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you always do what your husband tells you? Tough for him if he doesn't want a divorce. You can't be forced to stay with someone because that is what they want. How cares? You want out, get out. He still gets to see his kids and be their dad.
2006-06-21 10:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the divorce if thats what you want. Just remember kids see everything and thats what you want to show them as a healthy relationship?
2006-06-21 11:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by canuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋